Negative? I feel it's extremely toxic, but people love seeing that and even doing it in real life. In fact there was one great episodic I saw, where the FL breaks up with her bf, cos he was been extremely possessive, had issues of hanging with her friends, who were guys for studies too, and should just talk and report to him, so there was no breathing space.
That's the issue dear! We keep saying we have evolved but we are still stuck with such mentality.
In fact I believe in a relationship, there needs to be space and freedom, which I see lacking nowadays. Space gives you time to explore yourself, and give you some time too. Also you can't just give up your friends or personal life totally. Of course, anyways you will do it less, but it needs to be there. But post marriages people totally change, too. So somewhere, I can't totally blame the television, but they need to show something healthy and people need to accept it, unless just bashing. Problem is people can't see others except lead couple, and even a health relationship, people become insecure, like ML or FL with close friends.
Exactly!
Now see, there's always a boundary and you need to know where to draw the line. You can't let your partner to hog all your space neither should you let your friends to invade privacy. But both are important and it's on you how to strike a balance.
Post marriage thing - sometimes I feel it's like a license. Just a couple of weeks before the pandemic, I had broken up with my long term bestie. We had been friends for like 8 years and I considered her as my sister. Yet, we had some issues and parted ways. Naturally it was affecting me and I felt like this huge portion of my life just got vanished in thin air and I don't know how to cope up. I could not cry or scream and I was suffocating. But then again, another friend of mine who knew us both, I told her about it and she laughed saying it's not permanent and ultimately we would patch up. It would be permanent if one of us had gotten married and then drifted apart.
Now, I don't blame my friend. Even before this, we have had arguments and everything and since we have been very close, anyone would feel we would patch up.
But what's with marriage? Just because I am married, does it give me a license to ditch on my friend who has practically been there all my life. Priority changes after marriage - that's universal.
But it can be the only reason for permanent breakup and other issues aren't important - what sort of logic is this?
So yeah, even we general people don't consider a lot of things that happen in others' lives.
Am glad you liked the interview, and you summed up quite well.
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Agree, there is so much to show, so many issues and stuff. Plus I would even love to see something on triangles than just ditching them, like the buildup and all is so much and they waste months and then vanish in seconds, they can just give a productive story. Yes, it can be normal too but they have to show extremes and I actually wonder why.
Exactly! Sometimes the third angles actually have better character traits and it's amazing to watch their own journey.
Exactly, exactly!! Also, people can move on!! You can't be stuck, in a phase. Like the way it's showed in show, with huge separation of leads, and leads are kinda just present physically, and reason is happiness or soul is lost. Fine, in a part, it's okay. But does it really mean you stop living and have the right to give multiplied pain to others? Like what's the family's fault or your office colleagues or friends fault that you behave cold with them, is their love for you not pure? Haven't they supported and fought with you when needed? Haven't they been your rock support, say in an office project or some tough phase? Balance is also important, and moving on is needed, ofc sometimes you can't get over a person, and you can stay in memories for a while, but that doesn't mean that you give a whole cold shoulder to your dear ones. Why don't shows ever show the turmoil or pain the family or friends will go through if this happens instead of just showing leads suffering most. Firstly suffering is abstract, they make it definite.
Exactly! We have talked about this earlier too that you can't define who is your true love. You can find love again or you may love a person so dearly that you would prefer to live with his/her family. But what about your family?
I hated YHM so much for this reason only. Be it Shagun or Ishita who had left Raman, it didn't give him the license to misbehave and ill-treat Adi. That little boy too had lost her baby sister and mother in one single night. But people were like Raman loves Ishita! What sort of logic is that?
Moving on is extremely important. At least acknowledging is important.
I loved Amelia's separate conversation with both Tom and Link that she loved Owen dearly; may be a small part of her will always love him. But she realized they weren't meant to be together and she was ready to take move forward if Link was okay with her complicated past.
I would rather say, that complete honesty was the ground of their relationship, the way it should have been.
Yes and worst you know is leads will do multiple marriages and separations, and boom, at end they will be together. But the ones who married them or were about to, their investment or turmoil is just thrown out of the window, which is horrible. What was their fault in this nonsense?
Their only fault is they are not the LEADS!
