Episode spoiler - 17 June 2021 - Page 14

Originally posted by: inlieu

@bold, this cracked me up but it's a great point. He wouldn't have the same excuses in that case and would have taken a different route.

He hates Raghav with all his heart and soul because he's jealous of him man to man, and then because he realizes that it's Raghav's entry and constant presence in Pallavi's life that influence her and eventually helped her fly away. The Raghav Rao he met from day 1 till now has never had filters, barriers, or excuses for what he does. He is open, direct, honest, and very clear about what he wants, without the need to hide behind the facade of goodness or social norms. This isn't something that Sanki can do because he does care what people think and what happens to his 'izzat'.

The best thing about the almost-feet washing episode was that even if he tried his best to break Raghav's 'ghamand' to prove that his 'osool and naariya' about life are not just right but far superior to Raghav's, he was shown his place very well. That's why Raghav's body language as he bent down to wash Sanki's feet was never deflated, defeated, or even the slightest bit submissive. Physically he was on the ground but his dignity just soared and soared. I don't think Sanki expected him to call his bluff as his arrogance soared, and when Raghav did, he basically put Sanki back on earth where he belongs. It was one of the best scenes for me on the show.

Raghav's a good example of apni izzat apne haath mein hoti hai. When he himself has no embarrassment or shame, and rather has pride in doing something to make his family happy, how can that act defeat him?

I noticed something in the scene between Amma and Raghav that was subtle but left a huge impact on me. When they started playing the KGF Maa song, there was a line that came up:

Jab mein ghabraya, tab tu apnaya

Teri chunri hi saaya tha, maa

The irony is that Amma actually wasn't there for Raghav when he needed her most, when he must have been afraid and distraught, broken by what had happened to his family. She never paused to think of the trauma he must have gone through because of the deaths and her holding him responsible for them. I am glad Amma talked about how she failed as a mother as she was the first to abandon him in his bad times. If she hadn't acknowledge it, the reunion and her apology would have seemed incomplete and hollow.

And then these lines that followed that perfectly described Raghav's feelings for his mother:

Mere rag rag mein, tera naam hai maa

Tu hi mere dil ki saans ho maa

Raghav was shunned, abandoned, and ill-treated by his mother but he never stopped loving her, respecting her, caring for her, longing for her, and supporting her silently. He has said a few times that Amma was his jaan and we have seen it time and again. Even after all these years, when she came to apologize, it was as if that 17-year-old Raghav was standing where she had left him, broken, alone, and scared, and he didn't waste a second to hold her tight and bridge both the physical and emotional distance he'd struggled to close over the past decade. It didn't matter how much she had hurt him, he didn't care anymore. His pain just vanished in that instant. It wasn't Raghav coming home to his mother but Amma coming home to her son, because he had always been there, waiting for her, the Amma he had lost and who had lost herself 10 years ago. She had never left his heart and mind in a spiritual sense, and now, finally, she was here physically too.

Props to them for choosing this song for Amma and Raghav in the first place and the way they used it in this scene. It doesn't get any more perfect than this and I do hope we'll see it again in future scenes.

I just got really emotional writing this!

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

Raghav's a good example of apni izzat apne haath mein hoti hai. When he himself has no embarrassment or shame, and rather has pride in doing something to make his family happy, how can that act defeat him?

Completely agree with this! I remember him calling Pallavi out on not having self-respect when the Ds were accusing her during the abortion fiasco. I am so glad both husband and wife have now stripped the Ds of their power to humiliate them.

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

@red- yup, exactly.

@bold- Definitely could be, but also, heights of stupidity on his part. Pallavi would have happily stayed an asset for him and his family had he not just kept crossing limit after limit. Gaddha insaan.

Raghav's arrogance, badtameezi, etc is just an easy excuse for Vijay to pin his hatred. I think he just wanted Pallavi to serve as his son's widow forever- it was the best of both worlds for him, with her fulfilling Mandaar's responsibilities, living with them as his widow, but by doing a couple of visible gestures like calling her 'beti' and letting her wear colors, he also got lots of progressiveness credit. I've wondered before, how would Vijay have reacted had Pallavi met a Star Parivaar Awards ka favorite beta/favorite pati type aadarsh guy, and fallen in love with him or decided to move on in life with him. Sharda would have been elated, but would Vijay's hypocrisy be even more evident, if he didn't have all these reasons and excuses he has for Raghav?

I think he would've been fine if the guy was chosen by Sharda and approved by him because he would've wanted to keep the facade of the progressive father in law intact but if somehow Pallavi had fallen in love with a guy, I think he would've had problems..

Originally posted by: inlieu

@bold, this cracked me up but it's a great point. He wouldn't have the same excuses in that case and would have taken a different route.

He hates Raghav with all his heart and soul because he's jealous of him man to man, and then because he realizes that it's Raghav's entry and constant presence in Pallavi's life that influenced her and eventually helped her fly away. The Raghav Rao he met from day 1 till now has never had filters, barriers, or excuses for what he does. He is open, direct, honest, and very clear about what he wants, without the need to hide behind the facade of goodness or social norms. This isn't something that Sanki can do because he does care what people think and what happens to his 'izzat'.

The best thing about the almost-feet washing episode was that even if he tried his best to break Raghav's 'ghamand' to prove that his 'osool and naariya' about life are not just right but far superior to Raghav's, he was shown his place very well. That's why Raghav's body language as he bent down to wash Sanki's feet was never deflated, defeated, or even the slightest bit submissive. Physically he was on the ground but his dignity just soared and soared. I don't think Sanki expected him to call his bluff as his arrogance soared, and when Raghav did, he basically put Sanki back on earth where he belongs. It was one of the best scenes for me on the show.

Actually since the feet washing day, i’ve been thinking that the writers are going to give some incident as a back story for vijay deshmukhs hatred for raghav.
some of the dialogues like “ur ego is so big that you’d let a dying man just die on the road “ , the constant parent references that they have to listen from the society for having brought a man like him in this world... it cannot just be blind hatred and seems very deep-seated to me. You cannot hate a person to this level without having personally suffered a loss.