Virat and Sai - Page 2

Originally posted by: cheekukabeej

thanks for adding this Mitra. Haven't we seen it in real life again and again. Even though we all know communication is the key. How many times do we actually do it. 😭

The truth is many a time proper communication never takes place in a relationship whether it is love, marriage, friendship, family etc. And the life goes on just like that and people learn to live with each other even with improper communication. It's weird but I have seen it happening.

I have tried it with a person. She misunderstood me and lashed out on me. and I not only apologised for the hurt I caused her unintentionally but also made it very clear where she misunderstood me and what was my true intention. But her anger and ego did not let anything I said in. I said anger and ego both. Because anger subsides with time. Ego doesn't let you move on and see your own fault.

Before this incident I thought if I just make my point clear to the person, everything will be fine because the other person will see my point and the problem will be resolved. I was wrong. Even though I had seen my approach failing before but this incident made me change my perspective. Now sometimes I just let it go.

Sorry for diverting😆

Communication is not easy. How I wish it was.🤔

No no no no no no. Don't get me wrong. Nothing here was to go against what you said. It's just that this thought popped up in my head and I ended up blurring it out.

👏Nice one laksh.

Agreed, if we have already made up our mind that we will speak , for ,against or even about that topic without even logical thinking and knowing the other party, than automatically we have lost half the battle. Cuz,we may not be wrong, but that doesn't mean the opposite is not right as well. So, we need to respect others thoughts rather than forcing thoughts on each other.

Probably, that is why it is said to keep mum in extreme anger and happiness.😆

Thank you for understanding my point of view.....😊

I rarely state my opinions on topics raised on forum.... I recently started commenting that too mostly on OS/SS/FF...... but such appreciation motivates me to comment more and more......

Originally posted by: laksh

Ego becomes a barrier while speaking or while listening to 😣.

Yes.

You know a secret, that we all know but is still a secret , the secret is the problem and that is the solution as well.

Hearing and listening are two different things as you would know. We shouldn't listen to someone to give an answer, we should listen to hear their views or their points, understand that and then reply only if needed. Only then communication will also be of help.

(In real life) I always end up communicating to the people who simply want to listen to respond and not to understand.

I can keep talking for minutes or write pages, it depends on the audience or whom I am talking to whether they want to process the information or not. It is sometimes discarded even without being considered or heard.

You are so right ❤️.And sometimes after being heard. Sometimes people listen only to discard in the end without letting it in.

This is where the ego and anger that you are talking will play a part. One has to calm down, if not immediately, a little later too, think through what was being communicated and not just that must be willing to make amends or willing to come to a common ground.

You are absolutely right. That incident made me realize this fact that sometimes people are naturally egoistic and won't admit their mistake ever. You will laugh if I tell you. The above said woman had once yelled at me in front of everyone without me even being involved in the matter that she was worried about.😆 later she apologized through text message. I thought how mature of her and I replied that was okay. It happens when one is worried. She didn't reply to my text and I found it weird.

So after this incident (where she yelled at me again though this time on phone) I thought I should also apologise for the hurt I caused her. She didn't understand at all. Later I came to know that last time she apologized because I was not the only one she had yelled at. She had yelled at another person and that person has complained against her. So she apologized only to escape any punishment and not because she had realised.🤪

So I also realised that some people are just not worth your time. You are right. Willingness to come to a common ground. If that is absent, nothing can happen.

Originally posted by: ssoujanya

Thank you for understanding my point of view.....😊

I rarely state my opinions on topics raised on forum.... I recently started commenting that too mostly on OS/SS/FF...... but such appreciation motivates me to comment more and more......

This is a free forum. Yesterday Shristhi made it clear to me that we can express our thoughts without any tension because sometimes log syllabus bhi bhool jate hain😆ye to phir bhi comments hain.😆

Originally posted by: cheekukabeej

are yaar. No worries.

This is a free forum. Yesterday Shristhi made it clear to me that we can express our thoughts without any tension because sometimes log syllabus bhi bhool jate hain😆ye to phir bhi comments hain.😆

You go dear, that's the spirit. Just express, and move on. Be positive. Cuz,unable to express causes a greater burden than Expressing. Personal experience 🤗🤗❤🙌

I should put motivational speaker as my 6th career option then😎🤣

Originally posted by: Shristhi2002

You go dear, that's the spirit. Just express, and move on. Be positive. Cuz,unable to express causes a greater burden than Expressing. Personal experience 🤗🤗❤🙌

I should put motivational speaker as my 6th career option then😎🤣

Originally posted by: cheekukabeej

what are first five 🤔

1.Its a secret,I'm working on it🤣(I'll be able to tell if you pm me)

2. Artist(painter)

3.interior designer

4. Traveller and food explorer

5. Author🤣

I know none makes sense right🤣Especially the fifth one🤣🤣🤣

This was one of the best things I have ever read on this forum. To me, your point was correct, don't know how correct it is in reality though. But I loved that you post gave such a beautiful insight to both type of mentalities. It was a brilliant post. I loved it👏

Originally posted by: Shristhi2002

1.Its a secret,I'm working on it🤣(I'll be able to tell if you pm me)

2. Artist(painter)

3.interior designer

4. Traveller and food explorer

5. Author🤣

I know none makes sense right🤣Especially the fifth one🤣🤣🤣

Originally posted by: ShipIsSailing

This was one of the best things I have ever read on this forum. To me, your point was correct, don't know how correct it is in reality though. But I loved that you post gave such a beautiful insight to both type of mentalities. It was a brilliant post. I loved it👏

Thankyou so much for the kind words🤗🤗