Spashtha se kitne door aur kitne paas? - Page 5

Originally posted by: sukri

I get your view, initially I thought the same, her love for Devi and the fight with Virat clouded her and she behaved this way.

But my point is that she knows Chavans and their views, and still she didn't give a chance to hear Pulkit's side.

Even if Pulkit was wrong one, she didn't have be insensitive to Harini and Madhuri. Sai was never shown like this unnecessarily, so I didn't expect it from her.

But this is exactly where she needs to grow up. She acted impulsively without giving a thought on how to deal with Chavans, what to talk to Pulkit etc.

She jumped to conclusion, she needs to build patience, all these which she needs to learn via zindagi ke tajurbe and age.

Maybe when she eventually talks to Pulkit, we might see her realize it.

Could be, but when you have unresolved feelings and fights at times it does occupy your mind and you don't behave your self. That's what happened with Sai as well (not that it is justified) it just a point of view.

Also lets a draw a parallel (its a stupid one though 😉) - Virat till date whenever he has argued with Sai has never been rude or stern with Vahini, today was the first time he behaved that way with her (putting aside her accusation and everything) his mind was only on Sai. He did not even understand that he had actually manhandled her while trying to teach discipline. This is not the same Virat who had told her that you should know me better that I would not behave like that with any girl. (Kiya uska ulta).

So at times when you are clouded with emotions (here toh those are strong emotions) what is a person supposed to do. That does not mean its right, its just that people behave differently due to their emotions.

Originally posted by: sukri

I also thought the same.

But given that she lives in delusional world, it can be her and their 2 kids.🥺

Ganeemat hai 2 per hi rok diya Pakhi ne apni soch mein bhi!!!!😂

Originally posted by: sukri

I get your view, initially I thought the same, her love for Devi and the fight with Virat clouded her and she behaved this way.

But my point is that she knows Chavans and their views, and still she didn't give a chance to hear Pulkit's side.

Even if Pulkit was wrong one, she didn't have be insensitive to Harini and Madhuri. Sai was never shown like this unnecessarily, so I didn't expect it from her.

But this is exactly where she needs to grow up. She acted impulsively without giving a thought on how to deal with Chavans, what to talk to Pulkit etc.

She jumped to conclusion, she needs to build patience, all these which she needs to learn via zindagi ke tajurbe and age.

Maybe when she eventually talks to Pulkit, we might see her realize it.

Originally posted by: Roch

Could be, but when you have unresolved feelings and fights at times it does occupy your mind and you don't behave your self. That's what happened with Sai as well (not that it is justified) it just a point of view.

Also lets a draw a parallel (its a stupid one though ) - Virat till date whenever he has argued with Sai has never been rude or stern with Vahini, today was the first time he behaved that way with her (putting aside her accusation and everything) his mind was only on Sai. He did not even understand that he had actually manhandled her while trying to teach discipline. This is not the same Virat who had told her that you should know me better that I would not behave like that with any girl. (Kiya uska ulta).

So at times when you are clouded with emotions (here toh those are strong emotions) what is a person supposed to do. That does not mean its right, its just that people behave differently due to their emotions.

I also have an additional view -- Today she was not really "Sai Joshi" -- she is still the wounded wife. The Sai Joshi in her is making her act the way she is, she is trying to be Sai Joshi but she's actually acting out of the pain she's feeling as being an 'unwanted wife', whose right on her husband has been questioned by people who are not part of their private deal. Plus yes, Virat's behaviour bordering on physical force. Still upholding my issues with only the absence of civility and manners, I think her impulsive reaction at seeing Madhuri came from her own feeling as a 'wife'. The anger that took her over when she saw another woman in Pulkit's house was actually the anger she has been feeling in her own life now. She was obviously not in the frame of mind for any rational thinking and it is understandable because who else can have this effect on her if not Virat... So, the rage that she was feeling for Virat also got transferred to Pulkit, even in the tone in which she questioned him about where he resided when he lived in Sundernagar... For that one moment, she didn't want any explanation or she didn't even want to recall any information that she already had -- even about the baby Devyani mentioned --to be able to rationally question and continue her 'investigation'. She was just convinced that Pulkit had 'cheated' Devyani .

On the contrary, if she was in her normal mood she would have probably sympathised with Madhuri, whose position in Pulkit's life is either like Usha Maushi for her Aaba or Sai herself with Virat in the 'deal' for the sake of the child involved here.

I totally agree. Though Ayesha's dialogue delivery was a bit staccato, she more than made up with her expressions. Now these two characters / actors have reached a level of intensity such that they take over the screen when they're together. Nazar nahi hata sakte.

Originally posted by: Bana

Grt analysis as usual! I am glad u brought up Sai’s behaviour at the professor’s house but I feel that just like Virat is not harsh enough on Pakhi, u have not been harsh enough on Sai! I was disgusted by Sai’s thinking & behaviour in these scenes. She jumps hastily to conclusions in her excessive self-confidence, doesnt bother to scratch the surface coz of course the world owes her spashtatha, pronounces judgement on the prof & the lady conveniently forgetting how she has been a victim of the same, and serves out highhanded downright rude behaviour, which should bring her upbringing into question. I believe her father, poor man, has given her a lop-sided princess upbringing, and she completely earned the immaturity & badtameez tags today, as she has done many times.

While we dislike the ones who give her those tags & know their motives to be evil, lets not be blind to the many instances when Sai actually is egoistic, immature, disrespectful, inconsiderate & ill-mannered.

Between yesterday & today, she lost my sympathy.

Today she was not being Aaba's princess but a wife who had suffered the ultimate humiliation at the hands of the family and also the 'deal husband' who wants husband rights. It is her bad day and she has made a bad choice of going on an important mission when she's not really up for it.

But I agree with you that she is immature and impulsive at times and wants instant resolutions to issues -- eg, Amey. She decided even before Virat came up to the bedroom after dealing with the gang... And when she thinks she is right, she does get stubborn and impolite to the extent of being ill-mannered but she has never been uncivil without provocation and that is what bothered me. She concluded Pulkit's culpability towards the 'wife' in Devyani who had may have 'deserted' according to her, without processing information. Kamal Joshi gave her the strength and confidence but he did fail at times to rein her in as a father, it is true. But she has never been uncivil for no reason at all.