Acha suno... - Page 4

Originally posted by: MuguetDScorpion

Ho sakta hai yah phir Sai tum yeh kya bol rahi ho. 🤣

Is that a humsafar reference 🧐

Originally posted by: Svt611

‘Itni Shakti Hume dena data maan ka Vishwas kamzor hona’

yeh gana gate raho... shayad thoda sukoon mile

👏👏 good one...pata ni wo kaun si ghari thi jb yeh serial dekhna suru kiya aur ab chute na chute

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

agree it was Pakhi who started the conversation but it was both Sai and Pakhi who dragged Virat into this mess.

I have few questions . Please take it as a discussion rather than a argument

1. Is it fair when to get even with each other they are dragging him and giving him no choice in this matter ?

Yes he should have cleared as his feelings are changed but that’s a different topic . It’s not like he hid everything from her , he had clearly told her before marriage and he should convey his changed feelings but since they are in deal marriage and since Sai wants to leave the home why is he obligated to clear .Just because he didn’t doesn’t mean his past has to be brought out in public and shamed him .

I'm not in favour of Virat's past being brought out in public either. Especially in front of the Chavan vultures who will only use it to drive a wedge between SaiRat. As far as clearing the vaada is concerned, yes, he is not obligated to clear the vaada to Sai. But their relationship has moved way beyond being just a deal. They have begun to have expectations from each other. So it is very important for him to be open for the sake of his relationship. When Virat was jealous of Aniket, it was an acknowledgement of fidelity that they expected of each other, that made Sai clarify that Aniket was just a friend - even though she was not morally obligated to do so.

2. Just because his family was involved in this mess , we should not sympathize if his past is brought out without his consent

It was Sai who brought it out in public and provocation cannot be a reason to character shame someone .it like breaking the trust between husband and wife when you discuss his past infront of all .

I'm divided whether it is character shaming Virat. Even to herself, she doesn't believe that Virat is having an EMA with Pakhi - she knows he is far too principled for that. She only feels that he still has feelings (and soft corner) for Pakhi. Having feelings for an ex (even if she is your bhabhi) is not morally wrong, unless you act on it. Pakhi has been interfering in their relationship and Virat has unintentionally failed to set a boundary. Interference from anyone can wreck havoc in a marriage, if it's from an ex, it is a recipe for disaster. It is but natural. Despite being an ex, if not for Pakhi's interference (and Virat's failure in setting a boundary), I don't believe things would have reached this far.

3. Is this clear case of victim blaming where Pakhi harassed him in the night and his wife without knowing anything jumped to the conclusion that her husband spent the night with his SIL( her exact dialogue where he says so he

Let’s do a role reversal . If Sai was being harassed by someone and if Virat had suspected her instead would we have justified Virat’s behavior?

Hasn’t Said witnessed how Virat was harassed in the hospital by Pakhi ? Has she not witnessed how uncomfortable he was with Pakhi’s presence ?

I don't believe Sai knows Virat is being harassed. Yes, he was stern to Pakhi during hospital, but it could have been spillover from a disagreement - Sai doesn't have all the details. Virat has tried to feign ignorance about Pakhi's intentions in front of family and Sai - in order to maintain the honour of devar-bhabhi relationship. Even yesterday, Sai is not assuming Virat to have been involved in morally wrong behaviour with Pakhi. The very fact of Virat and Pakhi talking to each other after SaiRat fight, in Sai's absence is enough to rile up any wife.

If we do a role reversal - Sai is on friendly terms with an ex who keeps interfering in their relationship. Sai, though being faithful, does not come clean with her past and present. Moreover, Virat is constantly humiliated over his relationship with his wife by Sai's family members. Will Virat's dam break? It may. Will it be morally wrong for Virat to lay the details of Sai's past in front of her family in a moment of humiliation by the very ex? No. Will it hurt Sai? Yes and rightfully so. Will it hurt their marriage? Maybe.

4. Is Sai’s honour more important than Virat’s ?

As a person , he has the rights to decide if he wants to share his past with his family members . Just because they ate his family doesnt mean it won’t be awkward for him . Haven’t we seen how Sonali and Karishma taunt him . It was Sai who crossed her limits and brought out the past . It her responsibility to face the consequences . She needs to learn that creating tamasha every single time is not the solution to the problems .

Virat's honour is as important as Sai's. Virakhi past relationship is as much Virat's secret as Pakhi's. If he doesn't want to reveal it to the family - it should be honoured. He would be rightfully hurt and angry. It is entirely possible that he will not accept his past with Pakhi in front of the family.

Since you asked me how I wanted Sai to deal with this . If I were her , I would have called Virat and asked him to clarify about the sleeping arrangements infront of all . I would have confronted his family and friend as to how they can cross their line and interfere in her married life . I am sure Virat would have supported her but by dragging his past and questioning his character after she messed it up.

Yes, something like this would help. While Virat may not like it, Ashwini could be consulted to end their MU regarding Pakhi. But I would still put Sai's actions into context. Lot of times there are logical solutions - but do we follow them? In situations when we are overwhelmed, it is entirely possible and normal, to act contrary to logic - emotions are like that.

Both Sai and Virat's actions tomorrow will probably be in the grey zone - intentions may not be wrong but it will not be the most proactive. It is not about right or wrong - there will only be consequences. How they deal with these consequences will determine the the future of their relationship.

My replies in red.

Originally posted by: nethraa_99

My replies in red.

If we do a role reversal - Sai is on friendly terms with an ex who keeps interfering in their relationship. Sai, though being faithful, does not come clean with her past and present. Moreover, Virat is constantly humiliated over his relationship with his wife by Sai's family members. Will Virat's dam break? It may. Will it be morally wrong for Virat to lay the details of Sai's past in front of her family in a moment of humiliation by the very ex? No. Will it hurt Sai? Yes and rightfully so. Will it hurt their marriage? Maybe.

@Red I would like to answer these questions

1. Yes , Virat’s dam will break and his reaction might be something similar to what Sai did today . I would not support his behavior either .

2. Yes , it’s morally wrong to bring out spouse’s secrets of past . If they were in an abusive relation I would understand the intervention of family members but in this case neither it is abusive marriage nor the members are sane to help them bridge the gap . By revealing she is making it worse for them in future .

During the hand holding drama , Sai revealed about their deal marriage and CN members have used it against Sairat to taunt them many times. By bringing the past , it’s Sai who will be humiliated not Virat or Pakhi . This time she is responsible for the humiliation .

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

Lovely post . I enjoyed reading other side of it .

@Red I would like to answer these questions

1. Yes , Virat’s dam will break and his reaction might be something similar to what Sai did today . I would not support his behavior either .

2. Yes , it’s morally wrong to bring out spouse’s secrets of past . If they were in an abusive relation I would understand the intervention of family members but in this case neither it is abusive marriage nor the members are sane to help them bridge the gap . By revealing she is making it worse for them in future .

During the hand holding drama , Sai revealed about their deal marriage and CN members have used it against Sairat to taunt them many times. By bringing the past , it’s Sai who will be humiliated not Virat or Pakhi . This time she is responsible for the humiliation .

Maybe. But if this had happened to me in real life I would have done all that, and the walked the hell out of that place. But unfortunately, this won't happen in the serial.

I agree with all your points. Today I am in a position to think of all my action’s consequences before taking one. Imagine a 19 year old brought up by a single parent, going through ptsd after her father’s death. Would she have witnessed any real husband - wife issues before. She was a state topper, so let’s assume she didn’t get any relationship advise from media as well. She is juggling with studies, household chores and worst of all fending off those vultures in the family everyday. She is already a bomb which could go off any time. Above all this friendly ex of her husband speaks - tumne doka diya hai muje, meri jazbat ke sath kele ho etc. You can ask your husband what the hell was that??? But what if he answers. Why do you bother? I have told you not to interfere between me and earlier too.

Her husband is trying to ask me what she heard? Instead of explaining the whole thing just happened?

Don’t you think he should have been more forceful in explaining.

I am not trying to justify her actions here, just trying to comprehend her emotional state at this point of time.