Originally posted by: laksh
I just don't understand why should they agree to everything that kaku says. I used to feel like the whole property is on her name(but how much?
). but even then, if it's ancestral property, all of the others can get their shares legally. If it's earned by her husband, then makes sense. But again, is it much more than what Omi is earning through business or what Ninad earned at army?
I don't think the reason is money or property. It is probably just the hierarchy. They respect or os afraid as she is their vahini, she is Nagesh Chavan's wife. Their name and status could be because of their Kaka. He probably helped Omi to even set up his business.
Yes, I understand that. I have seen in my family(my mother's) too. No matter what the eldest DIL says, she is always correct. Even if it means disrespecting the others, disrespecting the daughters of the family or for that matter, disrespecting their own children. But how long? There should be a full stop for this kind of behavior. This hugely impacts on the next generation :(
After kidnapping drama, I want Omi to go to jail. Then he can move out, support Mohit or do whatever he wants to! I mean itna bhi kya darna ki apne ek laute bete ke liye kuch na karsake???
Right, ofcourse has to be punished.
Their fear is not clear at all. It is ridiculous.
Yes, the day we stop considering log kya kahenge too seriously, this may not end.
Yes, I mentioned about Sai because she is the only one who knows Ninad is a criminal. Aai can surely fight her battles but she needs some motivation to come out of this mess! I don't think Ninad deserves her! Worst husband and worst dad ever!
I have not mentioned Sai because you did. I felt for the kind of person Sai is, she should have known that people will have to learn to fight back. Is she not doing it? They are not Devi that she needs her support. She should motivate others like how Mohit got motivated.
Misunderstanding you see😆 I agree with you here :)
Thankfully there is no Pakhi to instigate any of us🤣
True! He should realize that just because they are elders, the path they followed can not always be correct. I really loved him during Shivani bua's track. he was stern with them.
"Virat should stop carrying a few qualities of his elders. These activities are as a result of the house he was brought up in.'
I have probably not worded it right. What I meant from the above is that his expectations are sometimes due to what he has seen in his family. They are an orthodox family, he doesnt exactly carry old school thoughts but end up expecting due to the expectations of his family. He wants things to be in line with the expectations of the elders of the family. He wouldn't expect Sai, like how Ninad expects from Ashwini, but he wouldn't stop his elders expectations as well always. He likes to maintain peace. Let things go, that are not going to be harmful, as it is. Ofcourse he is okay, as long as those expectations are reasonable and not harmful.
He wouldn't question their conventions. If Sai raises something as a concern, in a polite way, when there are no issues at home, he will think over it and will ask the elders to change it.
If changes has to be brought, if he thinks certain things are unfair, he would go against it. Like her education.
Even I have not worded it right. I mean he should be stern with them and to realize that it is not needed to always be in line with their expectations. I think this is for Ashwini too, maybe to make her happy. This 'let things go' attitude should be changed. I am hopeful that he will be there but it takes time. Whatever you mentioned, it's same as my thoughts :)
Yes, there needs to be a pushing force for people to realize things. When Sai was practicing dance, he said that this is our room. But he should know that not just in case of room, husband and wife are equal in every aspect. Just being a husband doesn't mean he is superior to his wife. he should learn that. I'd ask him to watch Dil Dhadakne Do
I am unable to believe that Virat thinks himself to be superior. I was compelled to think that he sometimes does things in anger and deliberately communicates that she is dependent on him. That is because she doesn't find it necessary to respect him at times, doesn't understand that he has to be kept informed of her decisions.
It is simple, even if he loves her, she is his responsibility too and she cannot act as if she is independent or show him her indifference. Her attitude is his problem. In the process of trying to set it right, he crosses boundaries.
Yes, it goes for both of them. Expressing things with proper words is the need of the hour😆
"His good qualities are that from his mom, but the punishing mentality seems to have been gathered from what he has seen in the elders of the house for long. "
By the above statement, I didn't mean he is carrying his elders actions, he doesn't. He wouldn't. How do I put it? Something like tolerance towards it? Like he is not a person who would apply force, not intentionally, he is not a person who would starve someone, not intentionally, in the process of trying to teach her a lesson, he picks up some wrong examples without his own knowledge. He knows it is wrong, in his calm sense, he would never do it. That is the difference between others and him.
Virat would hate himself to have done that, whereas his elders do it because they don't think it is wrong. They do it with no shame or guilt.
Sai pushes him to the edge and he reacts in an unwarranted way. His emotions are the main culprit, and the house is playing a part when he surrenders to his emotions.
I know. Even I used to shout at my family at top of my voice when I am super pissed and angry at them. Especially when my brother tries to poke me(to make fun of me) at wrong time, they are gone! But over the time, I have learnt to give it back subtly. Coz even I know he's just pulling my leg so there's no need for me to get hyper.
We should learn not to let our emotions impact our behavior. With each other, both of them should use this mantra, "Shaanth Sai Shaanth" or count 10 to 1 or anything to cool them down. Otherwise neither of them will stop and understand what's going on
There is a dialogue in another serial, it says, turning blind eye towards the wrong things doesn't mean shanthi, it means Sannata. Veeru should know this :)
"Virat should not turn blind eye to the happenings in his house.
Learn not to act as a peace maker always."
Time and again, I am failing to understand this behavior in him. I think it started for his Aai's sake, as in, never raised an issue, since she might get into trouble.
I have seen this in my family too. I too follow it sometimes, but what we see in our family is not actually what it is in CN ofcourse 😂😂.
I know, even I do that at times. But like you said, none of this can be compared to what's happening in CN. I think he is used to behave in this way, since his childhood. Like you said, maybe for his aai. We should also notice that she never wanted him to confront his father. So I think I get it and also not get it. Confused AF
So for example, my mom lives with close to my siblings. Many times, some in the family act disrespectfully, or unreasonably. Even during the time that I used to be with her, she wouldn't want me to get into everything, she wouldn't want me to oppose when my sibling or her siblings scolds her or fights with her. She has wanted me to stay away from a few things because she doesnt want a conflict, doesn't find it necessary to make it an issue. She doesn't want me to jeopardise my relationship with them and hers with them too.
Same goes to my mom. She is close to her siblings but the way they talk to her na, I feel like picking up a fight with them. and then I wont, for my mom. But I have learned something these days. Whenever she is on call and I realize that they are disrespecting her, I start shouting from behind. Then they change the topic. It works for me😆👿 I want Virat to pick something like this, where he can make sure that his aai is respected both in his presence and in his absence :)
If people who are too younger than me does it or people whom I know, will understand me or understand that I am not just siding with my mom, but I am only correcting because they are wrong, I am comfortable and become confident to correct them and their actions.
I do not care about jeopardizing my relationship with them, but to respect my mom's expectations, many a times, I get forced into turning a blind eye or should I say, avoid confronting or raising certain things as an issue. This is, when I used to be with them, now when I am not with them, I am even more cautious to not to do anything or raise conflict where my mom will fall into trouble or so that they don't act more unreasonable due to the anger that I am supporting her or objected their actions. I would no way want her to land into problems. Ofcourse these are not as scandalous or as insulting as what Ashwini faces, but even then sometimes in real life too, people behave unreasonably, people always have expectations.
Moms you see. We want to fight for her but we can't fight, again, for her :) But almost all of my mom's siblings don't mess with me now, at least not directly. I won't shout at them, I won't fight with them, but just question them in front of everyone. So they don't want it😆 But since I have not been in a joint family, not sure how things like will be handled
I don't know, somewhere Virat's behaviour looks similar to this, he doesn't want to put his Aai into trouble. He is away for most of the time, it is his profession and he also cannot always be there in the same city. He maintains a cordial relationship for the sake of his Aai too, because the minute he starts to rebel or fight with them, they will make his mom's life miserable in his absence. He can't take her with him everywhere and he knows that his mom wouldn't leave his Dad or the house.
Like I said, joint families are completely different. Especially here, for Virat, Kaku is the head who ties the family together. I also think most men don't understand what's happening. But for now, all I want to see is Virat to support his aai. I can't see her like this🥺
Let's take the example of Naag nadi incident, his mom had to face issues. When Sai had a tiff with the family, his mom was humiliated on the day of Basant panchami. Not that Sai should be tolerating, what I am saying is, for issues that need not be blown up, if Virat revolts, his mom only have to deal with all these and that too all alone.
Just like how I had said that I correct people with whom I am confident with or comfortable, know for sure that they will understand me, Virat corrects people who he thinks will understand him, who wouldn't make it an issue.
I think I am able to understand your point. But something needs to be done, I don't know what.
If he can't take stand for her, he shouldn't insult her atleast :( I want to wait till tomorrow's episode before commenting much on this. Let's see how it goes
This is.my understanding of him and the reason I feel, he is turning a blind eye. But again, all these are because he is totally unaware of what they are capable of. I was mainly upset with him asking the past to be ignored. He told that so that he could focus on his sister's future, but he should have given it a thougt, as what the elders might have done and if it has anything to do with Devi's mental state. I think the reason for it being, he can never imagine that they would have conspired and Devi would have got ill because of their actions.
He assumed Devi went into a trauma because she was separated by Pulkit. But why didn't he think that Harini was taken away by Devi? Didn't he think, in that atleast, they would have had a hand? I am a little blank now 😂😂.
ok this is too much for me! If I was in his place na, I would have surely pestered Pulkit to know the truth, the moment he said, kaku, mai Virat ko sab kuch bata do? I am so upset with the way this whole DevKit fiasco is handled. Why did they bring in Harini if they can't handle the track properly? I think he subconsciously knows something's wrong and is just turning a blind eye again just for some peace. No idea. Jitna yeh discuss karte jaarahe hai na hum, utna hi mai confused hoti jaari ho
The next thing is when he said let's not talk about past, he only thought that in the past the family has lied to separate the couple. He is not able to suspect the way Sai does, because he is carried away with his emotions for his family.
Many may not agree with me, but how come getting Devyani married is a solution to all of this is out of my understanding.(before kidnapping drama)
" Almost all of Virat's actions that are as a result of influence by his family needs to be validated."
I have elaborated what I meant by these. I think this statement is misleading 🙈.
Haha, I understand. I hope I worded my opinions properly this time😆
The day they communicate, I will celebrate!!! He should first stop serving vaadas and jalebis. Then things will automatically fall into place. Na rahegi jalebi, ra rahegi miscommunication.
I know why he doesn't tell Sai about his feelings. Recently, I was surprised that he planned to confess. That is a huge progress.
Yes that is. But look what we got instead
Yes, not everything/everyone's his responsibility!
@bold- this is something so common in most of the households. This needs to change, especially in joint families.
I think, I have not worded it or phrased it right. You have understood my statement right, but that's not I wanted to communicate 🙈. I have mentioned what I meant by these above. I am sorry, it is too lengthy.
I know. But I tend to compare things with real life. Kya kare, aadat se majboor. no need to be sorry for the lengthy one, I like to have such discussions😳
Baaki ka reply baad mein karti hoon 😂😂.
aur bhi hai? I was just patting myself for patiently replying to everything🤣 But I will wait :)
Yahi itna lamba kheench gaya 🙈😂.
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