Originally posted by: SONIA441
So I was working & suddenly certain scenes & dialogues of today's Episode flashed & created an entire different scenario in my mind.
I feel most of us as a Fandom are looking at the scenes with rose tinted glasses - that a Love Track is being played while maybe the scenes are to be interpreted on a totally different tangent.
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I think Pallavi still thinks ( or will eventually start thinking) whatever he's doing, it's eventually only to reach his Amma's heart - to give her proofs that he's a good child. A morally correct human. And not only cos of his guilt of what he did to her in the process. (She didn't see him having a panic attack on accounts of his guilt cos she was herself unconscious then) And it won't be wrong on her part too, it's basic human nature that you won't trust anyone immediately especially if there's no bond as such. And they didn't have any emotional bond between them when Raghav promised her at the station that he will change for only her.
Cos he keeps asking her now again & again, that you will stay back after 30days na. It's been just a few days & if he starts repeating these lines like a Tape-recorder every few days, she's bound to think this way.
He did say that he doesn't wanna live alone even in his drunk state but that's all he said. He didn't say specifically - Pallavi, I would be alone without you. Ofcourse, I know it's too soon for him to say that & for her to be anywhere ready to hear it yet.
To her, he might seem just like a lone human but not someone who might feel something for her. And that's why she might not answer that question even after she stays back after the 30days cos she would keep thinking internally - That all that what she feels, he will never feel for her.
In all the dialogues today - She mentioned that I couldn't take away your family by being selfish & going back to mine when you have just started to change yourself. I know you better than you know yourself. This was that line that made me interpret atleast half of what I have written here.
What if at the end of 30 days and many more months of staying together under one roof too, she thinks that he likes her just cos she was a medium through which he could reach his family but not because of who she is exactly. That he needs her only to not be alone..., he needs her but doesn't actually want her.
There's a big difference between need & want. And in Relationships, I believe it's innately about want. You should want each other, You should want to do things for each other, You should want to make each other happy. Not Need.
That's going to literally be very very chaotic for Her. There'll be a whole war brewing in her mind & noone to share it with.
Unless the dams break one day & she makes him see her reason that Dude, You like me for this reason(that I was able to help you get your family) but Not cos of me. And I can't take this anymore, that I might not be as important to you as You are to me....So I'm finally going away.
I really hope she speaks about her doubts to Krishna so somehow it reaches Raghav. Krishna will be a much needed support for her then as she has always been for her Didi. Else, these are gonna be pretty Emotional Turmoils filled days for both.
I know, I know, it was Raghav who told Pallavi at the station that he will change for Her but as Pallavi reminded herself today that he's Raghav Rao, he's like this & he might do these kind of things again . One drunken night will not suddenly change what you have come to think of the person for so long. It's gotta keep coming back & be there in her subconscious until they all sum up & she comes to the above conclusion cos that's human nature. If you're getting something that you never thought you would, you try to run away because you believe it to be too good to happen to you.
Tagging few of you to see what so you think of the above case cos for some reason this is not going away from my mind now.
Sorry for the late reply Sonia. Somehow missed this among all the notifications. đ
I agree with you completely that this isn't a love track per se. I think that's why Veena ji keep asking if they are falling in love! LOL, jokes apart, I think this is the phase where they are building the foundation of trust and through all the different incidents coming up, they will get to see one another up close as never before. Some misunderstandings will be cleared, some new aspects of each person will come to light. This is a beautiful phase of a new marriage, I feel and I am in no hurry for the love declarations frankly. I'm glad Raghav is still focused on his roles and responsibilities as a husband as well as fulfilling his promise not just to give her back her family but to make her his top priority at all times. Ironically, through this process, Pallavi is slowly going to start feeling that she does have a family after all, except that it's the Raos and not the Ds. Aside from Ayi and Nikhil no one at the Ds seem to care for her, and she's better off without them. In the case of the Raos, the acceptance and care is 100%. Sure, they have their quirks too, but they are not fake or hypocritical in their affection for her.
I am glad they have shown her questioning herself, wondering why she decided to trust Raghav completely in this matter despite his past actions. It shows that she is conscious something is changing in her life, that there is a battle between her heart and mind, and that she probably will experience more of this as she continues to live with the Raos. I always say, jahan bharosa hota hai, wahan sawaal nahin hotey. She didn't feel the need to question Raghav about his involvement or even entertain the idea that he manipulated the whole situation to hurt Sanki, because she was sure of her belief in him, that he was 100% innocent. It's a great start, not only for her to start trusting someone again after being betrayed by Raghav, and even more by some of the Ds, it's also a way for Raghav to see what solid trust is about, that when she decided to give him a chance she was honest about it and will be till the end of the 30-day period.
What he said to her in his drunken state was the pain in his heart speaking up his fear of once again being left with the loneliness he had been battling for years, if the three women leave him. On some level, they both know that if Pallavi leaves, so will Amma and Keerti, and there's nothing wrong with saying so. To Raghav, Pallavi is his connection to the other two ladies, but also because she is genuinely giving him something to look forward to, a much-needed hope and chance at starting over in life that he had never been given by anyone. He knows she is sincere and he will be sincere about his promise. Pallavi knows that.
We don't know what the CVs have planned but when the challenge is over, they may not be head over heels, rather they may have become so used to one another, so attached, that it becomes hard for them to separate. The everyday things that people take for granted, like eating meals together, small chats in the evenings or at bedtime, etc, these are the things that help build a bond, not the flowers and gifts and overt gestures of affection. This is what they will miss, because as you can see both are lonely and don't have anyone to talk to. They will open up to each other gradually as they solve problems together and realize that they don't have to fight the entire world on their own. In short, they will find companionship in one another, something they both need and would cherish, above love and romance at this point in their story. I frankly think that is a good enough reason to want to stay with one another beyond the challenge.
I don't think they are at that stage where they have focused enough about what the other person means to each of them, even though they know the dynamics are changing. They are being warm and sincere with one another, without external influences and bias, and seeing each other's true self will help them feel the soulmate connection, even if they can't articulate it.
Pallavi has spent too long accepting 'good enough' instead of 'the best'. She's always compromised and given people like the Ds a lot of leeway even if she knows what they offer in terms of love and support leaves a lot to be desired. The day she realizes that what Raghav can give her as a husband is gold standard, she will have to reckon with her own desires, with what Pallavi wants for herself, for her own happiness. Raghav, likewise, has been lonely for so long, that until his bubble burst hearing Amma's accusations, he was happy to make do with 'good enough', i.e. just having Amma and Keerti physically in his life, despite the emotional distance. Once he realizes that he too deserves unconditional love and support, and that Pallavi is the one person who will give all or nothing in that regard, he will also have to reckon with his own desires and dreams, that he too deserves a second chance in life to be happy in every sense of the word, that his immense capacity to love can be directed at Pallavi and that she has a similar capacity to love and reciprocate his affections.
I have said in the past that these two need to have meaningful conversations, and they are nowhere there yet. I know we've seen bits and pieces but they have been largely situational, rather than with the intent of explicitly spending quality time with one another, to learn more about each other. Once they start to talk, and I'm guess from the BTS photos that they will, we will see the guards being lowered by both of them, bit by bit. Then they can start to not just express themselves more freely, but also sense the other person's emotions better.
Sorry for the long post but you raised some really good points. Hope my response does them justice. đ
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