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Originally posted by: asmi_joya

When Samrat decides to give her a divorce, what will Sai want to do ? I dont want them to copy KD entirely when it comes to Rono and KD..Rono was found by Emon holding RK's hand explaining her something..I suppose..

I didnt understand zillat confrontations yaar. but Rono holding RK's hand is out of pure concern. The next day after Virat falls sick, he will ask emon to go to college. Emon will be sad and friends take her to coffee shop. RK would have asked Rono to meet her in the same coffee shop to discuss her future(may be). She wallows in her pain, but Rono tells her he loves emon. This is the most clear confessoin of him in front of pakhi. When she says about zimmedari and all, Virat says love is beyond anything. So RK breaks down, and he pacifies her by placing his hand on her.(like any person ). Just then Emon comes and sees this. He will know emon will MU him, and he is already broken anyways. So he comes to her and says not to tell what she saw to Samrat because it might give him more reason to divorce. But emon takes it differently. Then she meets DIG to cancel his transfer blah blah....She decides to go away from him, stop studies etc etc. Virat will lose hope and stops fighting for her I guess. He will go silent, but will be asking Sai to not come in between Pakhi and Samrat. I dont know why Sai MUs Virat's silence to be because of Pakhi and Samrat getting together?! Ofcourse, dialogues are not clear to me.

PS: Here Sai's mindset is more clear to me. she finds herself as third person. Her mindset too fertile to sow the seeds of MU easily.

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

When Samrat decides to give her a divorce, what will Sai want to do ? I dont want them to copy KD entirely when it comes to Rono and KD..Rono was found by Emon holding RK's hand explaining her something..I suppose..

Sai will tell Samrat to give a chance to Pakhi but will behave totally against her words when Samrat will ask about her and Virat's relationship.. I actually wanted them to copy Rono's character for Virat now especially the cafe scene.. he didn't give into RK's wallowing and clearly told he moved on and he loves Sai.

Anyway Virat needs not to clear any MU to Sai. Enough he did

I think Sai's mindset gave me some insight into KD plot. Recent fight will have repurcussions on their communication as well.

1. Virat - Samrat conversation now will have some effect on Sai. Virat, after this anniversary fight will not open up (again) in front of Samrat. In KD, he says something about destiny and all which goes RIGHT above Sai's head.

2. That night itself Sai accuses Virat that he is sad that samrat returned and blames him on playing 'safe' with pakhi. I dont know the exact details though. Virat will be very hurt and asks her to not interfere in his personal matters hence forth. This will put her off more.

3. After coming back, with this in mind, Sai tells Samrat that she doesnt have wifely feelings or Virat doesnt have husbandly feelings whatever crap. And Virat hears it and breaks down. takes up the transfer.

Then the above coffee shop scene happens, and Sai might want to leave Virat to make sure that she doesnt come in between them. She will be doing all this for virat. I think she is not bothered about SamRakhi in this track. Virat will be worried about SamRakhi, and Sai will MU.

Cut short, Sai has every reason now to feel as third person. Anniversary fight is very crucial fight in the story. It will mess with their minds.

Originally posted by: AninditaB

Sai will tell Samrat to give a chance to Pakhi but will behave totally against her words when Samrat will ask about her and Virat's relationship.. I actually wanted them to copy Rono's character for Virat now especially the cafe scene.. he didn't give into RK's wallowing and clearly told he moved on and he loves Sai.

Anyway Virat needs not to clear any MU to Sai. Enough he did

Originally posted by: AninditaB

Sai will tell Samrat to give a chance to Pakhi but will behave totally against her words when Samrat will ask about her and Virat's relationship.. I actually wanted them to copy Rono's character for Virat now especially the cafe scene.. he didn't give into RK's wallowing and clearly told he moved on and he loves Sai.

Anyway Virat needs not to clear any MU to Sai. Enough he did

As per me he still needs to tell her about the relationship he shared with Pakhi and what he shares now .I don't think other than that he needs to do anything..He has done enough otherwise and he needs to stop running behind her..

Originally posted by: sadiltl

I think Sai's mindset gave me some insight into KD plot. Recent fight will have repurcussions on their communication as well.

1. Virat - Samrat conversation now will have some effect on Sai. Virat, after this anniversary fight will not open up (again) in front of Samrat. In KD, he says something about destiny and all which goes RIGHT above Sai's head.

2. That night itself Sai accuses Virat that he is sad that samrat returned and blames him on playing 'safe' with pakhi. I dont know the exact details though. Virat will be very hurt and asks her to not interfere in his personal matters hence forth. This will put her off more.

3. After coming back, with this in mind, Sai tells Samrat that she doesnt have wifely feelings or Virat doesnt have husbandly feelings whatever crap. And Virat hears it and breaks down. takes up the transfer.

Then the above coffee shop scene happens, and Sai might want to leave Virat to make sure that she doesnt come in between them. She will be doing all this for virat. I think she is not bothered about SamRakhi in this track. Virat will be worried about SamRakhi, and Sai will MU.

Cut short, Sai has every reason now to feel as third person. Anniversary fight is very crucial fight in the story. It will mess with their minds.

Hmm then this looks like and intersting track..🥺

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

@red Both Sai and Virat are preoccupied and so focused on their feelings that they fail to see the other's feelings or perspectives. I totally get that. I also agree that falling in love is just the first step and they need to go a long way in understanding each other's perspectives and putting each other before themselves. I will even say that they are allowed to be selfish in their love...

But there is a reason I called him a hypocrite.

Virat has serious problems with conflict and setting boundaries - it is because of this weakness that Pakhi walks all over them. He thinks too much about Samrat and Pakhi's tantrums etc and fails to see its affect on Sai. I'll excuse him this mistake for now - even though it will have repercussions in his marriage which he will have to face.

He only talks in jalebis when Sai confronts him about his past. But that again is a result of his inability to talk directly and his preoccupation with his own feelings. I don't really understand this all the time...but again I'll accept it for argument's sake.

In both these cases, he is being insensitive to Sai.... but then we agree that he is not yet there - where he understands and is considerate to Sai's feelings.

But what about when he lets Pakhi into their room? When he goes to Pakhi's room? When he meets Pakhi alone? When he applies ice on Pakhi's hands? When he allows Pakhi to touch him and he touches Pakhi? In all these instances, neither are his feelings involved nor is there a fear of conflict.

He expects fidelity from Sai - to the point that he gets angry when Sai refuses to drop out of fresher's program. Even Sai is preoccupied with her feelings but she takes care to maintain distance with her colleagues and also to clear her stand about her friendship with Aniket and Ajinkya to Virat. My point is when he expects so much from Sai - why doesn't he extend the same courtesy to her? Maintaining distance with Pakhi is something that is not too hard to do - even for Virat. Why doesn't he do it - he doesn't even realise that his actions are wrong. That's where I see his hypocrisy. This callousness continues to this day - holding Pakhi's hand during Harinee birthday or at the dining table. This is what I say is double standards - because it is not coming out of his weakness or a preoccupation with his emotions. It is coming out of entitlement.

I agree 😞.

@bold I have been thinking about this a lot lately. Sai had tried to make him feel better, tried to clarify about Ajinkya and her relationship even on the day he grew mad at her and Ajinkya in their bedroom. She is the one who isn’t even accepting the relationship or keeps repeating that their marriage is a deal but she has always tried to ease out his tension, tried to make him feel secured by clarifying but about her relationship with her friends. She has tried to put his anxiousness to rest even though he has seen her with them only a few times. But he doesn’t think that he should clarify about him and Pakhi in the way he should, doesn’t think that she ought to know what kind of relationship he and Pakhi shares or anything. I was happy when he tried to immediately clarify to Sai that he didn’t feed Pakhi even when Kaku asked him to when he saw that Sai got disturbed when he shared about it with her on the day he gifted her the ruby. I was also happy that he tried to tell Sai that it was all his past and asked her not to take whatever the yoga instructor spoke seriously. But I still think that he has to clear all her confusions, has to make her feel better, has to reassure her of her position in his life.

I can see his hypocrisy, we have had a discussion about it a few weeks back too but I am not able to understand the reason for it. It is like taking it for granted that Sai wouldn’t have issues or she shouldn’t have without his own knowledge. I don’t know.

I am sorry, I didn’t understand what you mean by that it is because of entitlement.

Originally posted by: Rdigest

@bold there's was not even a past story really to narrate. He can actually tell what exactly the silly yoga girl said and that sunny baba told him he was in love🤣 and they never spoke until the wedding. 2 minutes the story will finish and we can see Sai rolling on the floor 😂. Seriously if not Virat I want sunny to reveal their 2 hour story which Didi makes it look like Janam Janam kaa rishta waala Amar prem kahani. Atleast she will understand Didi is dilusional 🙄.

@italic word. He needs to man up. If he had the courage to spew all that BS during the wedding he needs the same courage to clear up the mess he created.

True, but there whole life is in a big mess because of that story 🤦‍♀️.

@last para I agree 😞.

Originally posted by: tptwi

@Bolded: Yes, because to him, his intentions are pure and he cannot look past that. All of these instances that you have described have not been ill-natured on his part. Never once has he even thought about Pakhi in that regard since his marriage with Sai. What makes these actions "wrong" is that they are unfair to Sai, his wife. And again, he is unable to look at this entire mess from Sai's POV. When it comes to his expectations from Sai, that is all his insecurities. I don't think he would be acting this way about her male friends if he knew she felt the same way about him as she does about him. Just look at the difference in which he views Ajinkya now. Before, he couldn't stand the thought of Sai even talking to him, and now he is asking her to buy him a present. Yes, the reason for this is the accident and how close he came to losing her due to his own unacceptable actions... it is unfortunate that that was the trigger required to shake him up from this behavior. But, at the end of the day, he becomes possessive not because of what he expects from Sai, but because of his own fears of losing her and not being enough....with time, this will go away...and in fact, it already has largely due to the severity of the consequences of the Ajinkya kaand. I agree that all of this appears to be hypocritcal on his end, but I think it is a bit more complex than that...

Virat's actions are always complex...But this particular aspect - his over familiarity with Pakhi - has always bothered me.

Let us forget Ajinkya for the time being. Virat now has strong feelings for her and he was very insecure - that was the reason behind him being not okay with Sai talking to him.

But Virat has had this problem since the initial days of their marriage. Case in point - Ameya. Amey was a scoundrel and Sai was only fake flirting with him. Virat got so mad at her. That time he didn't have any strong feelings for her.

I'm not saying that his actions wrt Pakhi were in any way motivated by any remnant feeling. Or that his intentions were anything other than innocent. But it doesn't change the fact that he did cross the line of decorum.

Sai on the other hand has always been mindful of maintaining that decorum - the expectation that comes with her married status. How would Virat have reacted if Sai had invited one of her male friends into her bedroom - even while her intentions were pure? Even if it was early into the marriage, Virat would not have liked it. So when he has that kind of expectations from Sai - of preserving the dignity of whatever relationship they shared - should not he have maintained his part of the bargain too? Again, I'm not questioning his intention, just his actions.

On rethinking this stuff again.....in a way he has unintentionally wronged Samrat too and not just Sai. For example - yoga lovers having emotional phone conversation with Pakhi on Samrakhi wedding night. Not to mention their other moments together. If Samrat had seen Virakhi interactions, just like Sai, he too would have been very hurt, suspicious even. Because their interactions did cross the line a lot of times.

But then Virat does love and value Samrat a lot. And yet, he is totally oblivious to the impropriety of his actions towards the same much-loved brother's wife. So are we to assume that Virat is just too dumb? or that he is a hypocrite?

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

Virat's actions are always complex...But this particular aspect - his over familiarity with Pakhi - has always bothered me.

Let us forget Ajinkya for the time being. Virat now has strong feelings for her and he was very insecure - that was the reason behind him being not okay with Sai talking to him.

But Virat has had this problem since the initial days of their marriage. Case in point - Ameya. Amey was a scoundrel and Sai was only fake flirting with him. Virat got so mad at her. That time he didn't have any strong feelings for her.

I'm not saying that his actions wrt Pakhi were in any way motivated by any remnant feeling. Or that his intentions were anything other than innocent. But it doesn't change the fact that he did cross the line of decorum.

Sai on the other hand has always been mindful of maintaining that decorum - the expectation that comes with her married status. How would Virat have reacted if Sai had invited one of her male friends into her bedroom - even while her intentions were pure? Even if it was early into the marriage, Virat would not have liked it. So when he has that kind of expectations from Sai - of preserving the dignity of whatever relationship they shared - should not he have maintained his part of the bargain too? Again, I'm not questioning his intention, just his actions.

On rethinking this stuff again.....in a way he has unintentionally wronged Samrat too and not just Sai. For example - yoga lovers having emotional phone conversation with Pakhi on Samrakhi wedding night. Not to mention their other moments together. If Samrat had seen Virakhi interactions, just like Sai, he too would have been very hurt, suspicious even. Because their interactions did cross the line a lot of times.

But then Virat does love and value Samrat a lot. And yet, he is totally oblivious to the impropriety of his actions towards the same much-loved brother's wife. So are we to assume that Virat is just too dumb? or that he is a hypocrite?

Even before Virat realized his feelings for Sai, he still felt as if he had rights over her as his husband. In fact, Sai has always felt the same about Virat. Sai was always possessive over Virat when it came to Pakhi. The only difference has been in how they have reacted... and to me, this is because Sai has had her walls up since day 1, while Virat, despite having made the vaada, has been letting himself fall for Sai this entire time. Virat felt as if he could act as Sai's husband... get upset when she was fake flirting over the phone with the scoundrel... why? Because, he has always seen himself as Sai's husband despite the deal nonsense. But with Sai, even though she has been deeply bothered by Virat and Pakhi's interactions, she has never reacted to the same extent... because she has never felt like she has the right to be able to do so. I don't know if this makes sense, but this is what I feel. Virat has left himself entirely vulnerable, but Sai has always been guarded.