I absolutely get what you're saying. Danish does come across oppressive, he seems to believe that if Mehwish can't be happy living a frugal life she doesn't appreciate his love. And he keeps using this as a weapon to silence her when she expresses her desire for a wealthier life, which isn't fair at all.
In the first few episodes, it seemed like before marrying Mehwish he promised he'd give her everything she ever wanted. Now he's stuck in a dead-end job and she's clearly dissatisfied with the life he's providing. Before meeting Shahwaar she says she wants to work so they can send Rumi to school and Danish stops her.
Despite knowing that Mehwish wants a better lifestyle, Danish isn't seen doning anything to find better work. I don't think they ever indicate Danish has tried looking for better work to give his wife and child a better life, and yet he claims to love her so much and keeps saying he can do anything for her.
Danish's mantra seems to be I either stick to this job and my love makes up for our financial situation, or you force me to disrespect my dead dad's memory and take rishwat. It's emotionally manipulative because either way, Mehwish is the bad guy. She's either an ungrateful wife for not appreciating her husband's love and making do with a poor lifestyle, or she's a greedy, pushy woman who is forcing her husband to disrespect his father's memory and partake in illegal work.
Danish isn't brought to account at all for not taking his role as the 'breadwinner' seriously, and looking for other legal and better-paid work. He's the one who says we either make-do with our finances as they are or I take on illegal work, not Mehwish. So as far as work and money are concerned he's the one in the wrong, not Mehwish.
Mehwish is no angel, but I think she's a product of her environment. Danish does have a hand in the bad choices she's now making. That doesn't excuse her infidelity, but her infidelity doesn't excuse Danish's lax attitude towards providing for his family either.
I also think it's interesting that people aren't calling Shawaar out. He's the real negative character here. He's a complete player, pulling Mehwish in is a game to him. He's going to use her and dump her.
I really hope you are not from Pakistan because then I get why u are saying this.
Just to be clear he is doing government job and in Pakistan this is the best job you can get! Most of people who have established there position in good private institute will leave it for government job in a blink.
And if mehwish wanted better life style she shouldn't have married Danish as she was with him before marriage and that's mean she knew his status and if you say she thought that may be he will start earning soon if only he was not doing this job then. And if he already had this job then +1 to my point that she SHOULDN'T have married him if she was looking for luxurious life style.
Further I would like to add one more thing, in Pakistan 80% jobians even if they are highly educated are not able to earn more than 35000 in the start which is close to nothing even for a decent life style, forget high class and their salary increases1000 or 2000 rupee per year or sometimes every other year. While government jobs pay better than this in comparison depends on your education.