Jan 2 episode! - Page 2

Originally posted by: neeraja91

I hope virat changes one more rule in the house- about kitchen duties. Bk ko ghamand hai ki rasoi is in her control. I want Virat to lay down the law about taking turns and not expecting Sai to do any chores before leaving for college and having her only help with chores after coming back home and that too for a fixed time only because mbbs ki padhai bahut hoti hai. Bk ke chehre ka rang dekhne laayak hoga when she has to bend and change rules in the kitchen too. Haha.

No it's not right virat can't interfer in kitchen duties , sai had responsibility as dil too when she married virat she can't ignore it or virat change it.

Marriage is not easy it bring lot of responsibilities with it which can't be ignored many working women manage both office & household duties perfectly. Are they fool ?

IPS sandhya rathi also had managed household duties & her studies, professional duties perfectly in diya baati hum, yes suraj was always there to help sandhya but still sandhya was a good DIL .

Yes in precap what kaku & mast gang did was definitely wrong , they deliberately did that to harm sai , 4 that Virat should take stand .

Sai has to contribute in household duties when she is again again claiming herself virat's wife infront of family .

Originally posted by: deepikagupta9

No it's not right virat can't interfer in kitchen duties , sai had responsibility as dil too when she married virat she can't ignore it or virat change it.

Marriage is not easy it bring lot of responsibilities with it which can't be ignored many working women manage both office & household duties perfectly. Are they fool ?

IPS sandhya rathi also had managed household duties & her studies, professional duties perfectly in diya baati hum, yes suraj was always there to help sandhya but still sandhya was a good DIL .

Yes in precap what kaku & mast gang did was definitely wrong , they deliberately did that to harm sai , 4 that Virat should take stand .

Sai has to contribute in household duties when she is again again claiming herself virat's wife infront of family .

No one is saying that Sai should not contribute. Just make her do lighter chores at the end of day after she is back from College.

Is that too much to ask for? And if you want her before going to college, than at least give her ample amount of notice.

just before going to college, you can't demand her to do work. thats not civilised or fair!

Women are expected handle household duties, even if it is to their own detriment. Changing this notion is important. I cant believe that people still think that women should be the ONLY one to balance work and home. Why? Is it not equally every person's responsibility- man and woman?!

We have all grown up watching and normalizing this and expect that a working woman should be a superwoman and are ready to give examples of those women that "are able to do it all" .

Just because one working woman is very good at multitasking does not mean everyone needs to be.

In the long run, this kind of imbalance only furthers gender inequity.

Nobody is saying a woman should not do household chores but to shame them for "not being able to balance work n home" or expect that they will be the ones to gob"above and beyond" is completely unfair.

Originally posted by: shagun_sarun

No one is saying that Sai should not contribute. Just make her do lighter chores at the end of day after she is back from College.

Is that too much to ask for? And if you want her before going to college, than at least give her ample amount of notice.

just before going to college, you can't demand her to do work. thats not civilised or fair!

Uske liye bhi sai has to work , virat can't do anything as it will only bring taunt for him & 10 times more for Ashwani. I really feel so sorry for her. Virat & Ashwani r already doing a lot for her. Chavan family me sai ko khud apni jagah bani hogi , koi uski help nhi kar sakta , she has to learn to manage things.

If sai had a great bond with d family members then they would had compromise with her but in this case both party be it sai or chavan family r loggerheads both r not ready to listen each other .

In this story Sai has NEVER shirked her responsibilities. She has voluntarily helped out in the kitchen. But what we are seeing is that she is being forced against her will to perform a task when she clearly has something else that is priority. Not only that the task is being designed to harm her. Today the BK gang stoops this low, what more will they expect of her tomm. Virat did not prepare her for all this when he married her forcefully. In the real world she would have left him and gone to a hostel for peace of mind and to actually accomplish her goals. Butbthis is the reel world. So The least we can "hope" for in an itv show is that there is a good message atleast...where the male lead can take a stand for his wife. Sai can take a stance for herself too but its equally important for men to recognize their role. Yes Sai has obligations towards the home but so does every single member of the household. It is incredibly sad to see the womenfolk scheming against each other in these itv shows.

Originally posted by: neeraja91

Women are expected handle household duties, even if it is to their own detriment. Changing this notion is important. I cant believe that people still think that women should be the ONLY one to balance work and home. Why? Is it not equally every person's responsibility- man and woman?!

We have all grown up watching and normalizing this and expect that a working woman should be a superwoman and are ready to give examples of those women that "are able to do it all" .

Just because one working woman is very good at multitasking does not mean everyone needs to be.

In the long run, this kind of imbalance only furthers gender inequity.

Nobody is saying a woman should not do household chores but to shame them for "not being able to balance work n home" or expect that they will be the ones to gob"above and beyond" is completely unfair.

What gender equality u r talking about ? Where does gender equality came from in this case . As virat is not stopping sai from pursuing her dreams. Maybe u think virat's job is very easy one , so he can keep sitting in home whole day looking after sai.

R u really expecting virat who is already doing so much for sai to quit his jobs & dreams , start doing sai share of responsibility , I mean really ?

If virat can't stay home whole day or they give 2 shit to Ashwani .

They will not listen to virat at all specially in sai's case . They will start doing things at his back .

I am not suggesting that anyones job is less easy or difficult than anothers. Homemaker responsibilities are as tough as going out to work. All i said is that i want to see virat say something to the effect that Sai is not available to do all ghar ka kaam at peoples beck and call and that responsibilities should be shared by everyone. That does not mean Sai is not going to help out or that I'm suggesting that virat should stay at home to do Sais work or Ashwini should get tortured instead of Sai. Ashwini was being tortured even before Sai came, and now because of Sai, Ashwini is learning to fight back atleast a little and is slowly recognizing that shes not a doormat. She still has a long way to go but she will get there. Another forum member made a beautiful post about why its hard for women to speak up. Shivani also speaks up but is easily shot down but it is only when Virat speaks that things actually change in the house. Unfortunately reality is that as much as women can speak up fir themselves, its important for men around them to also be sensitive and understanding abd support them.

There are umpteen tasks in the house that a man can help with. For example a guy like Virat that works odd hours and cant cook can also help with keeping his room as clean as possible (jhadu picha karne nahi bola!) or putting his clothes in the laundry or maybe using his day off to wash the vehicles. Ghar main chote bade bahut kaam hote hain. Sabko apne apne hisaab se contribute karna chahiye. Larger point ye hai ki there should be NO conditioning of people to believe that women can only pursue their dreams if they can also balance household chores! And that amounts to gender equity (equity not equality!).

When Sai becomes a doctor depending on her specialty, her job and hours will be as demanding if not more than virat and I say that as someone who is a doctor myself and my mother is a doctor too. And i have heard her speak about how difficult it was in the beginning when she got married to adjust to the traditional expectations on top of her professional ones. But eventually things got better when everyone started pitching in even if it was little little things.

Heres the definition of equality and equity:

The terms equality and equity are often used interchangeably; however, they differ in important ways. Equality is typically defined as treating everyone the same and giving everyone access to the same opportunities. Meanwhile, equity refers to proportional representation.

In this context if Sai is going to be out studying in college and has studying to do afterwards, the equitable distribution of work means that she should have household responsibilities kerping this in mind. And that is exactly what i "hope "to see Virat take a stand for.

Originally posted by: neeraja91

I am not suggesting that anyones job is less easy or difficult than anothers. Homemaker responsibilities are as tough as going out to work. All i said is that i want to see virat say something to the effect that Sai is not available to do all ghar ka kaam at peoples beck and call and that responsibilities should be shared by everyone. That does not mean Sai is not going to help out or that I'm suggesting that virat should stay at home to do Sais work or Ashwini should get tortured instead of Sai. Ashwini was being tortured even before Sai came, and now because of Sai, Ashwini is learning to fight back atleast a little and is slowly recognizing that shes not a doormat. She still has a long way to go but she will get there. Another forum member made a beautiful post about why its hard for women to speak up. Shivani also speaks up but is easily shot down but it is only when Virat speaks that things actually change in the house. Unfortunately reality is that as much as women can speak up fir themselves, its important for men around them to also be sensitive and understanding abd support them.

There are umpteen tasks in the house that a man can help with. For example a guy like Virat that works odd hours and cant cook can also help with keeping his room as clean as possible (jhadu picha karne nahi bola!) or putting his clothes in the laundry or maybe using his day off to wash the vehicles. Ghar main chote bade bahut kaam hote hain. Sabko apne apne hisaab se contribute karna chahiye. Larger point ye hai ki there should be NO conditioning of people to believe that women can only pursue their dreams if they can also balance household chores! And that amounts to gender equity (equity not equality!).

When Sai becomes a doctor depending on her specialty, her job and hours will be as demanding if not more than virat and I say that as someone who is a doctor myself and my mother is a doctor too. And i have heard her speak about how difficult it was in the beginning when she got married to adjust to the traditional expectations on top of her professional ones. But eventually things got better when everyone started pitching in even if it was little little things.

For that not virat but sai has to create bond with family members , for that she don't have to follow all their nonsense rules but still try to gel with them atleast try atleast try to know them , eventually they will also try to connect with her but in this case not possible coz both parties r loggerheads

I m also working woman but my mother in law help me a lot in household work for that my husband don't have to interfer its upto me & saas how to keep our relationship.

Sandhya rathi also faced many conspiracy by bhabo in order to stop her studies to become IPS officer but it was sandhya who proved her point yes suraj was a helping hand . Bhabo even drugged sandhya so that she can't give her main IPS exam & bhabo to was a very traditional saas , it was sandhya was made her place in her in law's house without sacrificing her dreams not suraj don't have much role in sandhya bhabo bond, suraj too helped sandhya a lot as he was reason of sandhya becoming IPS officer , sandhya was someone who don't know cooking ka c bhi. People appreciate that show coz it had reality in it .

Jo precap mein conspiracy show hui ha vo galat hain 100% jispe virat ko bolna chahiye as he was shown in precap but virat interfering in kitchen duty is not right .

What if virat get transferred to some other city as he will not keep sitting in Nagpur always or go for a mission then what will happen with sai , how will see manage without virat's interference in family matter.

All I want to say I want to see sai's journey & struggle towards her dream , I want to see a strong sai not someone for whom always virat takw stand.

We can agree to disagree

# peace out

Originally posted by: neeraja91

Sadistically, I want karishma to let slip in front of Virat and the whole household how PP was talking to her parents about doing a job just because Sai is now going out to work and how shes making it a competition.

That way Virat can see pp's true colors. Even today he gave her the benefit of doubt but i want him to appreciate the difference between Sai and PP's personality. Ek voh hai jisko zubaan bhale hi kadvi hai but iraade aur dil bahut hi saaf hai aur jo jitni jsldi bhadakti hai utni jaldi bhul-bhal ke aage badhti hai aur jab maafi maangne ki baat hai toh dil se maangti hai. Bachpana hai but actually andar se bahut independent aur mature hai joh apne career aur ambitions pe focussed hai. Choti cheezon main khushiyan dhundti hai to overcome the biggest loss possible- the death of her father- her only family. Aur doosri aisi hai ki zubban se bshut hi soft spoken aur samajhdaar lagti hai, susheel bahu jaisi but andar se ekdam petty, envious aur manipulative hai. Joh situation ko sambhalne ke bajaye, aag main ghee daalti hai.bhale hi galti khu ki ho, dusron se sorry bulvayegi aur guilty feel karayegi. Jiski khud ki koi pehchan nahi. Itne doting parents, rich background, itne "supportive" in laws (asliyat main nahi hsi but bahaar se toh voh sab PP ke bhakt hai filhaal) sab hai. But instead of focusing on all that and how to make the situation better for herself, she wants to focus on others. She just wants sympathy and attention but she forgets that shes not the only one with problems. What does she expect from Virat and Sai. Virat se so called pyaar karne ke bavajood shaadi kisi aur se karne ka decision uska tha and now she wants to keep reminding viratof his rotten promise. Why? Girl, dont you have any self respect.

Even if look at everything from PPs lens, why areyou crying over a guy who asked you to marry his brother?! Are you really going to believe anything he says to be true. Jab uska "pyaar" hi saccha nahi toh zabaan kaise hogi. Khud ke liye rona band karke zindagi main kuch karne kr bajaye shes playing petty kitchen politics with the chindi regressive and downright horrible residents of chawan nivas!

@ bold- Virat knows that she compares herself with Sai. Woh usko do teen baar bol chuka hai ab ki yaha koi competition nahi ho raha, Tum khud ko Sai se compare kyu kar rahi ho.

So usko pata hai ki Pakhi competition mei lagi hai aur uske behavior se naraz ho kar bakwas kar rahi har situation mei. Its written on his face that he is disappointed by her comments.