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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: sadiltl


As far as I understand the characters.

1. Virat knows Pakhi's feelings. He is not dumb because she tells him directly. So he knows the extent of her feelings too.

2. Sai knows there is a past but not to which extent. So she thinks Virat is emotionally attached to Pakhi.


Now the contention comes when Virat wants Pakhi to be his brother's wife to preserve the family izzat, or for his brothers sake. His brother is married to this woman. No body wants the marriage to break without giving it a chance. Also, divorce is still not a small thing in Indian families. Added to this he knows his brother is a gem of a person so hopes that Pakhi would eventually find happinees. Virat might be thinking about all these things when it comes to Pakhi. Why does he have to? Because he is a family man at heart, he was responsible to get her married to Samrat, and because they did not have chance to explore the marriage. If anyone of this has not played the part, he would have cared less.


Coming to Sai, why he is not clear? He told sai, now not before, there is nothing between them. He meant emotionally and physically too. But is he really comfortable with Sai as a wife to discuss his secrets, like how he fell in love with pakhi and all the Nasik incident. Sai has to make a connection with him as a friend. they are in love and lovers hide their previous crushes for several reasons: could be rejection, to avoid insecurities etc. Virat on the other hand, is trying hard to make their relationship foolproof to all this turbulences. But what the guy is not understanding is Sai's mindset. He does not understand the damage that 'comittment' word caused to Sai's mind. May be Sai is waiting him to be more physical with her as in normal marriage so she can get past the commitment or she wants full confession of love to her. He doesnt think from her perspective.

For him, Sai came into this marriage as deal and because she keeps repeating their deal, he tries to make her fall in love with him and it is taking time. That too given that the ex living in the same space, it is getting even more difficult.


Solution is to sit and talk. But that would end the story. The better way I guess is to show their progression as friends, companions and then lovers. Pakhi can keep adding blockers but the end of it there should be some progression. I just want Virat to stop Pakhi from barging into their room and giving her any importance. He can be courteous to her but ignore her royally. Otherwise, there is no true progression.



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@bold I agree but I think they are way psst that. Both want each other as husband and wife. Virat offered friendship on the MS day since Sai gets a little detached with him sometimes and he wanted to build something between them, give some confidence to her that he will always be there for her.

In the present I doubt if he would want only friendship, he might try to offer it only to remove some roadblocks, so that he can start entering her heart slowly but Sai might not like the idea of friendship because she wants to be his wife and him offering frienship can even offend her. That would make it look that he wants nothing more than that and also for it is not even necessary for them to become friends. Have to wait to see her perspective.


The original question fron Kavitha

"It seems that Virat does not understand Pakhi's intentions while Sai can see it. Or even if Virat knows Pakhi's feelings for him, he denies it before Sai & says it is nothing like that.

He would shout at Sai when she tries to tell him about Pakhi's motives."


Virat now knows Pakhi's feelings and also what she wants. But Virat is still not able to see to what extent Pakhi can go to get what she wants. He has been noticing her activities, her talks and what she is doing to Sai, how much she hates Sai too, what she was trying to do after Sai left to college too but at the same time he feela that is it a temporary one and she will be able to come out of these. He is waiting for her to change her ways and thinks that his warnings will be enough to make her understand. Also, at the moment is more concerned about his and Sai's life than her. He would care for her as a person but would keep trying to tell her that she is just his brother's wife.

Sai, on the other hand has understood the gravity of the situation even more than him because she is facing the wrath of Pakhi's jealoust and hatred. Moreover Sai has always been noticing it and has understood what she wants whereas Virat has just come to know. Sai has spent more time wih Pakhi than Virat at home too. She has not just understood Pakhi's jealousy, understands Pakhi's feelings, hurt and pain as a girl, as a lover too sometimes. If Pakhi was not this vile with her, Sai would have empathised with her and wouldn't have been harsh many times. Sai is also in a turmoil, feels sorry for Pakhi and at the same time becomes a jealous or possessive wife. This avatar comes out when she and Virat would have had made some progress, when she starts to feel that Virat has something for her too, when she starts to live with him like how any husband and wife would do unknowingly, when she starts hoping or living in dreams without her own knowledge.

Now, when Sai can see where Pakhi is moving towards or develops suspicions about Pakhi's moves, there are possibilities that Virat might not agree with her because he wouldn't be able to look at Pakhi as that vile. His first impression about her, some faith that he has on her, his guilt added to to him wanting to give her a benefit of doubt will make him neglect her actions and give her a chance so that she can also have a good future and his brother's life also doesn't get ruined. This is until Virat doesn't witness or face something big. He will understand the severity of the issue only if he gets to face some consequences that are results of Pakhi's actions.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

Interesting discussion. If we look at it Virat has done all the things so far


1. He has been a friend and has asked her to move on ( terrace scene)

And at the same revealed the status of his deal shaadi to bhabhi cum ex, not something an ex would do it an already heartbroken person- giving unnecessary hopes

2. Politely asked her to not wait did him and refused to eat from her hand

Not eating from his ex’s hand is normal. He gets no brownie points foe that

But he also called her pyaari cheez, and said he has pyaar for her in heart

3. Clearly told about his feelings and asked her to move on ( after hand holding scene )

Still apologises and asks her to stay back

Will hold her hand after knowing her intentions

Still calls her a friend - not something someone who wants other person to move on would do

4. Was stern , firm and strongly objected to her advances ( after Pulkit drama )

Oh yes yes. But again goes back to square one by asking oh why is pakhi behaving like this and will silent to protect that vile woman

5. Was indifferent to her ( hospital scene )

Really? He acted clueless and asked why she’s behaving so and so. That woman literally spelled out her intentions a day back. Despite knowing she stopped his wife from meeting him he doesn’t question her, instead thanks her

6. Asked her to knock before entering the room and reminded her of her limits ( account nominee drama )

Once? Twice? And again goes back to acting soft. Will stand silent when bhabhu accuses wife of being selfish but will shut the wife up when she says truth about her not spending anday with Samrat

Despite all this Pakhi comes back without ab ounce of self respect . In today episode, I understand why Virat asked Aai to not stretch it . After a huge confrontation he was mentally exhausted and Sai not informing him was bothering him . He was not ready to talk to Sunny as well . He wanted peace and if Aai had reprimanded Pakhi then she would create more drama and like always family would have intervened and supported her . Virat wanted to avoid all of this . I can relate to Virat’s condition .

if pakhi Returns without an ounce of self-respect, Virat is encouraging her behaviour by acting so soft, apologising and expressing his gratitude. Virat stopped aai from Speaking the truth because he wanted to protect Pakhi. He can stretch his wife’s humiliation and abuse but he can’t stretch his aai showing Patralekha the mirror? Oh God the hypocrisy and double standards. He wants peace I mean he is the one who breaks the peace always. If you wanted peace he should have opened his damn mouth and told the truth about his past and present. I can never relate to this spineless creepy toxic abusive person’s condition because he got it on himself. Even Kaku and Aai seemed to accept his past so why was he hesitating to accept it then? Virat just wanted to avoid accepting his mistake and he successfully did that and in the process made Sai look like a liar

Added a few diff POV’s to the post in bold

Edited by Niranjan256 - 4 years ago
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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: Athiraachu

women like pakhi can ruin any man's life....pathetic is her life....

her character has hit the deepest ground...with no morals...nothing ....

virat has shown pakhi her place many times...he didn't give into her emotional drama...

she tries to guilt trip him...quoting samrat...

virat has been stern with pakhi...she has no shame

virat has been indifferent with her....she doesn't budge

virat tries to reason with her...she is no mood to listen

virat tries to be calm and logical with her...she takes advantage of his goodness...

virat tried every method with her...but women like pakhi are so shameless that...they won't understand all this....

What can any man do with such a woman...unfortunately here happens to be his sis in law...and it really cost him his brother...he is guilty...but till samrat comes..virat is trying every way to be civil ....

somewhere i understand his helplessness...he is in a very bad state...


Yes, i totally agree. Any man would go mad if they come across a woman like her.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Virat still lacked one thing. He should openly call her bhabhi or vahini.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: Mages


exactly...

the issue with virat he is too soft in nature he can't see anyone hurt even the person is his enemy and this women is his elder bro's wife whom he idolize thus he is giving her the respect and make sure in the absence of his brother,his bro's wife is not uncomfortable in his home that she needs to pack her bags to her maternal. Didi is taking advantage of his soft nature and virat needs to understand that


he knows her motive and intention but he could not see that she is taking advantags of his nature

Yes, but he shouts and Sai and hurts her. He takes her for granted.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Like everyone else, I want him to stop Pakhi from talking badly to Sai, locking the door. If it means he has to protect them like he's protecting them from a stalker, so be it. His boundaries should be clear.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: Athiraachu

women like pakhi can ruin any man's life....pathetic is her life....

her character has hit the deepest ground...with no morals...nothing ....

virat has shown pakhi her place many times...he didn't give into her emotional drama...

she tries to guilt trip him...quoting samrat...

virat has been stern with pakhi...she has no shame

virat has been indifferent with her....she doesn't budge

virat tries to reason with her...she is no mood to listen

virat tries to be calm and logical with her...she takes advantage of his goodness...

virat tried every method with her...but women like pakhi are so shameless that...they won't understand all this....

What can any man do with such a woman...unfortunately here happens to be his sis in law...and it really cost him his brother...he is guilty...but till samrat comes..virat is trying every way to be civil ....

somewhere i understand his helplessness...he is in a very bad state...


Why, is it uncivil to lock or at least close the door of one’s own bedroom?

Is it uncivil to address one’s brother’s wife as Vahini?


These, at the very minimum, are 2 things that Virat can do well within the bounds of civility. Yet he is not doing them. So how can we say he is only trying to be civil?


My humble opinion is he likes Sai & is attracted to her pretty much in the same way he was to Pakhi earlier, he does not feel a fully committed love for Sai nor is he fully over Pakhi. He is confused, insincere & easily influenced.


Edited by Bana - 4 years ago
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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: Bana


Why, is it uncivil to lock or at least close the door of one’s own bedroom?

Is it uncivil to address one’s brother’s wife as Vahini?


These, at the very minimum, are 2 things that Virat can do well within the bounds of civility. Yet he is not doing them. So how can we say he is only trying to be civil?


My humble opinion is he likes Sai & is attracted to her pretty much in the same way he was to Pakhi earlier, he does not feel a fully committed love for Sai nor is he fully over Pakhi. He is confused, insincere & easily influenced.


Agree with you. Leave alone Vahini,he can’t even address her with her full name Patralekha!

I think you are right. He still is in confusion and did not completely fall in love with Sai. Atleast he didn’t feel commited to protect her in public space but totally into protecting Pakhi and her honour even before Sunny.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: Bana


Why, is it uncivil to lock or at least close the door of one’s own bedroom?

Is it uncivil to address one’s brother’s wife as Vahini?


These, at the very minimum, are 2 things that Virat can do well within the bounds of civility. Yet he is not doing them. So how can we say he is only trying to be civil?


My humble opinion is he likes Sai & is attracted to her pretty much in the same way he was to Pakhi earlier, he does not feel a fully committed love for Sai nor is he fully over Pakhi. He is confused, insincere & easily influenced.



It there any rule that brother's wife by vahini ?


As myself call my bil by his name when he is 4 yrs older than me , he never minded it. Does it make me uncivil ?

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