Is there a Patralekha in us

Don't get me wrong. I'm not suggesting anything indecent. So try to keep an open mind.

To be honest when I think of Patralekha, the image that comes to my mind is that of still water. Khada pani. One incident happened in her life where she felt helpless, that changed her perspective to see life, that shifted her reality, that made her wear glasses that could see the reality only through those coloured glasses that won't let her se connector completely objectively.

She is stuck in a place where she was helpless. She hasn't come to terms with her reality. She refuses to accept that. Even though she tried. But her subconscious is still stuck there. The moment where Virat chose Sai as his wife. She was helpless and helplessly saw him getting married. When she decided to marry Samrat, she bound herself with his vaada. And later she saw the vaada getting broken and still hasn't come to terms that it is broken. Sometimes, you know the reality, but don't accept it. She saw Virat moving away from her and on with Sai. When she saw them getting married, she felt helpless, rejected. She still harbours the intention of going back to how it was. She still wants to go back to a place where she was not helpless. She still tries to undo what happened. All her actions are getting affected by this desire of hers. Unless she accepts the reality and starts accepting her present reality, all her actions will keep getting affected by this desire. Every time Virat chooses Sai over Patralekha, the emotions, the helplessness, the rejection she felt at the time of Sairat marriage, reignite in her heart and she again feels the same emotions all over again. She again feels helpless and rejected all over again. Gradually anyone choosing Sai over her reignites the feelings of hurt and rejection she felt at the time of Sairat marriage.

Sai too had moments like this. When her Aaba died, it was the biggest jolt she could have. It was difficult for her to come to terms with it. But gradually she accepted the reality and accepted her Aaba for who he is now, a beautiful memory, a constant presence in her life, a lifelong blessing. She also came to terms with her marriage with Virat. And accepted it for what it is. And decided to look past it. But. She is also stuck in the place where Virat told her about the vaada. Whenever anything remotely happens related to Virat Pakhi, she is reminded of that vaada and her vulnerability goes for a toss. She again builds that wall around her. Refuses to see that things have changed. Again tries to shield her heart from hurt. So there's a bit of Patralekha in her too.

I too had a few moments like this in childhood. Where I felt completely helpless. Developed a free negative beliefs about myself as well as the world around me. For years, those moments kept dictating my life. Because I was still stuck in my high school years despite being in college and then University. I was making those decisions not knowing that it wasn't me but those subconscious beliefs making those decisions for me. In still not completely free but I'm at least aware of them now and I try to actively choose otherwise. Sometimes, I succeed, sometimes I fail. And I'm still hurt whenever anything remotely similar happens. And I feel the hurt again which I felt at that time. Whenever anything ignites the emotions I felt at that time, I'm heartbroken again. So there's a bit of Patralekha in me, still.

First step to move on is to be aware. So ask yourself. Did you have anything in your life where your heart got blocked. Where you are stuck mentally. Are those moments still dictating the decisions in your life subconsciously? Think. Are there any particular moments in your present, where you feel a few emotions intensely, which others won't take as seriously, but you do, not because they are worth the intense emotions, but because you are reminded of the hurt, you felt once upon a time. Are there a few emotions you feel over and over again? Different circumstances, same emotions.

Dont wanna share, don't do it. Just ask yourself. Is there a bit of Patralekha in you that is not letting you see the goodness and blessings in your current life? That is not letting you be completely free.

Get rid of it. I know it's difficult. But not impossible. I'm on this journey. And I won't give up. If you are also stuck somewhere, I hope, you also take a journey towards yourself, towards life.

This post is not intended to hurt anybody. But if you are, I apologise.

U are right cheeku We all have some moments in life where We are stuck we are not able to see beyond that I can feel bad for her to an extent but the problem With PP as a character is she does not even want to see beyond that she has got chance but no her life is stucked at yoga resorts and her haldi day, She is not only making her life miserable but others too..

Leave everything aside she spoiled her parents anniversary too

So true. 👏

There are so many instances in life where I know I am stuck in old patterns ..it is actually very difficult to snap out of !

Life challenges ka naam hai

Zindagi mein bohut se aise hadsa hota hai jo Deep hurt kar jata hai woh bakhi rehta hai life long par hum rok toh nahi ja sakte na challenge ko accept kar ke agaye badena hai faith par yaqeen rakhna hai.jo meri kismat mein nahi tha nahi mila yeh soch rahe na chahiye god par believe hona chahiye 😊😊

Pakhi mere liye mental patient hai jo yeh soch rakhti hai main Khush nahin to vah bhi Khush nahin Jo mujhe nahin mila vah use kaise mil sakta hai 💔💔😡yeh thinking rakhne wale kabhi bhi agye nahi badehte hai .

Originally posted by: cheekukabeej

Don't get me wrong. I'm not suggesting anything indecent. So try to keep an open mind.

To be honest when I think of Patralekha, the image that comes to my mind is that of still water. Khada pani. One incident happened in her life where she felt helpless, that changed her perspective to see life, that shifted her reality, that made her wear glasses that could see the reality only through those coloured glasses that won't let her se connector completely objectively.

This is very perceptive. Because, the way the character was introduced, she is nothing like the Pakhi we see today.

She is stuck in a place where she was helpless. She hasn't come to terms with her reality. She refuses to accept that. Even though she tried. But her subconscious is still stuck there. The moment where Virat chose Sai as his wife. She was helpless and helplessly saw him getting married. When she decided to marry Samrat, she bound herself with his vaada. And later she saw the vaada getting broken and still hasn't come to terms that it is broken. Sometimes, you know the reality, but don't accept it. She saw Virat moving away from her and on with Sai. When she saw them getting married, she felt helpless, rejected. She still harbours the intention of going back to how it was. She still wants to go back to a place where she was not helpless. She still tries to undo what happened.

She wants to so very desperately get back to the pre-wedding (hers) life where she could still have the hope to eventually her and Virat finding their way back to eachother.

It was actually very succinctly put today, when she said that she wished Virat had shown himmat when it was needed.

It wasn't Virat who needed to show it, it was her.

All her actions are getting affected by this desire of hers. Unless she accepts the reality and starts accepting her present reality, all her actions will keep getting affected by this desire. Every time Virat chooses Sai over Patralekha, the emotions, the helplessness, the rejection she felt at the time of Sairat marriage, reignite in her heart and she again feels the same emotions all over again. She again feels helpless and rejected all over again. Gradually anyone choosing Sai over her reignites the feelings of hurt and rejection she felt at the time of Sairat marriage.

It is her perceptions of events that she constantly reacts to, not the reality, and hence the out-of-proportion reactions.

She is reacting to the baggage she is carrying.

Sai too had moments like this. When her Aaba died, it was the biggest jolt she could have. It was difficult for her to come to terms with it. But gradually she accepted the reality and accepted her Aaba for who he is now, a beautiful memory, a constant presence in her life, a lifelong blessing. She also came to terms with her marriage with Virat. And accepted it for what it is. And decided to look past it. But. She is also stuck in the place where Virat told her about the vaada. Whenever anything remotely happens related to Virat Pakhi, she is reminded of that vaada and her vulnerability goes for a toss. She again builds that wall around her. Refuses to see that things have changed. Again tries to shield her heart from hurt. So there's a bit of Patralekha in her too.

Very true.

I get angry with Sai too, at how ruthlessly she classifies her husband's attempts to show her his love as care, affection and today, as his soft-corner for an orphan.

But she too is reacting to her perception of their relationship, not its current status, not its reality.

I too had a few moments like this in childhood. Where I felt completely helpless. Developed a free negative beliefs about myself as well as the world around me. For years, those moments kept dictating my life. Because I was still stuck in my high school years despite being in college and then University. I was making those decisions not knowing that it wasn't me but those subconscious beliefs making those decisions for me. In still not completely free but I'm at least aware of them now and I try to actively choose otherwise. Sometimes, I succeed, sometimes I fail. And I'm still hurt whenever anything remotely similar happens. And I feel the hurt again which I felt at that time. Whenever anything ignites the emotions I felt at that time, I'm heartbroken again. So there's a bit of Patralekha in me, still.

We all do, honey... the baggage we carry affects everything we do, and colours our world-view.

First step to move on is to be aware. So ask yourself. Did you have anything in your life where your heart got blocked. Where you are stuck mentally. Are those moments still dictating the decisions in your life subconsciously? Think. Are there any particular moments in your present, where you feel a few emotions intensely, which others won't take as seriously, but you do, not because they are worth the intense emotions, but because you are reminded of the hurt, you felt once upon a time. Are there a few emotions you feel over and over again? Different circumstances, same emotions.

Dont wanna share, don't do it. Just ask yourself. Is there a bit of Patralekha in you that is not letting you see the goodness and blessings in your current life? That is not letting you be completely free.

Get rid of it. I know it's difficult. But not impossible. I'm on this journey.

So very glad that you are... it takes courage to face what is within you, and to move forward, away from it.

Because often times, it is easier and safer to exist in the world you created for yourself rather than face the real world.

And I won't give up. If you are also stuck somewhere, I hope, you also take a journey towards yourself, towards life.

This post is not intended to hurt anybody. But if you are, I apologise.

Beautifully, sensitively crafted!!!

I cannot tell you how much I loved your post ❤️. And the way you have expressed it...felt so close to the heart.

As a character, pakhi has a lot of scope ..unfortunately the actress is unable to bring the nuances out ..the bitter experiences of life turned her into an insensitive soul..I do sympathize with her at times..she is full of poison and virat is also responsible for it..she is stuck , really stuck, with nowhere to go ,there is no happiness for her ,.one way or the other..her worst decision was to marry samrat on virats insistence and vaada. It turned her life around..if she didn't do it ,probably itna kachra na hota uski life ka...she only had a heartbreak to deal with incase she refused to marry samrat but now, it's a lifetime of misery and a loveless life...she didn't think it through..what's her future ? She can't love samrat , she doesn't wanna move out , she lost virat to Sai.. ideally it's easy to suggest a solution for her but it's too complicated for her really..

Nobody is perfect to take right decisions always ..n not everyone can handle the brunt of their wrong decisions too..pakhi is as much a human as virat and sai..Her dynamic makes this story interesting..if we remove her , it's another saas bahu drama.

Nice post👍 I m one of them who likes to understand her. The problem with pakhi is that in her heartbreak she is forgetting her basic humanity . If it had been just a heartbreak and her inability to deal with it , she might get sympathy but she is on revenge mode!

Originally posted by: appisuri

U are right cheeku We all have some moments in life where We are stuck we are not able to see beyond that I can feel bad for her to an extent but the problem With PP as a character is she does not even want to see beyond that she has got chance but no her life is stucked at yoga resorts and her haldi day, She is not only making her life miserable but others too..

Leave everything aside she spoiled her parents anniversary too

And sees the repercussions of her actions.

Originally posted by: scarlett22

So true. 👏

There are so many instances in life where I know I am stuck in old patterns ..it is actually very difficult to snap out of !

I know yaar. It's actually very difficult to snap out of those ugly patterns. But somewhere it has to start. Sometimes it takes more than one new beginning.