Originally posted by: Optimist_d
Here you go.
Have just replied and haven't checked what I replied, will not come back to add any further points neither to correct anything😆
I just don't understand why should they agree to everything that kaku says. I used to feel like the whole property is on her name(but how much?
). but even then, if it's ancestral property, all of the others can get their shares legally. If it's earned by her husband, then makes sense. But again, is it much more than what Omi is earning through business or what Ninad earned at army?
I don't think the reason is money or property. It is probably just the hierarchy. They respect or os afraid as she is their vahini, she is Nagesh Chavan's wife. Their name and status could be because of their Kaka. He probably helped Omi to even set up his business.
After kidnapping drama, I want Omi to go to jail. Then he can move out, support Mohit or do whatever he wants to! I mean itna bhi kya darna ki apne ek laute bete ke liye kuch na karsake???
Right, ofcourse has to be punished.
Their fear is not clear at all. It is ridiculous.
Yes, I mentioned about Sai because she is the only one who knows Ninad is a criminal. Aai can surely fight her battles but she needs some motivation to come out of this mess! I don't think Ninad deserves her! Worst husband and worst dad ever!
I have not mentioned Sai because you did. I felt for the kind of person Sai is, she should have known that people will have to learn to fight back. Is she not doing it? They are not Devi that she needs her support. She should motivate others like how Mohit got motivated.
True! He should realize that just because they are elders, the path they followed can not always be correct. I really loved him during Shivani bua's track. he was stern with them.
"Virat should stop carrying a few qualities of his elders. These activities are as a result of the house he was brought up in.'
I have probably not worded it right. What I meant from the above is that his expectations are sometimes due to what he has seen in his family. They are an orthodox family, he doesnt exactly carry old school thoughts but end up expecting due to the expectations of his family. He wants things to be in line with the expectations of the elders of the family. He wouldn't expect Sai, like how Ninad expects from Ashwini, but he wouldn't stop his elders expectations as well always. He likes to maintain peace. Let things go, that are not going to be harmful, as it is. Ofcourse he is okay, as long as those expectations are reasonable and not harmful.
He wouldn't question their conventions. If Sai raises something as a concern, in a polite way, when there are no issues at home, he will think over it and will ask the elders to change it.
If changes has to be brought, if he thinks certain things are unfair, he would go against it. Like her education.
Yes, there needs to be a pushing force for people to realize things. When Sai was practicing dance, he said that this is our room. But he should know that not just in case of room, husband and wife are equal in every aspect. Just being a husband doesn't mean he is superior to his wife. he should learn that. I'd ask him to watch Dil Dhadakne Do
I am unable to believe that Virat thinks himself to be superior. I was compelled to think that he sometimes does things in anger and deliberately communicates that she is dependent on him. That is because she doesn't find it necessary to respect him at times, doesn't understand that he has to be kept informed of her decisions.
It is simple, even if he loves her, she is his responsibility too and she cannot act as if she is independent or show him her indifference. Her attitude is his problem. In the process of trying to set it right, he crosses boundaries.
"His good qualities are that from his mom, but the punishing mentality seems to have been gathered from what he has seen in the elders of the house for long. "
By the above statement, I didn't mean he is carrying his elders actions, he doesn't. He wouldn't. How do I put it? Something like tolerance towards it? Like he is not a person who would apply force, not intentionally, he is not a person who would starve someone, not intentionally, in the process of trying to teach her a lesson, he picks up some wrong examples without his own knowledge. He knows it is wrong, in his calm sense, he would never do it. That is the difference between others and him.
Virat would hate himself to have done that, whereas his elders do it because they don't think it is wrong. They do it with no shame or guilt.
Sai pushes him to the edge and he reacts in an unwarranted way. His emotions are the main culprit, and the house is playing a part when he surrenders to his emotions.
There is a dialogue in another serial, it says, turning blind eye towards the wrong things doesn't mean shanthi, it means Sannata. Veeru should know this :)
"Virat should not turn blind eye to the happenings in his house.
Learn not to act as a peace maker always."
Time and again, I am failing to understand this behavior in him. I think it started for his Aai's sake, as in, never raised an issue, since she might get into trouble.
I have seen this in my family too. I too follow it sometimes, but what we see in our family is not actually what it is in CN ofcourse 😂😂.
So for example, my mom lives with close to my siblings. Many times, some in the family act disrespectfully, or unreasonably. Even during the time that I used to be with her, she wouldn't want me to get into everything, she wouldn't want me to oppose when my sibling or her siblings scolds her or fights with her. She has wanted me to stay away from a few things because she doesnt want a conflict, doesn't find it necessary to make it an issue. She doesn't want me to jeopardise my relationship with them and hers with them too.
If people who are too younger than me does it or people whom I know, will understand me or understand that I am not just siding with my mom, but I am only correcting because they are wrong, I am comfortable and become confident to correct them and their actions.
I do not care about jeopardizing my relationship with them, but to respect my mom's expectations, many a times, I get forced into turning a blind eye or should I say, avoid confronting or raising certain things as an issue. This is, when I used to be with them, now when I am not with them, I am even more cautious to not to do anything or raise conflict where my mom will fall into trouble or so that they don't act more unreasonable due to the anger that I am supporting her or objected their actions. I would no way want her to land into problems. Ofcourse these are not as scandalous or as insulting as what Ashwini faces, but even then sometimes in real life too, people behave unreasonably, people always have expectations.
I don't know, somewhere Virat's behaviour looks similar to this, he doesn't want to put his Aai into trouble. He is away for most of the time, it is his profession and he also cannot always be there in the same city. He maintains a cordial relationship for the sake of his Aai too, because the minute he starts to rebel or fight with them, they will make his mom's life miserable in his absence. He can't take her with him everywhere and he knows that his mom wouldn't leave his Dad or the house.
Let's take the example of Naag nadi incident, his mom had to face issues. When Sai had a tiff with the family, his mom was humiliated on the day of Basant panchami. Not that Sai should be tolerating, what I am saying is, for issues that need not be blown up, if Virat revolts, his mom only have to deal with all these and that too all alone.
Just like how I had said that I correct people with whom I am confident with or comfortable, know for sure that they will understand me, Virat corrects people who he thinks will understand him, who wouldn't make it an issue.
This is.my understanding of him and the reason I feel, he is turning a blind eye. But again, all these are because he is totally unaware of what they are capable of. I was mainly upset with him asking the past to be ignored. He told that so that he could focus on his sister's future, but he should have given it a thougt, as what the elders might have done and if it has anything to do with Devi's mental state. I think the reason for it being, he can never imagine that they would have conspired and Devi would have got ill because of their actions.
He assumed Devi went into a trauma because she was separated by Pulkit. But why didn't he think that Harini was taken away by Devi? Didn't he think, in that atleast, they would have had a hand? I am a little blank now 😂😂.
The next thing is when he said let's not talk about past, he only thought that in the past the family has lied to separate the couple. He is not able to suspect the way Sai does, because he is carried away with his emotions for his family.
" Almost all of Virat's actions that are as a result of influence by his family needs to be validated."
I have elaborated what I meant by these. I think this statement is misleading 🙈.
The day they communicate, I will celebrate!!! He should first stop serving vaadas and jalebis. Then things will automatically fall into place. Na rahegi jalebi, ra rahegi miscommunication.
I know why he doesn't tell Sai about his feelings. Recently, I was surprised that he planned to confess. That is a huge progress.
Yes, not everything/everyone's his responsibility!
@bold- this is something so common in most of the households. This needs to change, especially in joint families.
I think, I have not worded it or phrased it right. You have understood my statement right, but that's not I wanted to communicate 🙈. I have mentioned what I meant by these above. I am sorry, it is too lengthy.
Baaki ka reply baad mein karti hoon 😂😂.
Yahi itna lamba kheench gaya 🙈😂.
Edited by laksh - 5 years ago
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