Sai's views on her marriage to Virat - Page 3

I feel Sai requesting Virat to refuse for marriage was genuine.. She was not really prepared for marriage mentally... Considering her age she would have not even thought of getting married in next few years... So definitely she didn't wanted to marry Virat not because she doesn't like him but she was not in a state to get married wilfully...

Originally posted by: sukri

The reason why she asked him to say No or backorder was because she didn't understand why he wanted to marry her and take her responsibility. The villagers who knew her since she was a kid didn't want to take her responsibility, maybe due to her nature or worry about her safety or money or because they don't want to.

True, indeed.

So she is not clear on why a new person, who is literally almost stranger in her life wants to help her, that too by marrying her.

Exactly.

Also she also thought he probably had a gf, so she wanted to make sure he is not being forced into all this by villagers without knowing all this.

You have elaborated her thought process. His will was also important for her.

She also might have thought that he is binding himself to the promise to her father when her father probably didn't know about his past/ gf.

Rightly pointed out. I don't think I have thought about her thinking from her Dad's pov. 👏👏👏

It could be true because, during her confrontation with Virat, she asked him why did you not tell my Dad that you already had a commitment.

She ofc understands concept of arranged marriage. She liked him and started respecting him as a person.

Right .

i knew that villagers intend to marry her off, if not Virat today, it will be someone else tomorrow, so why not Virat, whom she knows about already. Her father would have said great things about him and she also has seen his care and protection towards her.

From her side, even if marriage was last thing on her mind, if push comes to shove, she was okay to marry Virat, but she wanted to know what's on his mind.

@italics hmm, I never thought she could have thought all those right after her Dad's death. But I agree with you, she would have thought about it as well.

@bold If she had thought about it, then, yes Virat would be the first best choice even if she had to compromise on getting married that early, in such an young age.

@blue yes, that was her concern

In the end, with overclarification of their stands, both of them created an unnecessary deal and mess.

Hmm, sadly

Thanks for giving your viewpoints Sukri. I have replied in green. ❤❤

Originally posted by: laksh

Hi all,

Did Sai want to get married to Virat?

Please cast your votes for this question.

I have voted yes.

In addition to this, can I have views on the below please?

Virat said Sai that he wasn't marrying Sai because the villagers was pressurising him. He was marrying her because it was his duty and he wanted to take her responsibility.

Let us assume that the villagers blamed Virat that he did not fulfill the promise he made to Kamal sir after Sai's suicide attempt, but they did not go to his house, the morning he woke up from the dream where he rescued Sai, would Virat have still thought of marrying Sai?

Yes

And if Virat still wanted to marry Sai for her safety and if there was no pressure from villagers, would Sai have accepted to marry Virat?

No, (And I'm talking about her decision, not her heart😆)

Let us say they did pressurise Virat and Sai as in the show, did Sai really mean when she asked Virat to say no to the marriage?

No

Was her request to him to backoff from the marriage genuine or not?

both the questions sound similar to me.

And if it her request was genuine, does it mean that Sai never cared if Virat was or not offering to provide her support?

Please do drop in your comments.

Originally posted by: Andy3456

I literally don't have idea what made Virat ya Sai to say yes to the marriage as myself haven't watched the initial episodes before their marriage in Ghkkpm.

😆😆

But yes. I'll try to answer.

That's nice 😊

I may be in the minority to think that Sai wanted to get married to Virat because she didn't try hard to say no to the marriage where she could.

That's your viewpoint, you are entitled to yours 😊.

I guess even Virat asked her the same, if you could do so much for me to escape the situation, then why didn't you use for herself?

I thought he meant to say that if it was possible to backoff from the marriage, you wouldn't be asking me, you would have yourself backed off. I thought he was pointing to her that this was the best solution they had under the given circumstances and was trying to tell her that deep down even she knows it and that is why she is not able to backoff.

You have actually brought out a very important point of their conversation where he read that she knew she didn't have any other choice 👏👏👏

Not sure if you agree or not 😂😂

Obviously a 18 year girl won't think about her marriage when she had to make a career ahead, but she realised that she needed someone who would support her and be guardian to her. The decision of the villagers and by Usha Maushi to marry her off to Virat, was a kind of eye opener to her that she couldn't expect that type of security from them, if not Virat they'll marry her of to a different person because none wanted to take panga from Vitthal Mane. Even you can see in marriage, they were hesitant to arrest Mane.

Right word "eye opener"

Hmm, I am made to think about the eye opener part and that she also realised she needs someone's support from yours and others viewpoints that I have so far read.

So Sai might have been found that guardian and security in Virat (she didn't know toxicity of his family till then) because he was her father's favourite student and Aaba knew him nicely, so it was better to marry a person whom she atleast knew how is, rather than a complete stranger.

@bold right, a guardian and security

I believe that she feels secured with him, so he was the best person to stay with, with or without marriage.

@italics something I am made to think more in this topic discussion.

Financially may be not, because Kamal Joshi for sure had saved enough for medical course or she can get a student loan easily

Right, I don't think she thought about him for her financial needs, he had anyway offered it before he left Gc, before she tried to xommit suicide. So yes, she was looling for a financial support from him is my belief.

but she needed a security emotionally, which she sensed she could get from Virat.

@ I seriously have to start thinking about it from now on 😆

Still she hoped in any way, if Virat say no, because who wants to get married at a small age.

And you said you are in a minority thinking that she wanted to get married to him 😆?

This point that you have mentioned has come because she didn't want to get married and that is why she was hoping tnat he would backout.

I am glad you too think that way.

Yes, age is a big factor and she also considered that she was too young and didn't want to get married that early.

If we consider her monologue to Aaba, it could be felt that she would have lived a simple life in GC,

Yes, I very well remember

but that wasn't safe and easy back then. Vitthal Mane was outside and he could easily chase another goon, may be not Jagtap for the revenge. So it was a conscious decision taken by them back then.

Right

Thanks for giving your viewpoints Andy. As I have mentioned in the comments you also felt that she never wantet to get married. You have pointed out that obviously a 18 year old girl won't think of her marriage.

Your viewpoints are almost the same as others. And even if you have a different view, it is good to learn them and I like to consider them and like to think from that perspective as well.

Thank you ❤❤

Originally posted by: neeraja91

Dont think the idea of marriage occured to either Sai or virat till villagers put it in their heads.

Right

Sai genuinely didnt want to get married but she did seek his comfort.

I agree and it is true.

She knew he is trustworthy and genuinely cares. She wanted him to be at the hospital when she was getting discharged even though she told him not to come. She called put t9 him as he was leaving the room before her suicide attempt too but didnt say anything...

I noticed it all.

She lashed out at him because unconsciously she felt like she could afford to. He wouldn't judge her. He'd take it because he knew that her fathers death was a big deal and shes suffering.

I beg to differ. Anyway, this needs discussion as another topic.

And she did respect him coz her father said such good things about him, he saved her from jagtap. So she wanted to lean on him for support coz she had no one else anyway- UM/villagers clearly thought of her as a burden. but she wanted support only, not marriage especially when she had known all along when she overheard his conversations that he has this special friend called pp who he is clearly in love with/atleast has feelings for.

Right, she wanted him by her side in GC. After UM, she would have liked to seek only from him.

And you are right, she had rightly guessed ir had doubts that he had someone in his life.

Similaly i dont think virat considered marrying her until villagers suggested it and the dream he saw. He was definitely intending to keep a lookout for Sai but dont think he would have married her. If villagers didn't suggest marriage, dream alone may not have been enough unless KJ sir in his dream told him to marry Sai. But KJ sir when he took promise only said- take care of her, not marry Sai.

I didn't mean them not suggesting marriage at all. I meant everything to be the same except that the villagers did not go to to his house the morning he woke up from the dream.

They triggered the thought of marriage in him and that cannot be denied, ofcourse he didn't think that to support her, it was necessary to get married to her.

But their views and his dream and her suicide attempt started to worry him and he didn't want to take a chance to leave her alone again.

I think once marriage was suggested by others neither Sai nor Virat could vehmently oppose it coz for Virat- he was taking her zimmedari. He was attracted to Sai without his own knowledge and definitely protective of her and getting married meant he could take her responsibility without any questions being raised coz he would be her husband

Yeah, he thought he will be able to take her responsibility and will be able to fulfil the promise given to Kamal sir.

and for Sai- she trusted him, the elders who meant a lot to her in GC were forcing it and her dad held virat in high regard.

Right.

She gave him the option of backing out because she knew about pp but he still went ahead. She didnt think of the long term consequences even though i think she was definitely bothered by the fact that he said not to have any expectations from him- to Sai she couldn't understand why he'd want to commit to marrying her if he didnt love her

My thoughts as well.

but virst seed keen so she gave up and figured this marriage was an arrangement for her to have shelter snd support until she finished her studies so she took it. Virat had made the terms clear and so she went with it.

Right, she gave uo because she didn't have a choice and most importantly no will to fight just a few days after her Dad's death.

I am yet to come in with terms that she thought this marriage was an arrangement for her to have a shelter. I feel it is more to do with the helplessness that other's wanted to get her married off and also that Virat is a person she can trust and a person whom she liked, even if they want her to get married.

She didn't really have a choice. She didn't hate virat or have any reason to run away. So really nothing she could've done. If she kept refusing also the villagers would have convinced her. And again she had an "unknown" connection with virat...

Right, I have just mentioned it above.

But if Virat had kept meeting Sai to check on her, especially after suicide attempt, he may have asked her to come stay in his house for few days abd elders would have thrown a fit that he has invited this girl to live with them and maybe living with her and taanas from bk gang would have given virat the idea to consider marrying her....hard to say.

True, but I feel he would have got her a room in hostel instead of calling her to his house.

Thanks for sharing your views ❤❤. Have replied in green.

Originally posted by: cheekukabeej

it's a coincidence. Today I'm going to pen down my views on the episode that I have seen till now. You might get Some/all of the answers in that post.

Oh wow, nice.

Looking forward to it ❤❤

Even though sai had somewhat grown attached to Virat (she became flustered when virat didn't come to get her discharged), I do feel she was not prepared to get married at that age that's why virat said she could leave him if she wanted after the completion of studies to calm her down and become amenable to the proposal of them getting married.

Originally posted by: jane_austen

Did Sai want to get married to Virat?

Please cast your votes for this question.

I don't think Sai would have wanted to marry Virat. She was still mourning her father. She is possessive of Virat and gets hurt when he doesn't come to discharge her from hospital. But still, she is still not in a frame of mind, given her circumstances and age, to get married to anyone.

Very true, I agree, hold the same views.

When the villagers force her to get married, she realizes that she cannot rely on anybody in the world to take her responsibility. So perhaps she might have accepted the marriage since she trusts Virat. But Virat's "ummeed mat rakhna" squashed that possibility.

@bold hmm, it is this which I never thought of. I thought she wouldn't have thought these and had confidence in herself to lead her life alone, ofcourse with Usha Maushi.

I see that many have mentioned this in this topic and looks like I have to start thinking it this way too.

In addition to this, can I have views on the below please?

Virat said Sai that he wasn't marrying Sai because the villagers was pressurising him. He was marrying her because it was his duty and he wanted to take her responsibility.

Let us assume that the villagers blamed Virat that he did not fulfill the promise he made to Kamal sir after Sai's suicide attempt, but they did not go to his house, the morning he woke up from the dream where he rescued Sai, would Virat have still thought of marrying Sai?

Yes. I believe that even if the elders had not come that morning, he would have married her. (Provided they had already asked him to marry her during the post-cremation pooja).

Bang on, I feel the same.

Even if we he had gone to Nagpur as planned, he would have come back to take her with him. I don't think he wanted so much to marry her as want to protect her from harm and support her.

I agree.

But since this opportunity came with the condition of marriage, he would accept that also.

Right

And if Virat still wanted to marry Sai for her safety and if there was no pressure from villagers, would Sai have accepted to marry Virat?

If there was no pressure from the villagers, and Virat proposed to marry her, she would still not have accepted since it came with terms and conditions.

My view too.

I think even if there were no terms and conditions, since she never thought of marriage and wasn't ready for it, she would have declined the proposal.

If there wasn't any t&c, she would not have agreed then given the circumstances. But after spending more time together, (she in hostel, meeting him regularly) she would have eventually accepted.

If he had pursued it 😆, she might have missed him or wanted to be by her side but even then be running away from her feelings and may be one day, both would have developed strong feelings and might confess it to each other.

Let us say they did pressurise Virat and Sai as in the show, did Sai really mean when she asked Virat to say no to the marriage?

Was her request to him to backoff from the marriage genuine or not?

I think it was mixed. She realized that she could not refuse the villagers. But she did not want it to be an ehsaan or burden for Virat. So she was asking him to back off from the offer, in case he was doing so out of pressure - for her self-respect. May be her instinct about Pakhi was also at the back of her mind.

Hmm

Yes, she didn't want it to be an ehsaan om her and wanted him to do only if he too wanted it and not out of force as you have said.

@bold could be

And if it her request was genuine, does it mean that Sai never cared if Virat was or not offering to provide her support?

She always wanted his attention and care. But it wasn't love. And she was not in a frame of mind to want a marriage at that point.

Right, I asked this question mainly to be able to substantiate her request to him to back off from the wedding.

Please do drop in your comments.

Sure, have replied in green. Thanks for replying.

Thanks for sharing your views ❤❤. I have replied in green.

Hi Laksh (may I know your name?)

Hi, I am Lakshmi 😊

Nice question ! And so many interesting viewpoints! This discussion is .

thanks 😊

My answers in blue....

I'm not sure how correct it is. Just my putting my thoughts to be discussed and also contradicted .

They are your thoughts, will be happy to know them.

Originally posted by: jane_austen

@notaquitter I wanted to ask your name too...May I know your name? My name is Shalini....

Sorry didn’t see this post earlier. My name is Sharmila :)

Originally posted by: notaquitter

@laksh guessing your name is Lakshmi or Lakshana 🤔 if I am right I get an OS

Ha ha ha I am Lakshmi 😆😆

An OS for the right guess? Well, I have been writing an OS past two days and somehow haven't finished it. It is too lengthy so splitting them into two parts. Coincidentally it is similar to what you seem to have posted today and had tagged me in. Nothing to do with Amravati but I won't say anything more now 🤭😆