Sai .. You are misunderstood!! - Page 2

Originally posted by: Nja91

Beautiful post! I am amazed by how forum junta can analyse the characters so beautifully. I always wonder if makers actually planned these characters with so much depth at all.

But you are right about Sai. Her age, her personality, her values, her background and her current status make her the most endearing characters to me. I jusy wanna hug her and say- go forward girl, you will be fine! I really hope she finds that apnapan, warmth with aai.and virat that she craves.

Also thanks for sharing your own story too. Its brave to be able to do so!

Thankyou Neerja..

You know for a while now, I have wanted to talk about it. I see Sai being questioned for trying to go that route . And I always think does it not happen when you lose your world. Some are too strong to let it go in seconds and some give in. Its always about how much that person meant to you and one would never be able to know apart from the person dealing with it.

I am not very okay with sharing stuffs, I havent in my life shared much about this pain to many around my life. I chose to not talk , however here as well I brought out only the feelings that somehow relates to Sai's feelings for her father and not all my feelings about my father. When that hand is not on you, Life becomes impossible, worthless at times.

I am not sure If i was right talking about my father here, whether Its right to talk about it at all, out in open on a SM forum, for people to judge you, mock you or call you out for gaining something. But today something in me said, just talk what is relatable not everything else and let them take it the way they want to..

Courage to you ❤️

I haven't lost a parent, yet, when Sai talked about having no one in the world, it touched a chord deep somewhere. My eyes couldn't help but become moist. The most heartbreaking thing was Sai asking Ashwini if she was a bad person.😢 Self-doubt can hit the strongest and best of people when they are in pain and desperately in need of support and understanding.

Coincidentally, I've seen a few people who are a bit like Sai - rebellious and quick to anger. They are the most misunderstood kind of people. To hide the pain of rejection, they put up an arrogant front even. Then they get judged all over again.

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

Courage to you ❤️

I haven't lost a parent, yet, when Sai talked about having no one in the world, it touched a chord deep somewhere. My eyes couldn't help but become moist. The most heartbreaking thing was Sai asking Ashwini if she was a bad person.😢 Self-doubt can hit the strongest and best of people when they are in pain and desperately in need of support and understanding.

Coincidentally, I've seen a few people who are a bit like Sai - rebellious and quick to anger. They are the most misunderstood kind of people. To hide the pain of rejection, they put up an arrogant front even. Then they get judged all over again.

Self doubt is so common in so many stages of life, but when you dont have your parent , a parent like Aaba, its on fore front. I have learnt so many things from my father, he would want me to follow that and yet I crave him to come and teach me the same things yet again. Sai has time and again mentioned how everyone in CN thinks she is buri and honestly she is losing that courage and is also tired. Even during SHivratri she mentioned how she is disliked by all. I dont get it how Sonali doesnt feel bad for her.

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Self doubt is so common in so many stages of life, but when you dont have your parent , a parent like Aaba, its on fore front. I have learnt so many things from my father, he would want me to follow that and yet I crave him to come and teach me the same things yet again. Sai has time and again mentioned how everyone in CN thinks she is buri and honestly she is losing that courage and is also tired. Even during SHivratri she mentioned how she is disliked by all. I dont get it how Sonali doesnt feel bad for her.

Yes, her self-doubt is an indication that Sai is losing courage. 💔

I kept wishing that Virat was at the door listening to what she is going through. I don't think he registers that she gets affected by the relentless atrocities she is subjected to - he misjudges that Sai is able to hold her own against his family, and therefore it doesn't affect her.

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

Yes, her self-doubt is an indication that Sai is losing courage. 💔

I kept wishing that Virat was at the door listening to what she is going through. I don't think he registers that she gets affected by the relentless atrocities she is subjected to - he misjudges that Sai is able to hold her own against his family, and therefore it doesn't affect her.

Yes I wished the same and I agree about him taking it too tad bit lightly. He does not understand her in this aspect and hence my post says how only Aai is able to understand her and also know her in and put, about how she seeks love, affection and acceptance. 🥺

Aaaww this made me speechless. Really touched me❤️. Admire you for being able to put it forward because I wouldn't have been able to. Lots of support 🤗🤗🤗

Completely agree with whatever you said! Not only that but even in normal circumstances when a girl leaves her mayka and goes to sasuraal, there's always this kind of formality. I don't know how I will ever be able to trust, to form that kind of bond with people I barely know. How I will ever be able to be myself in front of strangers (am an extremely shy introvert too, I need months opening up).

I remember reading this somewhere, two girls were talking when one girl, newly married, said 'okay am leaving for my husband's home, bye' and the other girl being curious as in why she didn't call it 'my home'. She went and asked her mom and her mom answered that it takes time, lots of time to make someone else's house your own home.

So even in normal situations it's already a big hurdle many women have to overcome, but in Sai's case, it's million times harder, for all the reasons you've mentioned.

I was amazed the first time I saw Sai throwing a tantrum and Aai, Aai handling it so well because that's not how it usually is. She treated her like her own daughter, always. Right now there's no one that Sai shares a similar bond as Aaba, it will take time, but it will be eventually there, with Aai and Virat atleast. In real life, most women don't even get that kind of bond after marriage, it's sad but it's true.

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Yes I wished the same and I agree about him taking it too tad bit lightly. He does not understand her in this aspect and hence my post says how only Aai is able to understand her and also know her in and put, about how she seeks love, affection and acceptance. 🥺

Aai understands her because she has dealt with it too, still does. She does understand to some extent what it feel like getting digged at all the time. Even she was alone when she came in CN, she still is. She may have someone back in her maayka that understands her pain, but she can't always share her pain with that person. And that's the sad reality of many women. Sai, Sai's situation is more difficult than usual. The way she handles, the way she reacts has a lot to do with whatever she has dealt with, losing Aaba, having no one. I'm happy that she got atleast Aai, someone that understands her like her Aaba they may not yet have developed that kind of bond, but the neev is there.

Virat, I was really angered that night when Sai went to hospital to feed him food and when they came back and Sai mentioned about doing household chores otherwise getting taunted 'Tumhara kya hai, tum phataak c jawab dedogi, aur phataak c apne kamre mein chali augi'. He didn't even think once how badly it affects her. Mostly because Sai bottles her feelings up. He thinks she's strong, she can stand up for herself, to isse kya fark padta hai, but that's not true.

Originally posted by: KJSairat

Aai understands her because she has dealt with it too, still does. She does understand to some extent what it feel like getting digged at all the time. Even she was alone when she came in CN, she still is. She may have someone back in her maayka that understands her pain, but she can't always share her pain with that person. And that's the sad reality of many women. Sai, Sai's situation is more difficult than usual. The way she handles, the way she reacts has a lot to do with whatever she has dealt with, losing Aaba, having no one. I'm happy that she got atleast Aai, someone that understands her like her Aaba they may not yet have developed that kind of bond, but the neev is there.

Virat, I was really angered that night when Sai went to hospital to feed him food and when they came back and Sai mentioned about doing household chores otherwise getting taunted 'Tumhara kya hai, tum phataak c jawab dedogi, aur phataak c apne kamre mein chali augi'. He didn't even think once how badly it affects her. Mostly because Sai bottles her feelings up. He thinks she's strong, she can stand up for herself, to isse kya fark padta hai, but that's not true.

I know even I hate it, when he normalises her making extra effort to work for the house into something that all women have the house do. He comes across a chauvinist.But thats how he has grown up.Even after the chilly grinding scene, how he made everything about challenge. Whenever Sai says I have lots of household work to finish and Virat just lets it go with a joke, I feel dejected in him.

Coming to Aai understanding Sai part, I was talking about how Sai feels about herself, questions herself and Aai lets her know that she is duniya ki sabse achi ladki. I dont expect her to understand that, because she had her own Aai atleast to share her worries with. Regarding Sai being tortured well yeah there she would connect for sure.

You see I always feel, when I get married, would I be easily going and opening the fridge to get that bucket of icrecream whenever I feel like, or would I be able to tell anyone there, I want to eat this, cook me that food. The answer always is No. And thats a normal scenario, Sai in general doesnt have the luck to have this normal. Thankfully Aai is there to neutralize some negativity.

Virat, I was really angered that night when Sai went to hospital to feed him food and when they came back and Sai mentioned about doing household chores otherwise getting taunted 'Tumhara kya hai, tum phataak c jawab dedogi, aur phataak c apne kamre mein chali augi'. He didn't even think once how badly it affects her. Mostly because Sai bottles her feelings up. He thinks she's strong, she can stand up for herself, to isse kya fark padta hai, but that's not true.

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Exactly! Shat pratishat i agree. I dont think virat realizes just how traunatizing it is to be ridiculed and insulted on a daily basis. Uske saamne hi itna hota hai toh uske peeche aur kitna hoga. I think he trivializes the discord between her and pp/bk gang as "nok jhok" because she does nok jhok with him. But what the family/pp do is pure hate/vengeance/inhuman. Apart from one time after his return from hospital where he told ninad not to talk to Sai in that tone, he never reprimands anyone even gently for how they address her. They call her jungli mulgi, ae ladki, use the choicest abuses. When our parents/elders scold us at home do they call us ae ladki, ehsaan faramish, matlabi, bojh?!

I was so annoyed in that episode where he said- tumhaara kya hai, fatak seh jawaab dedogi, unn "bicharon" ko kuch samajh nahi aayega. They are not bichare at all. He does not realize that bechari Sai is tolerating them all for his sake. Just coz she does not act "bechaari" like his toxic bff shedding crocodile tears and crying beizzati doesn't mean she is not hurt or affected.

Originally posted by: Nja91

Virat, I was really angered that night when Sai went to hospital to feed him food and when they came back and Sai mentioned about doing household chores otherwise getting taunted 'Tumhara kya hai, tum phataak c jawab dedogi, aur phataak c apne kamre mein chali augi'. He didn't even think once how badly it affects her. Mostly because Sai bottles her feelings up. He thinks she's strong, she can stand up for herself, to isse kya fark padta hai, but that's not true.

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Exactly! Shat pratishat i agree. I dont think virat realizes just how traunatizing it is to be ridiculed and insulted on a daily basis. Uske saamne hi itna hota hai toh uske peeche aur kitna hoga. I think he trivializes the discord between her and pp/bk gang as "nok jhok" because she does nok jhok with him. But what the family/pp do is pure hate/vengeance/inhuman. Apart from one time after his return from hospital where he told ninad not to talk to Sai in that tone, he never reprimands anyone even gently for how they address her. They call her jungli mulgi, ae ladki, use the choicest abuses. When our parents/elders scold us at home do they call us ae ladki, ehsaan faramish, matlabi, bojh?!

I was so annoyed in that episode where he said- tumhaara kya hai, fatak seh jawaab dedogi, unn "bicharon" ko kuch samajh nahi aayega. They are not bichare at all. He does not realize that bechari Sai is tolerating them all for his sake. Just coz she does not act "bechaari" like his toxic bff shedding crocodile tears and crying beizzati doesn't mean she is not hurt or affected.

Such because she answers , can stand against the atrocities strongly that does not make them the victim and her an assailant. I have many times pointed out, how he has never even once asked , not even them being proved as criminals to not call Sai as, ae ladki, jungli mulgi, tukdo par palne wali... How would someone feel on being tortured this way on a daily basis.