Sai's views on her marriage to Virat - Page 4

Originally posted by: jane_austen

@notaquitter I wanted to ask your name too...May I know your name? My name is Shalini....

I don't have to call you Jane Austen then 😆

Hi Shalini 😊

Originally posted by: Shristhi2002

Hmm,I'll be honest ,you know I have missed GC,but I do have seen some clips and that dream as well. So ,I will try to analyse as much as I can over here.

Thanks dear

Reagrding the main question,my answer is no.

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I am not saying as in she blamed him,hated him kimd of way,but yeah ,it was in the sense, lets say in a general direction, it was unexpected. You know ,if out of the blue, if someone asks you to marry, then ot will be a 'no' for the most part.

Exactly

And regarding the dream part,yes,he would have. With or without the villagers. One is ,that is Virat, emotional, and he genuinely did care for Sai and respected Kamal sir,and he is loyal,we have to agree this.

I agree, my views too.

Cuz,here the thing stopping him was not the discomfort of marriage or marriage due to a responsibility, but the promise that he gave to didi. So,it was what was bothering him,rather than marrying Sai I guess.

Right, also just like Sai, he too never thought of marriage. He wanted to keep the promise made to Pakhi.

Reagrding the other questions, I don't think Sai's no had a sense of non-concern over here. Cuz,as I initially said ,Sai was still in a lot of muddled situation,lost her father,emotionally disturbed,and now marriage,even if they both didn't commit properly,but marriage comes with some things and a part of responsibility will be on Sai even if she doesn't want it. So,this. And,she knew of didi,somewhere or other, so she had her doubts,and Sai did care for Virat in a sense,so for him, she might have said no as well. As,I said ,even if it is a marriage for responsibility, marriage itself comes with some responsibilities.

I know what you are saying. My question about whether or not she would wanted support from Virat was to substantiate the previous question. That she had genuinely asked him to back off. If she had genuinely asked him to back off, doesn't it mean that getting or nog getting support from Virat wasn't her concern at all.

Her concern was the marriage itself and then she didnt want him to do anything out of force and then she also had clues about Paakhi. Even if she had fo agree to it at the end, it was only because she didn't have a chance back then and she wasn't in a state to fight this right after she lost her Dad.

Thanks for replying Shristhi ❤❤. Have replied in green.

Originally posted by: laksh

Thanks for giving your viewpoints Andy. As I have mentioned in the comments you also felt that she never wantet to get married. You have pointed out that obviously a 18 year old girl won't think of her marriage.

Your viewpoints are almost the same as others. And even if you have a different view, it is good to learn them and I like to consider them and like to think from that perspective as well.

Thank you ❤❤

She didn't want to marry because of the age but she agreed because of the security part. Didn't want to marry and agreeing to marry has a difference..she was forced by the circumstances to agree to marry because she saw no other way. She didn't want to marry him immediately but when she saw the villagers are almost pressurising her to get married, she wanted to marry Virat, not any other person. If it wasn't Virat but some random stranger, she won't have married in any way. But with Virat she felt secure and trusted him enough to get married with him.

She didn't want to get married but she wanted to marry Virat.

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Sai was not ready for marriage..She had different set of dreams for the next few years and certainly marriage was not a part of the same..

I agree

Yes she felt driven towards Virat was inexplicably attracted to him and did not like the mention of Pakhi by him and yet marriage was not something that was in her mind... She would not have married if things were in her hand..

I agree again

She lost her father.. her only family and when you lose a significant part of your life you do not understand what is the next step you have to take in life. You have no motivation to look forward to no life to dream about..All her dreams until then involved her father..

Very true

I have been in a situation where after losing a significant person in my life I was not able to decide what is to be done with life and yes I was older to Sai the and I did have my other family members..

I am sorry to heat that, hope you are feeling better now ❤

I have also been in that position and I understand how tough it is and as you have said especially for a girl that young.

Your dreams..your aspirations all seem worthless and insignificant when the person you see the dream for..the person who dreamed for you..is no more to see getting it fulfilled..There is no direction to life, no where to go..so many questions unanswered.. and so many thoughts of quitting it all overpowering you.. In such cases one has no mind of own or has too many minds at the same time.. Its very easy for some friend some relative to put a thought or a decision in your mind. To convince you with something that you would not have agreed to , had the situation been normal.. To make you agree with the fact that there is no way out and only this step can help with the situation.

Very well put Asmi 👏👏, I completely agree with you.

@blue love, how you have elaborated her position.

You have rightly pointed out that it in the position that she was in, it was easy for others to convince her, which she otherwise wouldn't have agreed if the situation had been normal.

So I do believe that happened with Sai..Ofcourse she would not have gotten married to someone else, since she knew Virat trusted in him immensely and also had her AAba's vote to count.. The promise that was given to her AAba ..the man was entrusted to take care of her..by her Aaba... That last wish also kind of plays with your brain..You do get wrapped around the last wish of someone you love..It also kind of makes you live..

True, I agree

@bold do you mean to say that his promise to her Dad was like a drive for her to live?

Wow, I felt this when he first told her that her Dad spoke to him right before he passed away. She was very happy to know what it was and then she felt dejected because she didn't want to live without him around.

Then she was again made to consider it when he spoke and scolded her in the hospital.

Then again she knew Virat has someone in his life..she was smart enough to understand it in the very beginning and she wanted to know if this marriage is something that he wants..and if he really wants it then what happens to the one he loves..

"Paakhi ka kya?"

Exactly, she was the one who reminded him to share about his commitment. He was so lost in the concern for Sai, that it didn't steile him to talk to her about his promise to Pakhi.

With Virat's denial to not have her expectations as a Patni..it all shattered for her..

True

The girl was not up for that marriage and she honestly wanted Virat to back out..

Yes, she kept insisting in their car journey when he was dropping her home.

Because by that time she has realised the GC people are not really much interested in taking care of her...They really want to give over her zimmedaari to someone else..She did not really want to be a burden to have a forceful existence in their life..where everytime she would be thinking how they really did not want her to stay back in GC and get her married..

True, you have brought all of her thoughts out 👏👏

She felt too helpless

I am sure GC people loved her enough to not get her married to any random Tom Dick and Harry..I dont believe Maushi would have let that happen..she was always impressed with Virat and liked him as a human being.. Maushi also knew Kamal Joshi's inclination towards him and had also seen his care concern towards both Kamal Joshi and Sai and hence she was driven to take that decision..

Very very true

I too doubt that they will get her married to someone and that is exactly why they insisted on Virat to marry her. It was not just the promise, they also knew that there can be no one more suitable for her than him.

You are very right about Usha Maushi, she was living with them and knew Kamal sir's opinion about him and she was impressed with Virat anyway.

..For Sai it was difficult to deny because Virat was a good man and the GC people did not really appear that they were keen on taking her responsibility..So Sai being the self respecting girl agreed for the marriage .. not because she wanted to ..but in a way she had no choice.. Her going to Virat and desperately asking him to back out and then GC people wont be able to get her married to him was the last respite.. to not get married.. She did not also want to get into a loveless marriage..She did have her own set of dreams for marriage and her would be husband..Virat at that moment was not fulfilling it...

I agree

I am not sure of her dreams for marriage, I don't know or think if she ever thought of it. She wanted to stay with her Dad and probably thought hw would find a best groom for her or may be never thought anything.

But she didn't like that she was only going to be his responsibility and that the marriage wasn't a real one.

For Virat it made sense to get married because no way an orthodox family would have let him get in with an unknown girl in CN.. As his wife she would live with certain degree of respect which would not have been possible if she entered just like his responsibility.. Virat ignores the ways of his family but is not obscure towards it...

I agree, he had no way out at that point of time.

Laksh tried my best to explain Sai's feelings and I do have my personal experience attributing to my reasoning of why Sai went ahead with marriage..I may be wrong..Thanks for tagging me..

Nah nah, you have pointed out a lot of valid things. I am sorry for your loss.

I don't think you are wrong. As you have said, she has wasn't in the right frame of mind to fight against the villagers or Virat about the marriage. She had resigned and anyone in her position might have done the same. She had lost her Dad, what else had she to loose.

This last statement was something I wrote in a flow, but after I wrote it I am reminded of the scene in temple where Virat reminded her that he can never be her husband and all that and she clearly told him that nothing can be more than the loss of her Dad and that she doesn't care. How true was that ❤❤

About tagging, my pleasure, wanted your viewpoints ❤

Thanks for replying Asmi ❤❤. My replies in green.

Originally posted by: SathyaT

I feel Sai requesting Virat to refuse for marriage was genuine.. She was not really prepared for marriage mentally... Considering her age she would have not even thought of getting married in next few years... So definitely she didn't wanted to marry Virat not because she doesn't like him but she was not in a state to get married wilfully...

I completely agree, my views too. Thanks for replying and sharing your views ❤❤.

Originally posted by: notaquitter

Sorry didn’t see this post earlier. My name is Sharmila :)

Hey Sharmila 🤗

Originally posted by: laksh

I don't have to call you Jane Austen then 😆

Hi Shalini 😊

Hey Lakshmi 🤗

Jane Austen is one of my favourite authors. Hence the user name 😆

Originally posted by: cheekukabeej

Hi all,

Did Sai want to get married to Virat?

Please cast your votes for this question.

I have voted yes.

In addition to this, can I have views on the below please?

Virat said Sai that he wasn't marrying Sai because the villagers was pressurising him. He was marrying her because it was his duty and he wanted to take her responsibility.

Let us assume that the villagers blamed Virat that he did not fulfill the promise he made to Kamal sir after Sai's suicide attempt, but they did not go to his house, the morning he woke up from the dream where he rescued Sai, would Virat have still thought of marrying Sai?

Yes

I agree, my view too

And if Virat still wanted to marry Sai for her safety and if there was no pressure from villagers, would Sai have accepted to marry Virat?

No, (And I'm talking about her decision, not her heart)

Ha ha, this explains why the answer to the first question was Yes. I was first shocked 😆

Let us say they did pressurise Virat and Sai as in the show, did Sai really mean when she asked Virat to say no to the marriage?

No

Are you saying that she didn't mean when she asked him to backoff?

Was her request to him to backoff from the marriage genuine or not?

both the questions sound similar to me.

Ha ha ha, true, I shouldn't have asked in the previous question if she really meant it. I missed that 😆 and you caught it ❤

And if it her request was genuine, does it mean that Sai never cared if Virat was or not offering to provide her support?

Please do drop in your comments.

First go read my post.😆 Because I am unable to tag you😭 You will get many answers

Oh ok, will check. Thanks ❤

Sorry, I came online late today and I have been checking everyone's replies and I am replying to them.

Thanks for replying ❤. My replies in green.

Originally posted by: Lostin90s

Even though sai had somewhat grown attached to Virat (she became flustered when virat didn't come to get her discharged), I do feel she was not prepared to get married at that age that's why virat said she could leave him if she wanted after the completion of studies to calm her down and become amenable to the proposal of them getting married.

Thanks for replying ❤❤

Right, I agree. She wasn't prepared to get married and she also didn't want him to marry her against his own will. He also was thoughtful about her state and empathised with her that she had to agree to this marriage even when she didn't want to.

Originally posted by: laksh

Hi all,

Did Sai want to get married to Virat?

Please cast your votes for this question.

In addition to this, can I have views on the below please?

Virat said Sai that he wasn't marrying Sai because the villagers was pressurising him. He was marrying her because it was his duty and he wanted to take her responsibility.

Let us assume that the villagers blamed Virat that he did not fulfill the promise he made to Kamal sir after Sai's suicide attempt, but they did not go to his house, the morning he woke up from the dream where he rescued Sai, would Virat have still thought of marrying Sai?

And if Virat still wanted to marry Sai for her safety and if there was no pressure from villagers, would Sai have accepted to marry Virat?

Let us say they did pressurise Virat and Sai as in the show, did Sai really mean when she asked Virat to say no to the marriage?

Was her request to him to backoff from the marriage genuine or not?

And if it her request was genuine, does it mean that Sai never cared if Virat was or not offering to provide her support?

Please do drop in your comments.

Let us assume that the villagers blamed Virat that he did not fulfill the promise he made to Kamal sir after Sai's suicide attempt, but they did not go to his house, the morning he woke up from the dream where he rescued Sai, would Virat have still thought of marrying Sai?

Well, several people have already said this, in a way I am just agreeing with what has already been said. Although when Virat promised KJ he did not have marriage in his mind. And KJ too did not mean financial support or marriage (in that particular sense of the word), he meant as a friend. The idea of marriage was put forth by the villagers. But as to agreeing to marriage, pressure from villagers did not have much (if at all) to do with it. That decision was taken by Virat alone (because of dream, suicide and whatever else he was thinking), he did not simply succumb to pressure. So, yes he would have married her even if not one visited him that morning.

And if Virat still wanted to marry Sai for her safety and if there was no pressure from villagers, would Sai have accepted to marry Virat?

If it was Sai's decision alone, then no she wouldn't have accepted.

Although, without any pressure from other villagers, say Usha Maushi or Virat alone in some way or the other managed to convince her that marriage was the only way to keep her safe, then I think she would have accepted.

Let us say they did pressurise Virat and Sai as in the show, did Sai really mean when she asked Virat to say no to the marriage?

Was her request to him to backoff from the marriage genuine or not?

Frankly speaking, I think by that point Sai had started trusting Virat and in a way was starting to entertain the idea of marriage. So because of those reasons, when she asked him to run away, she was also willing to marry him(because of circumstances). Yet, her request was very much genuine, because as others have already pointed out she did not want to be burden on anyone nor did she want to even risk tying him in an unwanted relationship. By that point, she was willing to marry him, but she wanted him to be sure, and if he had any uncertainty about marriage, she would rather him back out, than marry her unwillingly. When she asked Pakhi ka kya she was making sure he has though it through and not doing this because of villagers, because if that is the case, she wouldn't marry him, security be damned.

And if it her request was genuine, does it mean that Sai never cared if Virat was or not offering to provide her support?

Like I said she was starting to entertain the idea of marriage. But she wanted to make sure Virat was not doing this because of pressure. She would never let herself be a burden, hence she was already prepared to look after herself if it turns out that she won't be marrying Virat.