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Posted: 6 years ago

Originally posted by: Amara_B

I absolutely get what you're saying. Danish does come across oppressive, he seems to believe that if Mehwish can't be happy living a frugal life she doesn't appreciate his love. And he keeps using this as a weapon to silence her when she expresses her desire for a wealthier life, which isn't fair at all.

In the first few episodes, it seemed like before marrying Mehwish he promised he'd give her everything she ever wanted. Now he's stuck in a dead-end job and she's clearly dissatisfied with the life he's providing. Before meeting Shahwaar she says she wants to work so they can send Rumi to school and Danish stops her.

Despite knowing that Mehwish wants a better lifestyle, Danish isn't seen doning anything to find better work. I don't think they ever indicate Danish has tried looking for better work to give his wife and child a better life, and yet he claims to love her so much and keeps saying he can do anything for her.

Danish's mantra seems to be I either stick to this job and my love makes up for our financial situation, or you force me to disrespect my dead dad's memory and take rishwat. It's emotionally manipulative because either way, Mehwish is the bad guy. She's either an ungrateful wife for not appreciating her husband's love and making do with a poor lifestyle, or she's a greedy, pushy woman who is forcing her husband to disrespect his father's memory and partake in illegal work.

Danish isn't brought to account at all for not taking his role as the 'breadwinner' seriously, and looking for other legal and better-paid work. He's the one who says we either make-do with our finances as they are or I take on illegal work, not Mehwish. So as far as work and money are concerned he's the one in the wrong, not Mehwish.

Mehwish is no angel, but I think she's a product of her environment. Danish does have a hand in the bad choices she's now making. That doesn't excuse her infidelity, but her infidelity doesn't excuse Danish's lax attitude towards providing for his family either.

I also think it's interesting that people aren't calling Shawaar out. He's the real negative character here. He's a complete player, pulling Mehwish in is a game to him. He's going to use her and dump her.


I really hope you are not from Pakistan because then I get why u are saying this.

Just to be clear he is doing government job and in Pakistan this is the best job you can get! Most of people who have established there position in good private institute will leave it for government job in a blink.

And if mehwish wanted better life style she shouldn't have married Danish as she was with him before marriage and that's mean she knew his status and if you say she thought that may be he will start earning soon if only he was not doing this job then. And if he already had this job then +1 to my point that she SHOULDN'T have married him if she was looking for luxurious life style.

Further I would like to add one more thing, in Pakistan 80% jobians even if they are highly educated are not able to earn more than 35000 in the start which is close to nothing even for a decent life style, forget high class and their salary increases1000 or 2000 rupee per year or sometimes every other year. While government jobs pay better than this in comparison depends on your education.

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Posted: 6 years ago

I think no-one can excuse Mehwish's behaviour. And I think they should have had a very serious discussion about Mehwish contributing to household expenses in some way before now. She nagged him about Shehwar's job, she could have done that for another 'clean' job before now.

I suppose you could argue that she doesn't really want to work, and she's not really actually doing work for Shehwar. She's just got an excuse to dress up and prance about.

I think Mehwish is very entitled, but I think partly some of that is due to Danish and his worship of her. Danish hi ney usko itna sar pe charhaya hai.

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Posted: 6 years ago

Originally posted by: M.A.K123

I agree with all your points specially about Danish ... He has made no attempts to change their financial situations ..it is difficult to get a new job or even start a business but his only solution to this is to take bribe or live on the income he has .. But he has not looked at other possibilities. He promised to keep Mehwish happy and he is trying

But nothing can justify Mehwish's actions...she could have work earlier but had used Rumi as an excuse not to ...there are many things she could have done from home if she wanted to be more stable and support her husband... and If she was not happy with Danish she could have left him..there is no excuse for infadelity... She is taking an easy way out ...she latched onto the first rich guy who gave her attention ..most importantly she is forgetting about her son in all this ...thats just not done

I'm not saying her infidelity is justified, it's not. What I'm saying is Danish has a role in the bad decisions she's making, and her infidelity doesn't justify him not making an effort to provide for his family.

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Posted: 6 years ago

Originally posted by: Sammi266

I think no-one can excuse Mehwish's behaviour. And I think they should have had a very serious discussion about Mehwish contributing to household expenses in some way before now. She nagged him about Shehwar's job, she could have done that for another 'clean' job before now.

I suppose you could argue that she doesn't really want to work, and she's not really actually doing work for Shehwar. She's just got an excuse to dress up and prance about.

I think Mehwish is very entitled, but I think partly some of that is due to Danish and his worship of her. Danish hi ney usko itna sar pe charhaya hai.

I said this before ...no woman with dignity would have accepted Shawar's job ... Like he is paying her to drink tea with him..dress him up ...n sleep with him ( i have not seen the episode yet but got this from an update) ... Danish does not deserve this ...Rumi does not deserve this

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Posted: 6 years ago

Originally posted by: Famishah


I really hope you are not from Pakistan because then I get why u are saying this.

Just to be clear he is doing government job and in Pakistan this is the best job you can get! Most of people who have established there position in good private institute will leave it for government job in a blink.

And if mehwish wanted better life style she shouldn't have married Danish as she was with him before marriage and that's mean she knew his status and if you say she thought that may be he will start earning soon if only he was not doing this job then. And if he already had this job then +1 to my point that she SHOULDN'T have married him if she was looking for luxurious life style.

Further I would like to add one more thing, in Pakistan 80% jobians even if they are highly educated are not able to earn more than 35000 in the start which is close to nothing even for a decent life style, forget high class and their salary increases1000 or 2000 rupee per year or sometimes every other year. While government jobs pay better than this in comparison depends on your education.

No, I'm not from Pakistan.

However, none of what you said justifies Danish adopting an attitude of 'it's either this job or bribes'. Nor does it absolve him accountability.

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Posted: 6 years ago

Originally posted by: Famishah

There is no justification for what mehwish did.

She is doing what person with no skills or education will do, her way of earning is non ethical period. Millions of people earn money to improve their life style by doing hard work because they are hardworking.

I'm not saying her decisions are 'justified'. What I'm saying is her bad decisions do not justify Danish's bad decisions.

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Posted: 6 years ago

Originally posted by: Amara_B

I'm not saying her infidelity is justified, it's not. What I'm saying is Danish has a role in the bad decisions she's making, and her infidelity doesn't justify him not making an effort to provide for his family.

i know you said there is no excuse for her behaviour but i think only she can be blamed for her bad decisions ... She had a love marriage therefore knew his status well ... Danish promised to keep her happy (it does not necessarily means financially) ...which he does try ..he does have a job ...he is giving her food..clothes (fulfilling basic needs) ...yes he can make effort to earn more but he is not giving Mehwish an awful life that she jumped into Shawar's lap without giving it a second thought

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Posted: 6 years ago

It makes me wonder about their relationship though. Like what kind of love marriage was this that doesn't seem to have a base at all?

Maybe it's one of those 'Romeo-Juliet' relationships where people are so much more in love with each other just because their parents are so against it. It may make sense with the fact that they seem to have absolutely zero family, which is strange for a Pakistani serial.

It took so little for Mehwish to dump her family for Shehwar that it makes you wonder if she was only with Danish to prove a point or if she was still married to Danish was because she never got a chance before.

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Posted: 6 years ago

Originally posted by: Sammi266

It makes me wonder about their relationship though. Like what kind of love marriage was this that doesn't seem to have a base at all?

Maybe it's one of those 'Romeo-Juliet' relationships where people are so much more in love with each other just because their parents are so against it. It may make sense with the fact that they seem to have absolutely zero family, which is strange for a Pakistani serial.

It took so little for Mehwish to dump her family for Shehwar that it makes you wonder if she was only with Danish to prove a point or if she was still married to Danish was because she never got a chance before.

I think she never got a chance before

I dont know if its just me but i never really saw love between Danish and Mehwish ... Its hard to believe they had a love marriage ... The makers should have showed this as arranged

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Posted: 6 years ago

Right? I swear the 'zabardasti shaadi' couples on dramas have more understanding with each other at this point in their relationships than Danish and Mehwish.

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