virat did everything in his hands to push off.... - Page 2

Originally posted by: laksh

Exactly, I have actually not liked that. He has not thought it from Pakhi's angle from the beginning. I will understand that he felt bad that she left only because she felt insulted by him or his wife but when shs or her parents said that Pakhi cannot stay there waiting for Samrat or Pakhi needs a change, he should have thought about it. She is not just his brother's wife, she has her own identity, has all rights to live the way she wants. Not be bound to act as a bahu or stay at Cn because she was married to Samrat.

Do you think she really wants to go?! She is emotionally blackmailing him. She wants him to stop her and believe that he does this because he has some strings attached with her and builds her stories on that hope. Whatever she talks to Virat, is to get something from him that shows her that he is still tied to her at some level. Thats why the vaada guilt trip too. She will make sure he doesnt forget that and till that memory is alive, she knows Virat cant burn the bridges with her. It is pure emotional blackmail at highest level. Any kind hearted person will fall for it because somewhere he still thinks he was responsible. That is the same reason he bears her advances.

I think at this point he has to be nonchalant to her antics. He should ask her to leave if she wants to. I am sure she will not use the same bait again.! And he has to say this in front of Sai. :D

I am appalled at her entry today. Makers have to show her little intelligent to make the story interesting. She is definitely not gaining sympathy. If they want to show her as an interesting character going forward, they have to show her little more tactical. Otherwise they cant redeem the character because people will hate her.

Originally posted by: Niranjan256

You know what he could have done

Pakhi was going to her home, and he shouldn’t have apologized and asked her to stay back when her husband isn’t around.

He could not have gone behind her and requested to attend bday party

He could not have held her hand while hugging his wife for the first time

He could have sternly warned her off again when he visits his room without knocking like today. He was polite that wasn’t required

He should stop calling her his friend

Strat calling her Vahini

He can reveal her intentions in front of the whole fam(they know about the past, not the present), but he’s tight-lipped.

It’s easy to blame Pakhi, and she should be blamed

Let’s not forget this pakhi is Virat’s creation. He gave the leverage for her to interfere in his life. Well, at least now buckle up and stay away.

I find no good reason for him asking Pakhi to stay back after knowing her intentions. He knows she doesn’t care about Samrat. He knows she is only into him. Also, Samrat deserves better than this lustful bhabhi. Toh, he had no reason to stop her. It would have been better for Pakhi, too, to stay away. But Nah! He apologized after knowing her immoral intentions. He can’t travel in two boats. He can’t give mixed signals.

And most importantly, come clear to his wife about his past and present without being ashamed or self-denial.

I have no sympathy. Virat got this on himself.

It seems that Virat does not understand Pakhi's intentions while Sai can see it. Or even if Virat knows Pakhi's feelings for him, he denies it before Sai & says it is nothing like that.

He would shout at Sai when she tries to tell him about Pakhi's motives.

Today, when Pakhi barged into Virat's room, Aai rightfully suna rahi thi Pakhi ko...Virat stopped Aai saying aaj ke liye kafi drama ho gaya...uss waqt Virat ko Pakhi se bolna chahiye tha ki aaj jo hua woh kafi nahi hai ki tum ab bhi bina knock kiye mere room mein aa rahi ho when Sai is not here...And raat ko doc ke paas jaane ki baat urgent nahi hai...Please stop barging in my room...Sai and I don't like it..and isse tumhe bhi lagega ki tumhro bizzati kam hogi..Why did he ask aai to be quiet? uske paas aaj mauka tha..aai was there and he could have easiyl said this...agar aisi feeling aati hai ki Virat keeps quiet and does not sunayoy much to kaku and pakhi ki aur jhagda badhega to aaj to Sai thi hi nhi..what did he do instead?

Originally posted by: kavitha_r

It seems that Virat does not understand Pakhi's intentions while Sai can see it. Or even if Virat knows Pakhi's feelings for him, he denies it before Sai & says it is nothing like that.

He would shout at Sai when she tries to tell him about Pakhi's motives.

As far as I understand the characters.

1. Virat knows Pakhi's feelings. He is not dumb because she tells him directly. So he knows the extent of her feelings too.

2. Sai knows there is a past but not to which extent. So she thinks Virat is emotionally attached to Pakhi.

Now the contention comes when Virat wants Pakhi to be his brother's wife to preserve the family izzat, or for his brothers sake. His brother is married to this woman. No body wants the marriage to break without giving it a chance. Also, divorce is still not a small thing in Indian families. Added to this he knows his brother is a gem of a person so hopes that Pakhi would eventually find happinees. Virat might be thinking about all these things when it comes to Pakhi. Why does he have to? Because he is a family man at heart, he was responsible to get her married to Samrat, and because they did not have chance to explore the marriage. If anyone of this has not played the part, he would have cared less.

Coming to Sai, why he is not clear? He told sai, now not before, there is nothing between them. He meant emotionally and physically too. But is he really comfortable with Sai as a wife to discuss his secrets, like how he fell in love with pakhi and all the Nasik incident. Sai has to make a connection with him as a friend. they are in love and lovers hide their previous crushes for several reasons: could be rejection, to avoid insecurities etc. Virat on the other hand, is trying hard to make their relationship foolproof to all this turbulences. But what the guy is not understanding is Sai's mindset. He does not understand the damage that 'comittment' word caused to Sai's mind. May be Sai is waiting him to be more physical with her as in normal marriage so she can get past the commitment or she wants full confession of love to her. He doesnt think from her perspective.

For him, Sai came into this marriage as deal and because she keeps repeating their deal, he tries to make her fall in love with him and it is taking time. That too given that the ex living in the same space, it is getting even more difficult.

Solution is to sit and talk. But that would end the story. The better way I guess is to show their progression as friends, companions and then lovers. Pakhi can keep adding blockers but the end of it there should be some progression. I just want Virat to stop Pakhi from barging into their room and giving her any importance. He can be courteous to her but ignore her royally. Otherwise, there is no true progression.

Tagging a few to give some perspective

Originally posted by: laksh

I understand his position and guilt. It is high time for him to be stern with her all the time. The day when Sai was stopping Virat, Pakhi stopped Sai, he should have stopped Pakhi to come in between him and Sai before Sai had stopped Pakhi saying Bas. He needs to show Pakhi, her place especially when she interferes in the matters of him and his wife even if that means that she is his brother's wife. He has stop feeling guilty to some extent. Guilt is something one has to come out on their own, it is very difficult to come out of otherwise.

Also, I have always thought that even if she wants to go to her maayka, he should let her. Even in the past, it was the right thing to do because he was stopping her from moving forward in her life for his brother's sake. In the present, he knows that she has absolutely no feelings for his brother, so he should let her leave if she wants to. We all know that she is trying to use that as a weapon but her going to her maayka could also help her get rid of the feelings she has for him. If he lets her go, she will also be compelled to think that she doesn't matter to him at all (not as Samrat's wife but as his lover), she will be made to face a harsh reality. At the moment she keeps discarding everything that he is saying thinking his feelings might get rekindled or that he might again develop some feelings for her looking at her care and concern for him. If he lets her go to her maayka, she will know that he doesn't want her anywhere hear him and her not staying in the house doesn't matter to him.

I am not blaming Virat but Virat cannot decide for her. She is not just his brother's wife, she is a woman who deserves to move on in her life if her husband is MIA and especially when she has hardly lived a day with her husband. In real life, parents would have taken their daughter away. Some might wait and some might not and in this case Virat knows that Pakhi has no hopes or interest in her marriage, so it doesn't make sense to stop her from leaving to her parents place. She will have more freedom in her place. Even if she decides to wait for Samrat, it should be her decision, not Virat's wish.

Also, it is not just enough if Virat draws a line with Pakhi or acts stern whenever he is upset with Sai. He should be strict and stern with her even when everything is going on smooth between him and Sai. He should not be trying to provide any emotional support to her until he is not sure that she has no feelings for him. He should let other people including his Aai to help Pakhi or to convince or console Pakhi even when something goes wrong. He cannot act like a friend with her when she has feelings for him, he just cannot. It is not going to help him.

I agree ., he should stop deciding for her.. whether she wants to wait for samrat or not it’s her call . I don’t even see a reason for her to wait .. she has not spent even a night with samrat . Her parents should coerce her to come back and think of rebuilding her life ..they know very well .. lusty bhabhi is not staying back for Samrat

Originally posted by: kavitha_r

When Pakhi tries to blackmail Virat emotionally, he should use strong words & talk to her bluntly.

He shouldn't care even if she packs her bags & goes back to her mayka.

exactly...

the issue with virat he is too soft in nature he can't see anyone hurt even the person is his enemy and this women is his elder bro's wife whom he idolize thus he is giving her the respect and make sure in the absence of his brother,his bro's wife is not uncomfortable in his home that she needs to pack her bags to her maternal. Didi is taking advantage of his soft nature and virat needs to understand that

he knows her motive and intention but he could not see that she is taking advantags of his nature

Interesting discussion. If we look at it Virat has done all the things so far

1. He has been a friend and has asked her to move on ( terrace scene)

2. Politely asked her to not wait did him and refused to eat from her hand

3. Clearly told about his feelings and asked her to move on ( after hand holding scene )

4. Was stern , firm and strongly objected to her advances ( after Pulkit drama )

5. Was indifferent to her ( hospital scene )

6. Asked her to knock before entering the room and reminded her of her limits ( account nominee drama )

Despite all this Pakhi comes back without ab ounce of self respect . In today episode, I understand why Virat asked Aai to not stretch it . After a huge confrontation he was mentally exhausted and Sai not informing him was bothering him . He was not ready to talk to Sunny as well . He wanted peace and if Aai had reprimanded Pakhi then she would create more drama and like always family would have intervened and supported her . Virat wanted to avoid all of this . I can relate to Virat’s condition .

I can understand his situation. People like Pakhi don't want to move on and hence they become obsessive. Virat has turned into Pakhi's obsession. And,so she thinks he's her private property. All Virat can do now is have a heart to heart talk with Sai and ignore witchlekha. Or best of all ask her to go her ayi's place till Samrat returns.

Originally posted by: sadiltl

Do you think she really wants to go?! She is emotionally blackmailing him. She wants him to stop her and believe that he does this because he has some strings attached with her and builds her stories on that hope. Whatever she talks to Virat, is to get something from him that shows her that he is still tied to her at some level. Thats why the vaada guilt trip too. She will make sure he doesnt forget that and till that memory is alive, she knows Virat cant burn the bridges with her. It is pure emotional blackmail at highest level. Any kind hearted person will fall for it because somewhere he still thinks he was responsible. That is the same reason he bears her advances.

Ofcourse not, that I why I had said in my first comment that she will try to use that as a weapon. I am talking about the first time that she actually left. At that time, even if she left because she felt insulted, she did stay back at her parent's place and her parents did tell him that she need not be living in their house. I didn't like that he only looked at her as his brother's wife to return. He should have thought it from her parent's point of view as well. Instead he became upset that ghar ki bahu was not returning, showed it on Sai who then took the onus of bringing Pakhi back to CN and did it as well.

I think at this point he has to be nonchalant to her antics. He should ask her to leave if she wants to. I am sure she will not use the same bait again.! And he has to say this in front of Sai. :D

I am appalled at her entry today. Makers have to show her little intelligent to make the story interesting. She is definitely not gaining sympathy. If they want to show her as an interesting character going forward, they have to show her little more tactical. Otherwise they cant redeem the character because people will hate her.

@bold Yes, he has to, whether or not he tells in front of Sai.

@last para you know it did look like they are trying to gain some sympathy for the character through her dialogues and her tears. Well people who have been following the show will not feel sorry for her now. She has to change or they have to redeeem the character for them to look at her from a different light.

I guess they give such dialogues to Ashwini too to gain sympathy for Pakhi and I am not getting a good feelind about it. I am taken back to the SBS interview where she and Neil were interviewed after the Alta night where she gets her hand burnt thinking about what Sai had told Ashwini that Virat had fed her food. The actress had said in the SBS segments that Ashwini doesn't like her or something and keeps taunting her. She was clearly trying to gain sympathy.

Who knows SBS might even now have a voice over saying Ashwini hates Pakhi or humiliated Pakhi after last night's incident. The makers are making a mistake if this is their plan.

Originally posted by: laksh

@bold Yes, he has to, whether or not he tells in front of Sai.

@last para you know it did look like they are trying to gain some sympathy for the character through her dialogues and her tears. Well people who have been following the show will not feel sorry for her now. She has to change or they have to redeeem the character for them to look at her from a different light.

I guess they give such dialogues to Ashwini too to gain sympathy for Pakhi and I am not getting a good feelind about it. I am taken back to the SBS interview where she and Neil were interviewed after the Alta night where she gets her hand burnt thinking about what Sai had told Ashwini that Virat had fed her food. The actress had said in the SBS segments that Ashwini doesn't like her or something and keeps taunting her. She was clearly trying to gain sympathy.

Who knows SBS might even now have a voice over saying Ashwini hates Pakhi or humiliated Pakhi after last night's incident. The makers are making a mistake if this is their plan.

Yeah, they will say Pakhi wanted to care for Virat when Sai roothke gayi thi. But Ashwini never supported

Hope this turns out like our dreams as well🤣