Please do not read this post if you are not up for another rant or if you cannot take any characters being criticised. I seldom make posts to vent out my anger on characters and I don't want to stop myself from writing one after such a horrible episode.
I request everyone to keep the discussion a healthy one.
Welcome to my rant. Just like many of you, I hated the episode. What were they even thinking that they are showing? They whitewash such crimes by doing all these? I am questioning myself as why am I even watching this and if I should even continue to watch this. Am I supposed to erase whatever happened in the past just like how the leads of the show did? The show has been disappointing in many ways but even then many of us are stuck to it due to the leads of the show, to watch how their story unravels, to enjoy their chemistry which we get once in a while reminding us that it does belong to Romance genre. I am sure many would have quit watching if not for the forum.
I started to watch it for Sairat and then we were given back to back toxic family episodes which revolved around the pair, which brought them close and also made them part ways. We were introduced to a lot of characters and tracks. It was only fair to give a meaningful closure to these tracks especially when we were subjected to months and months of torture in these tracks.
There were a few characters with whom we all got attached to along with the lead characters like Kamal Joshi, Ashwini and Devi. Other positive characters had a cameo appearance and we didn't connect with them as much as these characters. Amongst all of these supporting characters, Devi Tai was a character people adored, people sympathised and a character whose past audience were curious about.
We were shown how rude her own mother would be to this girl who was mentally imbalanced, who would keep sending away to her room quite often without letting her stay with everyone for a long time, who was also drugged with medicines which weren't supposed to be even given to her but was given to put her to sleep so that she doesn't reveal any truth from her past.
Apart from the scenes of the leads, we all loved the scenes between the FL Sai and her saas Ashwini or the ML Virat with his mom and I think that the pair was Sai and Devi has always been an adorable one.
The girl Devi though was always shown as mentally imbalanced, could identify as who was good and who was bad. She had the sense of right and wrong and also had guts to speak out or call out when something goes wrong much more than people who were hale and healthy. The girl was always shushed and sent back to her room to be speaking the truth but that did not even stop her given how weak she was because she was dependent on these people at the end of the day.
They start a track that shows how the girl opens up to Sai, sharing her about her husband whom most of the people of the house used to think as an imaginary one.
The makers did such a good job by showing us how the girl shares about her having a baby, they slowly introduced us to another spineless character who though was spineless but was loyal and who really loves his wife. They did such a good job by showing us how the girl shares her worries, her fear of getting harmed by her mother and Kaka, shares about her fear that her husband would also be harmed by them. They showed how Sai uncovers the truth through the clues that she gets including the truth that she is getting drugged with wrong medicines. It is only fair to expect that this girl is given justice, that this track gets a proper closure. Even if they cannot be jailed because it is ITV or fiction or anything, was it even necessary to whitewash the mother of the girl by giving her a few dialogues like
"Beti ka takleef dekhkar mujhe bahut dukh hota hai" or
"Uska ek ek aansoon mera dil cheer deta hai"? Seriously? Why didn't we ever feel these then all through the 200 episodes? If this was the plan, if this is how they planned to end all of this, why couldn't they show us this kind of feelings in the character Bhavani Nagesh Chavan from the start of the show till now? Why are we shoved such dialogues to accept that she is a mom who was crying inside but was wearing a facade to protect "Khandaan ka naam"? It is absolutely ridiculous.
The kidnapping track was brought in due to the absence of actors and we all realised that they couldn't blend it with their original version, they couldn't give a closure to that track since they started with their copy paste again. Many of us had lost hopes long long back about that. I have never had any hopes that the truth of Sangeetha Deshpande will be revealed. The kidnapping track could have been easily forgotten if they had not made a character who is going to play a vital role in the future of the leads.
Pulkit, the character would be with the couple during a lot of their important moments and decisions. They never showed him this spineless in other versions because he wasn't the one who would ask for help from the character who played the role of Sai to bring his dulhan to the mandap. Not only did they butcher this character, they butchered the main lead of the show Sai, who was always loved for speaking the truth.
They brought in some stupid kasam that the guy gives making the character Sai hide truths from her husband and her saas Ashwini whom she loves like her own mother. There was some reason if not entirely valid in other versions which forced the FL to help Devi elope and get married with her husband, her lost love again. And by bringing up a kidnapping track, by making Pulkit give the responsibility to Sai of bringing his dulhan to mandap, they butchered these characters too. Even if we ignore this whole thing as a character butchering, it is very difficult to accept Pulkit as a guy who will be helping Sai and Virat in future. How can we? They have made him so spineless and dependent on Sai that he resorted to take the help of Sai when his own daughter is not able to accept his mother. Being a doctor himself, does he not know how to handle this situation? Does he know that he can go for a therapy or look for a professional help who could help Harini accept Devi?
And we are supposed to see this character who is dependent on Sai for solving every single problem of his life, solving Sai and Virat's problems? Can't they not think at all?
There was a reason why I even started to watch the show. The promo spoke about a police officer who valued the waada given to another police officer who was dying and choosing his farz over the waada that he gave to the love of his life.
“Ek police officer ke liye uske vachan se badkar Kuch nahi hota” “apne farz ke khatir mujhe ek aur vachan nibhana pada".
First of all, it does not even look like she was is his love. Even if it was supposed to be that way, meant to be that way, they should have established their past, their story in a believable way, in a way that people can really feel how they had to sacrifice their love. Almost the whole forum makes fun of their so called love story since it lasted for not even 2 days. They could have given a better background, should have showed something realistic for people to be able to understand why Virat trusts his ex so much, to be able to understand what makes him sympathise his ex or what is making him act so guilty. They show us a story which wasn't even as strong as Samrat's love towards Patralekha, his feelings towards her seemed to be stronger than the feelings of Virat and Pakhi for each other. Samrat was not just smitten by Patralekha, but he genuinely cared about her wishes, her consent even before he married her. If the intent was to show that Virat had a past to whom he had given a waada, a past whom he sympathises with, a past for whom he is feeling guilty, they should have shown a proper story of these two. They meet at a yoga resort, show us that they get attracted to each other, fall for each other and before one could confess his feelings to the other, they even part ways. Everything else was only about the ML harboring those feelings for the girl whom he met, excited to meet her again, to confess his feelings because when he was thinking about her, she had already ended her relationship with him because of a misunderstanding. By the time he had found her, she was a soon to be bride of his own brother. Even if one felt sorry for the two, especially for the girl whom he had refused to accept for his brother's happiness, they turned her into a person who was willing to destroy a guy's life just so that she stays close to the person whom she had feelings for. How can one sympathise for a character who married such a genuine and good guy with such a motive? Even if we can call that to be a moment of weakness, a stupidity, foolishness, she had destroyed another guy's life and that cannot be denied. Also every single subsequent vile action of hers only kept making her a negative person day by day. She is not a person one can empathise with when she doesn't even care about what she was doing even if someone showed her a mirror or even if someone kept giving her lessons or kept trying to make her realise. They better stop making her act vile, if not it is going to be very difficult to even watch the future tracks of her and Samrat.
They then show us the person who gave her the waaada taking up the responsibility of a girl out of farz by marrying her. It is then showed that this guy falls in love with his wife.
What kind of love? I am still wondering as what kind of love is this when he can keep watching his wife getting humiliated again and again. What kind of love is this when his blood doesn't boil when someone calls her names or abuses her. What kind of love is this where he acts in extremes with her but who lets his family walk away doing any crime? What kind of love is this when he has got a double standard behavior. He is a hypocrite who calls his wife a family but cannot treat her like one. No amount of justifications are good enough for him to have deprived her of food, to have reminded her the money that he loaned to be his, to have apologised for these actions and again deprive her of shelter.
Does his vocal cord work only work for his wife whom he keeps claiming that he loves? I am failing to understand this now.
What kind of story am I then watching? There is no justice shown to crimes committed and even the love story looks ridiculous. Is is for this guy that the girl should realise her feelings and stay back? Is it for this guy that she should live with him so that she keeps getting humiliated for him to be standing like a mute spectator in the future?
He is a police officer who doesn't have any curiosity, has no alertness, has no intuitions, can't even connect dots to understand what is happening, a guy who has been failing to understand the feelings or motives of his ex who has been showing him more than enough signs for anyone to understand the motives and who can't even give justice to his sister whose mental health got deteriorated due to his own family.
This guy fails to understand the feelings of his ex who keeps making advances on him almost everyday but is expecting that his wife(to whom he had set conditions to get married as to not think of him as her husband since he has got a prior commitment) to understand his changed feelings.
The guy does not know to open his mouth to stand up for his mother or wife, he does not know to open his mouth or take required measures to let his ex know to not cross her line and he also does not know how to express his feelings to his wife. What is the need to cry all the time expecting her to understand? Instead why cannot he tell her that he loves her.
Actions speaks louder. Him telling to himself numerous times that he loves his wife doesn't mean anything, they need to show us that he indeed loves her. It looks as if whatever he had done so far was like him fulfilling his responsibilities because he was a kind and generous person. If he loves her, he wouldn't be watching his ex humiliating her like this, forget even his family. They can't show him look like such a weak character and there cannot always be an excuse for him to remain silent when people are hurling insults at his wife or mom. They can't show him feeling guilty and go back acting calm and polite with his ex who has clearly communicated that she has feelings for him, expecting him too to reciprocate.
All we want is to see a Virat who acted indifferent with his family and his ex after he returned from Gadchirolli. Doesn't it make sense for him to be behaving that way? People were more than happy even if he did that and not yell at them or punish them like how he had punished his wife Sai.
After, whatever the family has done to Devi Tai (his sister whom he always says he loves a lot, for whose safety and protection he fought with Pulkit and Sai), after the truth of the past is revealed to him, how will the audience even like if he acts with these people as if nothing happened at all?
After all this, the guy tries to convince and plead his ex to be a part of the skit, the skit which is organised for his niece, his sister's daughter, that sister whom his ex had not thought about while she cooperated with his Kaku to hide the truth about her past? That ex who had kept defending his Kaku and justifying her actions as "Ghar ki maryaada bachane ke liye"? Will someone not be angry that a young, educated and lady with modern thoughts did not think that whatever his Kaku had done was wrong and instead of siding with him and Sai, was siding with people who were responsible for his sister's condition to be like this? Whatever be the reasons, no sane person would be talking to their ex after being well aware of what they feel about them and what they are expecting out of them.
It is a pity that they have turned a good character who sounded was strong, bold, honest, compassionate, kind, generous, intelligent and smart into a weak looking character who lacks alertness, lacks compassion, lacks strength to stand up for his loved ones and also lacks intelligence in performing the right investigation.
The lead is a police officer, not some random guy who will keep getting emotional for everything, who will have no control over his emotions, the whole story was supposed to be revolving around him, why make him such a weak character? The makers should atleast ensure that he acts like an IPS officer, the first few episodes and his personality or individuality at GC doesn't match with whatever he looks now. Just by showing him acting brave and taking a bullet in a mission is not going to create an image that he is a jaanbaaz police officer. Makers have to remember while executing the plot that he is an IPS officer.
The makers should have focussed on keeping the character traits intact and not spoil it like this.
Let's come back to the latest 2 episodes.
They all act become a hum saath saath hain family as paschyathaap to a paap? After all the toxicity that we have watched for a little more than 200 episodes, they show us this? They give this kind of an ending to a track which has been running for the past 4 months? Unbelievable.
In just 2 episodes they expose what Kaku and her gang did to Devi and a new born baby. They show an old army officer raising hands on his wife because she asked something that everyone in the family should have asked. We get to see just hurt and disappointment from the ghar ka chirag who also is supposed to be a dutiful police officer.
He says
"Galti nahi paap hai aur iss paap ka praayaschit hum sabko milkar karna hoga.
Harni ko nanihaal ka pyaar dena hoga.
Ehsaas dilaana hoga ki uska itna bada parivaar hai jo usse pyaar karta hai.
Harini ka bday Chavan parivaar ke saath manaya jayega"
Like really? This is what he thinks it takes to correct their actions? He will let go off whatever they had done if they accept that girl, if the girl is given such a big family who has not even whole heartedly accepted the girl and her father.
We see an insaaf pasand girl trying to convince her husband's Kaku to accept a girl whom she had given away to an orphanage without any mercy to save the honour of the house “Izzat of Chavan parivaar”.
Virat, as a character gets carried away by emotions, he forgives people and gives them a chance to correct themselves. Even though I didn't like him letting whatever his family did as if it wasn't a big thing at all, didn't like him thinking that the only way to give justice to his sister and her family was by making his family accept their granddaughter, I can understand that his way of dealing with things, also it is his family too, it comes across as his emotions are his weakness. That is his mentality, but when he suggested this, is it necessary for a girl like Sai who always stands by the truth to cooperate with him and help him unite a 10 year old girl with people who gave away the girl to an orphanage, who separated the girl from her mother for 10 years?
I thought Virat liked Sai for being a insaafpasand girl, audience likes her for this reason, what happened to it?
"Kharbooja kharbooja ko dekhke rang badalta hai" doesn't mean that a person give up on their principles too. She can learn good things from him and he too can learn good things from him. Both can even pick up some wrong habits from each other, but cannot lose their individuality. Just because she have feelings for this man, her thinking "Harini kr maama hone ke naathe itna toh woh kar ho sakthe hain" doesn't make sense especially due to the nature of the crime the family committed.
Why are the makers butchering the character Sai as if she is learning these traits from Virat to let go of people who has made mistakes or giving them a chance? She is a very strong person who would seek for justice no matter what.
"Mere saamne kisi ke saath bhi naainsaafi hote hue dekh nahi sakthi hoon" is what she had once said, I think after the Mohit's food incident. Then why did they let her be a part of this whitewashing?
The makers give her so many good dialogues as below
'Dimaagi haalat kharab hui kyunki aapne Pulkit aur unki beti ko unse cheen liya tha"
"Galti nahi hai, gunaah hai, galti toh anjaane mein hoti hai"
She even stops a senseless and a stone hearted woman to come in between a son and his family at the right time
"Pakhi did aap beech mein mat aayiye, Virat sir sahi keh rahe hain"
But also says
"Jaane anjaane mein Tai ki yeh haalat aapne banayi hai Kaku aur unki beti unko sweekar karne se inkaar kar rahi hai uski zimmedaar aap hi hain Kaku. Aur aap jaanthi hai ki jab ek beti apni maa ko sweekar karne se inkaar kar de toh us maa ki dil par kya bitthi hai
Tai ke saath aisa hone se rokna hai"
How is it jaane anjaane mein? Wow 😲. What a way to brush Kaku's crimes under the carpet. I have to give this to the makers.
"Sai ka pati Sai ka jaise hote ja raha hai aur Virat ki patni Virat ke jaisa." 😡
Is she asking this lady who has always never cared and only made faces whenever her daughter used to call her Gandi Aai? The same person who has only scolded her daughter and asked someone to take her away because she was trying to speak the truth?
And how are they going to get a 10 year old daughter to accept her mother?
"Isiliye Virat sir Hatlrini ka bday Chavan parivaar ke saath manana chahthe hain"
Like seriously?
The insaaf pasand girl will convince the so called “tyaag ki moorti” (who felt that “khaandaan ki izzat”/"parivaar ki maryaada" was more important that her own jeethi jaathi daughter and a new born baby) to attend the birthday party of the same girl whom she had called as “Ganda khoon” forgetting or forgiving the act as “naatin ko apna lijiye"?
Why is Sai even begging her to be a part of the birthday party? Is she not the same girl who had once thought that Virat should do all the rasams only if he felt like doing or attending? Didnt she say "jis baat ke liye aapka dil nahi maanta, woh aap kyun kar rahe hain"?
Why is she now not thinking that they hate the father and the girl, doesn't want to accept them, what is the point in even convincing them or forcing them to be a part of the birthday party of the same girl whom Kaku hates or doesn't even want to meet?
I wrote in another post yesterday, love is making them act stupid. He acts in extemes due to his love (doesn’t justify his behavior) for her and she is also doing the same by acting out of character. Just because he wished to celebrate his niece along with his entire family, she shouldn't do something that she would never approve of, in general.
Why is it important for the family to be a part of this party? Virat didn't know about their truth before this encounter, what did he do after the truth was revealed in front out him? Why does he think that the girl needs a family like this? Why or how is the solution to the problem of Harini and Devi? Where is the rage that he had when he came to know Sai was getting Devi married to a wrong guy? It wasn’t a rage of just a husband who felt let down by his wife, it was also due to the concern for his sister. He can snatch the roof away from a girl thinking she ruined his sister’s life but will think that the way to wash all the sins of rectify their crimes made by the ‘dil ke acche’ log of his family by making them accept his niece?
Please show something believable guys. We can always bear in mind that we shouldn't be expecting logic, but this is not just about logic, it is dimaag ki dhajjiyaan udana of the audience. We need to be able to connect to atleast the leads of the show if not for all the characters of the show. They could have given it a thought as how all these would come across.
"Ilzaam nahi laga rage hain sirf sach se roobaroo kara rahe hain. Aapke kuch faisle ne kayi zindagi ko barbaad kar di hai aapko bhi yoh nazar aati hogi."
They keep giving dialogues and dialogues like this which keeps showing us how the lady had destroyed the lives of 3 people and they also add some sweet and regretful mouth from the same person as below which would melt out hearts?
"Maine kabhi nahi chaha ki meri beti ko koi takleef ho"
And just like Virat's relief and smile and happiness on Sai's face and Ashwini's face, did they expect audience also to smile and get relieved? Am I supposed to say "Yes Yes, I knew it", she always loved her daughter ?
"Meri beti ko apnaya hai aur ab main sirf apni beti ko khush dekhna chahthi hoon. Agar tum logon ko lagta hai ki is plan se meri beti khush ho jayegi main janamdin mein shaamil hone ke liye tayyar hoon"
Which log? Sai and Virat? For the first time, the look of relief or happiness on their faces didn't please me, the look of Sonali, Karishma, Ninad and Omi pleased me. It is the expression of the audience who watched this nonsense. It is an expression of shock, disbelief, disappointment and anger towards the makers, and the characters Sai and Virat.
Was it so important for these people to be a part of the birthday party? Is it much more important task than seeking justice? Neither the brother who is also a police officer is looking at the whole thing as a crime nor the girl to whom honesty and truths mattered the most is looking at it as a crime. They have both just used words like yeh galti nahi hai PAAP, Gunaah hai and accuse Kaku and her devars for an heinous crimes and let it go.
What I have understood after all this is that they want all of us to watch anything that they give. It looks like they are conveying that watch it if you like otherwise don't, we are not going to worry about characterization, it can keep changing as and when the story progresses and depending on the copy paste tracks. It doesn't matter as what you think about the lead characters, what qualities you like in them, we will butcher them whenever we want.
This is the first forum that I am a part of while watching a show. I feel that as and when I comment about something or analyse a character, I was getting more attached to the characters and the show too. I didn't feel this let down by a show or lead characters as I am feeling now when I was just watching a show and was not part of a forum. I used to skip watching a few toxic tracks or skip watching a few episodes and continue watching from something good as if the story had just begun. Whereas in Ghum, the story started for me from Gadchirolli and I am not able to move past it even if I skip some episodes. The characters and their qualities are etched so much in my mind that any down hill in one of the characters is such a big let down for me. I am sure many of you are feeling the same way, let down and disappointed. I don't even know if it is worth anymore to analyse the characters or the plot, if it is worth to support or defend these characters until the makers don't pay heed to the sentiments/expectations of the audience who helped them reach their show to this level (be it online audience or TRP audience).
Lastly, I know and have understood that it would be good for our own sake to turn blind eyes to all the nonsense and just watch the show without having any expectations from the makers or the characters. I hope I don't get enthusiastic in analysing these characters again.
It is time for the makers to revive the characters, up their game so that people do not lose interest in the show. It is time for them to come up with their own plots than sticking to copy paste. Even if they plan to stick to copy paste, copy paste only those which will continue to make Virat look as Virat and Sai as Sai. The way they execute the plots also can make a huge difference. They should always remember that their Male Lead is a police officer and Female Lead is an aspiring doctor. Also, their love story should look like a love story, not a story where people keep questioning whether they deserve each other or if they should live with each other. It was executed so well all along and they have been butchering the characters so much that people are not able to relate to the characters anymore, audience is losing that connection with the leads. I always wanted Sairat, they should work on strengthening their relationship, their bond. That can only happen when they strengthen the characters and present us with justifiable emotions/behavior/actions from these characters.
Phew, feel a little bit better now 🤣. I know, has turned out to be really really lengthy 😳.
