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babita has always put mini and her needs at the front. whatever the situation.

we see mini as a strong independent girl, who is bold and not scared to speak her mind. this is ony because of babita's upbringing. she was only 18 when she got married and not even 19 when mini was born. all her suppressed desires are being fulfilled through mini. babita gave all her hidden courage to mini. if a mother does not give the confidence no child can be so independent.

babita has always put mini first, even when she hid her love for HS. someone mentioned abt HS getting a camera for mini and how babita should have gotten the camera. at that point babita did not have the money. she only had 45,000 which she had to re-invest in business and use for daily things.

when she refused to file an FIR after the college incident was also for mini, because she did not want her daughter to face such personal questions.

even when mini shouted at her so badly, babita cooked her fav food.

she stayed up the entire night to stitch clothes for mini. she hid about her blisters so that mini does not get hurt.

when babita sent ashok to london, she says how she could not forgive ashok, not because he broke babita's trust, but because he broke mini's trust and heart.

when they talk about true love, again she says the same. how much ever ashok might have hurt babita, she will always be thankful to him, because she got mini because of that relation.

coming to the scene of mini wearing old clothes, it is not such a big thing. or babita chosing lehenga for herself.

right now babita is that 18 year old girl who wants to live her life. why is it so difficult to accept that? she has lived for mini for 17 years, why cant she live for herself for once? yes she is a mother, but does that mean that she cant think for herself for once? and mini is mature and old enough to understand that. why is it so strange if a daughter is supporting her mother unconditionally?

and she is not going to forget mini. its just the situation of a second marriage is such that babita is going through so many emotions that she is unable to find her balance.

though it is not mentioned clearly, but babita talks about how her father came under pressure and married her off. she is probably hurt by that. her brother hurt her, husband ditched her. she is having a hard time making herself understand that she can live again and it is ok to trust HS.

coming to babita treating mini as a child or an adult depending on her convenience. that every mom does.

personally, when i need to take a decision and ask my mom she will say, you are old enough, learn to decide for yourself. and in the next second when i sneeze, she is all over me telling me how i am a child and do not know how to take care of myself. a mother daughter relation is such.

Originally posted by: engrr

Beautifully put!

thank you.

and one thing, no one, not even a daughter can love her mother unconditionally, unless the mother loves her unconditionally.

and i was just wathing old episodes, there is the episode where mini gets wet in the rain and is missing, babita slaps her and says how mini is the only one she is now living for, and then biji tells mini how babita lives and dies for mini. and again and again in the show they have shown so many people talking about babita's love for mini. whether it is dadu, biji, lovely, sukhi, rano, preet, mickey, neam bi, HS.

even Ashok. when he overhears lovely talking to sukhi about how babita answered back to mita for mini. he clearly says that babita would not have said anything if mita had not talked shit about mini. he doesnt love babita, doesnt want her, doesnt even know her properly, but knows how much she loves mini, and knows how she will only speak up for mini.

How u guys able to understand babes's situation as in small space of screen & minimal dialogue I can't able to understand her situations thoughts & all🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

Originally posted by: Jannavi

How u guys able to understand babes's situation as in small space of screen & minimal dialogue I can't able to understand her situations thoughts & all🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

Honestly, I don't know. I just do.

🤣🤣I am sure if HS needs counseling all of us will be more than ready to give it. Bas poochne ki deri hai.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

When Babita told off Meeta when Meeta was accusing Minni of becoming poisonous (you had never seen Babita stood her ground until that time) . When Babita supported Minni against the khuranas when she said she wanted to change her last name. When Babita tried to re-connect Minni to her fathers side of the family when she realized that because of her, Minni has lost contact and relationship with those people. When Babita understood Minni's mental health situation and inspite of having a different outlook, went to the doctor to discuss Minni's situation when many times parents don't even take the whole mental health issues positively. When Babita fought with that interviewer when Minni's interview portions were not shown. When Babita understood Minni and Mickey's friendship after her fight with Minni, inspite having social conditioning of "log kya kahenge". When Babita felt unworthy of a mother when Minni sacrificed her admission to get Babita the shoes. When Babita was not ready to accept her feelings for HS because of how Minni would react or if Minni would accept it.

You have some great patience for explaining this stuff!

Minnie is 17-18 year old. She can make decision about what to wear on her own. (She makes decision about her career on her own- clothes are pretty trivial thing compared to that).

And I think that scene was completely unnecessary.

Originally posted by: shruti_luvs_msk

babita has always put mini and her needs at the front. whatever the situation.

we see mini as a strong independent girl, who is bold and not scared to speak her mind. this is ony because of babita's upbringing. she was only 18 when she got married and not even 19 when mini was born. all her suppressed desires are being fulfilled through mini. babita gave all her hidden courage to mini. if a mother does not give the confidence no child can be so independent.

babita has always put mini first, even when she hid her love for HS. someone mentioned abt HS getting a camera for mini and how babita should have gotten the camera. at that point babita did not have the money. she only had 45,000 which she had to re-invest in business and use for daily things.

when she refused to file an FIR after the college incident was also for mini, because she did not want her daughter to face such personal questions.

even when mini shouted at her so badly, babita cooked her fav food.

she stayed up the entire night to stitch clothes for mini. she hid about her blisters so that mini does not get hurt.

when babita sent ashok to london, she says how she could not forgive ashok, not because he broke babita's trust, but because he broke mini's trust and heart.

when they talk about true love, again she says the same. how much ever ashok might have hurt babita, she will always be thankful to him, because she got mini because of that relation.

coming to the scene of mini wearing old clothes, it is not such a big thing. or babita chosing lehenga for herself.

right now babita is that 18 year old girl who wants to live her life. why is it so difficult to accept that? she has lived for mini for 17 years, why cant she live for herself for once? yes she is a mother, but does that mean that she cant think for herself for once? and mini is mature and old enough to understand that. why is it so strange if a daughter is supporting her mother unconditionally?

and she is not going to forget mini. its just the situation of a second marriage is such that babita is going through so many emotions that she is unable to find her balance.

though it is not mentioned clearly, but babita talks about how her father came under pressure and married her off. she is probably hurt by that. her brother hurt her, husband ditched her. she is having a hard time making herself understand that she can live again and it is ok to trust HS.

coming to babita treating mini as a child or an adult depending on her convenience. that every mom does.

personally, when i need to take a decision and ask my mom she will say, you are old enough, learn to decide for yourself. and in the next second when i sneeze, she is all over me telling me how i am a child and do not know how to take care of myself. a mother daughter relation is such.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

When Babita told off Meeta when Meeta was accusing Minni of becoming poisonous (you had never seen Babita stood her ground until that time) . When Babita supported Minni against the khuranas when she said she wanted to change her last name. When Babita tried to re-connect Minni to her fathers side of the family when she realized that because of her, Minni has lost contact and relationship with those people. When Babita understood Minni's mental health situation and inspite of having a different outlook, went to the doctor to discuss Minni's situation when many times parents don't even take the whole mental health issues positively. When Babita fought with that interviewer when Minni's interview portions were not shown. When Babita understood Minni and Mickey's friendship after her fight with Minni, inspite having social conditioning of "log kya kahenge". When Babita felt unworthy of a mother when Minni sacrificed her admission to get Babita the shoes. When Babita was not ready to accept her feelings for HS because of how Minni would react or if Minni would accept it.

When Babita stayed up all night making a dress for Minnie because they couldn't afford a good one back then and Minnie was sad and she wanted a new dress!

Originally posted by: shruti_luvs_msk

babita has always put mini and her needs at the front. whatever the situation.

we see mini as a strong independent girl, who is bold and not scared to speak her mind. this is ony because of babita's upbringing. she was only 18 when she got married and not even 19 when mini was born. all her suppressed desires are being fulfilled through mini. babita gave all her hidden courage to mini. if a mother does not give the confidence no child can be so independent.

babita has always put mini first, even when she hid her love for HS. someone mentioned abt HS getting a camera for mini and how babita should have gotten the camera. at that point babita did not have the money. she only had 45,000 which she had to re-invest in business and use for daily things.

when she refused to file an FIR after the college incident was also for mini, because she did not want her daughter to face such personal questions.

even when mini shouted at her so badly, babita cooked her fav food.

she stayed up the entire night to stitch clothes for mini. she hid about her blisters so that mini does not get hurt.

when babita sent ashok to london, she says how she could not forgive ashok, not because he broke babita's trust, but because he broke mini's trust and heart.

when they talk about true love, again she says the same. how much ever ashok might have hurt babita, she will always be thankful to him, because she got mini because of that relation.

coming to the scene of mini wearing old clothes, it is not such a big thing. or babita chosing lehenga for herself.

right now babita is that 18 year old girl who wants to live her life. why is it so difficult to accept that? she has lived for mini for 17 years, why cant she live for herself for once? yes she is a mother, but does that mean that she cant think for herself for once? and mini is mature and old enough to understand that. why is it so strange if a daughter is supporting her mother unconditionally?

and she is not going to forget mini. its just the situation of a second marriage is such that babita is going through so many emotions that she is unable to find her balance.

though it is not mentioned clearly, but babita talks about how her father came under pressure and married her off. she is probably hurt by that. her brother hurt her, husband ditched her. she is having a hard time making herself understand that she can live again and it is ok to trust HS.

coming to babita treating mini as a child or an adult depending on her convenience. that every mom does.

personally, when i need to take a decision and ask my mom she will say, you are old enough, learn to decide for yourself. and in the next second when i sneeze, she is all over me telling me how i am a child and do not know how to take care of myself. a mother daughter relation is such.

Thank you for putting it out here! Much needed!

I agree with everything!

Originally posted by: rose1000

Even during the camera incident, Babita knew Mini loved photography. So when she started earning money, she could have bought a camera for her. When HS bought it, Babita reacted because she thought HS is trying to get her by bribing Mini. Which means she was thinking about herself, her situation rather than thinking that Mini does deserve a camera. This is how the CVs presented it. I am just stating what CVs have already shown. Perhaps the CVs have something in mind about Babita's complexes which they will deal with after marriage. Mini is just 17. She should be enjoying her life rather than babysitting her mother all the time. A thought that Babita seldom thinks. I have two kids. I It will break my heart if I see them spending their childhood to be my guardian. Childhood or bachpan baar baar nahin aata. Kids should be allowed to be kids. It is the parent's responsibility.

Having said that, I think CVs do have something in mind about Babita's complexes. They gave some hints in the HS - Mini scene today. I really want to know Ashok Babita's initial years of marriage. The solution to the future may lie in her past. Just like HS said today...whatever is there needs to come out first...

As for Baitha's complexes, everyone carries baggage from their childhood. I myself was bodyshamed for the entire childhood which turned me into a shy and timid woman. But when my son arrived all my complexes took backseat and I changed into one fighter mother. There was no HS to advice me. I did it all by myself.That's how a mother's psychology works. That's whay I feel Babitha's compexes can't be an excuse for her neglecting Minnie's needs.How can she even allow Minnie to mother her?

I think in their enthusiasm to celebrate womanhood makers forgot motherhood is the actual celebration of womanhood. Motherhood makes you to search your soul and stand against everything for your child. If Babitha hasn't done that then I can't relate to her as a mother.

P.S This analysis is only about the character Babitha not about the actor.