If Pakhi had not been Sai’s abuser would u have sympathised with her? - Page 5

Originally posted by: Anamika32

I think I have a diff view than most here- I would have sympathized with her if she was not Sai's abuser and the obsessive maniac she is around Virat. I am not supporting her but trying to understand her POV in this hypothetical situation

I don't blame her for having feelings for Virat no matter how stupid their yoga love story seemed. There's no definite on/off button for emotions. She fell in love and that's perfectly fine. Even Virat did, at least he thought to be in. She was impatient, impulsive, and stupid to agree to marry Samrat. However, she was willing to walk away at some point, and then Virat entered with his stupid Vada. I can't deny the Vada gave her wrong signals. I hold them both accountable for that Vada because that effectively ruined Samrat's life. They had no authority to decide for Samrat.

Virat took time to move away from Pakhi and Sai helped him to do that. I don't hold it against him just like how I don't blame Pakhi for her feelings. She isn't able to move on. Its easy to blame her, ofc shes a despicable character but then Virat also falls guilty under the same charges if we consider feelings alone. Maybe if Samrat was around she also would have( her own stupidity chased him away though). She seemed mature and sensible till the time she was assured about the deal; between Sai and Virat. Its only when she started seeing them close she went berserk and started obsessing over him. For me she's vile and disgusting because of her behavior towards Sai- Sai is an innocent party here. She should have exposed the whole Vada in front of her family and left for Maika. I would have respected her in that case. I am not supporting her or bashing Virat. Just trying to look at it objectively since it's a hypothetical situation.

You’re one of the few people here who understood the question, and answered with objective unbiased POV, props to you!

Originally posted by: GandiAai

She totally could've been an interesting character if they didn't make her completely one dimensional and undeveloped. And if her decisions are what a normal human would make.

Right now, she's more predictable than Tom in Tom and Jerry (and less cute).

Yeah honestly they’ve completely ruined her char, I don’t understand this need to always demonise one woman and make her absolutely vile to start love story of another, classic itv, needs to stop. If Pakhi wasn’t compelled to change by the makers to what she is today, would Virat have continued loving her and not broken his promise?

During Samrakhi's wedding, I did make a lot of posts to understand her character. But now, when I look back, I have few questions-

1. Why didn't she take Virat's number when he was ready to give her? What's the obsession with, abb mai intezzar karungi? Don't even ask me about the need to write her number on his hand instead

2. She did try and got his number, now he didn't recognize her voice = cheating? How? Did she forget that she wrote her number on his palm and she had no idea with what urgency he left. Can she not think there could be some reason that he didn't save your number? Seedha block?

3. Let's assume that she did love him. If so, she don't want sometime to get over it? Just said yes to the first match? In fact, Samrat said that he'll say no if she doesn't want to get married. But nah, tab toh muh nahi khulta. Even her dad asked her multiple times and did support her.

4. When they met during that haldi, she straight away accused him, okay! Even after he clarified on what happened, she still blamed him, like really? She is the one to block and say yes to the match within few days(not even weeks) and is still blaming Virat?

5. After all this, when the guy did choose his family over her, she still wanted to go to sangeet, why? Just to make the groom's brother jealous by using the groom?!

Chalo, I can take all of this without saying anything. Okay, but what about that stupid vaada?! What does she take out of it? If giving that promise is Virat's mistake, then accepting it is hers!

But my main problem is, she doesn't have any empathy!! Did she even think of the guy she's getting married to? No. In fact, even during the wedding, she had been dreaming of the groom's brother!! Chalo, let's assume that it's because she's not yet married by then. Even after marriage, she got diverted, just with Virat's photo? Makes any sense?!

Now, her husband is not there. So she decides to talk to his brother? No, don't tell me he is her friend. For me, she neither cares for him as a friend nor as a lover. If so, she wouldn't tell him about Samrat being MIA when he's in so much guilt and pain at the hospital!! Phew!

I can never be sympathetic for such a woman. Coz whatever is happening, is not her fate, but is done by her own hands. At least then, she could choose to walk out. But no.

So why should I even sympathize with her? All she's doing is manipulate people for her own benefit in the name of Samrat, self victimization, closing the doors that brings happiness to her life etc etc.

Originally posted by: Optimist_d

During Samrakhi's wedding, I did make a lot of posts to understand her character. But now, when I look back, I have few questions-

1. Why didn't she take Virat's number when he was ready to give her? What's the obsession with, abb mai intezzar karungi? Don't even ask me about the need to write her number on his hand instead

2. She did try and got his number, now he didn't recognize her voice = cheating? How? Did she forget that she wrote her number on his palm and she had no idea with what urgency he left. Can she not think there could be some reason that he didn't save your number? Seedha block?

3. Let's assume that she did love him. If so, she don't want sometime to get over it? Just said yes to the first match? In fact, Samrat said that he'll say no if she doesn't want to get married. But nah, tab toh muh nahi khulta. Even her dad asked her multiple times and did support her.

4. When they met during that haldi, she straight away accused him, okay! Even after he clarified on what happened, she still blamed him, like really? She is the one to block and say yes to the match within few days(not even weeks) and is still blaming Virat?

5. After all this, when the guy did choose his family over her, she still wanted to go to sangeet, why? Just to make the groom's brother jealous by using the groom?!

Chalo, I can take all of this without saying anything. Okay, but what about that stupid vaada?! What does she take out of it? If giving that promise is Virat's mistake, then accepting it is hers!

But my main problem is, she doesn't have any empathy!! Did she even think of the guy she's getting married to? No. In fact, even during the wedding, she had been dreaming of the groom's brother!! Chalo, let's assume that it's because she's not yet married by then. Even after marriage, she got diverted, just with Virat's photo? Makes any sense?!

Now, her husband is not there. So she decides to talk to his brother? No, don't tell me he is her friend. For me, she neither cares for him as a friend nor as a lover. If so, she wouldn't tell him about Samrat being MIA when he's in so much guilt and pain at the hospital!! Phew!

I can never be sympathetic for such a woman. Coz whatever is happening, is not her fate, but is done by her own hands. At least then, she could choose to walk out. But no.

So why should I even sympathize with her? All she's doing is manipulate people for her own benefit in the name of Samrat, self victimization, closing the doors that brings happiness to her life etc etc.

The first tym i hated pakhi was at that tym only yaar that the person whome she claimed to love his guru who he respects so much is lying on the death bed that to while saving him she is telling him about his brother MIA and crying come back come back like everyone in the house was running behind her with danda in their hand leaving ashwini and karishma koi kuch ni bol rha tha usse still, sorry but no friend does that lover to chod doe. I could feel bad for the character because all said and done uske sath bhegalat hi hua tha bhale hi she is majorly responsible for the mess but might be the portrayal is wrong or what i don't feel anything but disgust

Originally posted by: appisuri

The first tym i hated pakhi was at that tym only yaar that the person whome she claimed to love his guru who he respects so much is lying on the death bed that to while saving him she is telling him about his brother MIA and crying come back come back like everyone in the house was running behind her with danda in their hand leaving ashwini and karishma koi kuch ni bol rha tha usse still, sorry but no friend does that lover to chod doe. I could feel bad for the character because all said and done uske sath bhegalat hi hua tha bhale hi she is majorly responsible for the mess but might be the portrayal is wrong or what i don't feel anything but disgust

I agree! I don't even share a small thing if it worries my friend when she's in trouble. Yaha pe toh itni badi baat bol diya, why? Just to bring him back? and you call it friendship(or love, whatever)?

Along with that if the actor would have acted.. I would go for Yes.. But if she acted this way..then No for sure..Because she makes Patralekha look crazy, creepy and a harasser(To Virat as well)

Originally posted by: Optimist_d

I agree! I don't even share a small thing if it worries my friend when she's in trouble. Yaha pe toh itni badi baat bol diya, why? Just to bring him back? and you call it friendship(or love, whatever)?

She could clearly feel that how vulnerable he is she could still avoid the conversation but nahee

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Along with that if the actor would have acted.. I would go for Yes.. But if she acted this way..then No for sure..Because she makes Patralekha look crazy, creepy and a harasser(To Virat as well)

Exactly as per i have hweared over here RK was sympathized by the audience yha agar chau na to bhe ni kr pate kabhe agar galti sae bura feel bhe hua toe next scene mae back to square one

Originally posted by: idkwhattoput

You’re still not understanding the question. This is not about Sai. It completely leaves her out and the tracks of harassment are after Sai. This is hypothetical Pakhi w/o being an abuser.

You're taking my point in the wrong context. Let me paraphrase it.

But does love gives her the free pass to ruin someone’s life? You can't ignore someone's mistakes under the garb of love. She had absolutely no intention of upkeeping the vows of her marriage to begin with. Remember her conversation with her father where she said if she'd marry Samrat, it'd give her an excuse to stay closer to Virat. She was behaving obsessively from the very moment she got married to Samrat and that is way before Sai got into the equation. She fgs was not only imagining Virat as her groom during the wedding, she also confessed her love for him on her WEDDING NIGHT.

She had issues with him leaving for his duty in the middle of the wedding. She obsessively tried to contact him knowing he was out there on a mission without giving two hoots about her own husband. She didn't have the sensitivity to wait letting the guy know about his brother being MIA when he had just lost his mentor and was having a breakdown. This was despite his family asking her not to inform him. Do you really think her obsession would've reduced just because Sai was not in the equation? No, it was only exacerbated by her presence.'Mujhe mere dost ki zaroorat hai' was her reaction to Samrat being MIA. She even told her friend something along the lines that she was only feeling bad for the family that Samrat is MIA, because she had absolutely no feeling for the guy.

If she is called a fool in love for being obsessed with Virat, would we extend the same courtesy to Jagtap too since he was also obsessed with Sai and harassing her out of ‘love’. Calling him 30 times a day under the pretext of missing her friend and guilt-shaming the guy for not entertaining her is harassment.Her being in Love cannot be used to brush her every misdeed under the carpet. That's why I said there are people out there who stalk and harass and tease in the name of love, but that is not justifiable under any circumstance.

I might pity her but I'd never sympathize with her.

No..she is a dheet entitled woman who cares about nothing but herself. Got an snobbish approach even if she isn't all that. As mohit said , she only see her benefit else her mouth and eyes both are shut.

Only 1 person matters for paapi, it's herself.