SPM ~My Musings ~16.9.19 ~ Care component..
Humans respond to both, receiving and giving care. Care, concern, attention,is essential for budding, forging and continuing relationships. With the element of care in mind, I think of two scenarios. One between Kainat and Zaroon, and the other between Saltanat and Madhav. We have Kainat, overly concerned and troubled that Zaroon spots her with Saltanat’s photo. For Zaroon, the photo draws his immediate attention. I found it amusing to hear Kainat refer to the face cream excuse. Face as in Saltanat’s face!! that Zaroon so loved; and cream that relates to Kainat’s desire. How she wishes Zaroon would soften like a cream, towards her face and pamper her on the basis of her new face. I found it typical of Kainat to emotionally blackmail him and remind him in the nicest possible way, that she wants it known that he cares for her, dotes on her, pampers her!
Zaroon’s scene with Kainat is based on his guilt and desperation to show her father in particular, the concern and attention he gives his wife. Compared to Saltanat’s scene with Madhav which also revolves on the element of care, Zaroon’s words regards fulfilling his duty as a husband is concerned, sounds a complete sham. His words are prescriptive, his actions are a mere performance,that he god forgive him, he has to act out to satisfy this rather demanding and eager wife. No wonder he blows out the candles in the room. For him it might mean, snuffing out any misgivings about a light of love between the two. To Kainat it means the hour has come when they will become one!
Saltanat on the other hand throws a wobbler at Madhav not fulfilling her wish to give her a bit of peace. Spontaneously she blames him for being some uncaring brute! who only cares for himself. The sincerity of her fury, her emotions and words, do annoy him, but on the other hand it also compels him to hear her out! and show care and concern for her mental well- being. Such scenes where Saltanat either riddles him with her questions which he briskly evades, by bellowing back to retaliate! Draw our attention. More so to me, such scenes speak of an unspoken care component that exists between them. Despite the every so often, show downs, there lies some caring, liking and attachment somewhere. Interestingly both would probably deny it. But the child in their midst can sense it, see it and jolly well enjoys it!
The high light of the episode for me is where Saltanat draws attention to perhaps the unsung care a single father gives to his child in our society. Within the story line we saw Zainab as a single mother bringing up Kainat, about which much song and dance was made about this single mother, despite the fact that she had the patriarchal backing of Mainjaan. Madhav on the other hand, is seen to be the protective single father, very much left on his own to rear his boy. Although Saltanat challenges, Madhav’s supervisory control over his son. Her disagreements about Krish are overall far from condemning his father’s efforts. The scene where she talks through with Krish, how to overcome bullying of not having a mother, Saltanat actually empowers Madhav’s for his, in actual fact of carrying out the role of both parents rolled into one.
The scene also flags up issues like bullying that children may go through school due to being somehow different to others. Through the scene we also find out that like Kainat’s father, Krish’s mother also walked out on his father Madhav. Saltanat handles the situation very well. As in a divorce scenario, the children of the divorced couple also are divorced from the bond their parents once shared. Saltanat takes care not to malign Krish against his mother, since the boy shows concern about being rejected by his own mother.
Madhav can see that Saltanat’s handling of Krish is simple, yet sensitive to the situation , which both father and son have to go through on their own fronts in life. The scene between the three Saltanat,Madhav and Krish is yet another step towards the three gaining a better understanding of each other. A bond of duty of care, seems to draw Saltanat towards Krish also…
Madhav takes Saltanat to the dargah once again to give her the peace she asked him for. To me his catch phrases of Focus! Concentrate!seem to be set aside. He seems to leave her, to her own pace. Madhav dreads her meeting Zaroon, but as fate would have it , a swooning Saltanat is prevented from falling to the ground ,by Rubina. The touch of hands that goes between them shows an undefined ,sense off familiar care. Nadeem too instinctively shows concern and almost calls her daughter.. Strange sense of concern. As never yet felt by Saltanat before in her memory loss condition. The sense of care, having family around her? Madhav watches from the side-lines as Rubina and Nadeem turn and go their way, leaving Saltanat staring at their backs. Well! Madhav hopes she has got her quota of peace for now.. He hopes she recalls something?
Basically I quite liked the episode.. Zaroon certainly feels he needs to clean up his act ! Only issue is, the care, the tenderness, the love is missing in whatever? he plans to carry out with Kainat! who really shows him how much she cares for his good husband image ,but really she has reduced him to being her puppet. Saltanat’s evil eye is warded off ! courtesy of Krish’s timely intervention. Evil Kainat’s, big night is once again put off! by a sprained back! Zaroon acts as the paramedic! Much relieved by the expressions she gives him every time she comes near him!
Saltanat on the other hand, with her sincere care, attention and concern , is all about ironing out worries and concerns. All about clarifying and reinforcing bonds between a single father and his bright, impressionable son. Unaware Saltanat is also striking a bond of some subtle tolerance with the moody grouch Madhav too. Krish has a wonderful way with both these handful adults! His strength lies in knowing and loving and caring for both his super papaa and dost didi!! His strategy is his pure , childlike belief in acting as the self- appointed peacemaker between the two! 17.9.19 hamlet53
Precap: Saltanat runs to Zaroon’s voiceof calling her.. Madhav watches.. Is hisworst nightmare about to come true?
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