Originally posted by: misfit007
Mental health unfortunately comes with alot of stigma and the generations preceding us grew up with a very toxic thinking about it. This is especially so for men. For most Mental illness doesn’t even exist.
You’d be surprised how many people still try going for an exorcism over going to a psychiatrist / psychologist.
Speaking from personal experience you can have depression for a long period of time without it stopping. I was diagnosed with it about 11 years ago when i was in my pre: early teena but i’ve had it for much longer, possibly since i was a child and its always there. I realized towards my final year of university that i have nearly all the symptoms for ADHD the side effect of which is also depression and anxiety among other things. That isn’t to say my depression is caused soley because of it but it makes it worse.
It is very much possible for your dad to have depression but he could also be on the spectrum at the same time.
It can be very frustrating to deal with adults in this regard so be patient and think what you want to achieve before going about how.
For instance being formally diagnosed with AdHd now won’t really do anything for me now because I've already suffered through the most period where it’s most challenging.
In my dad’s case, i only want to take him to the therapist because he needs to talk to someone just to let everything out without effecting them. His depression isn’t going to go away but it may unburden him to an extent. Not much because that would require him to face things he no longer has the ability to face So long term and deep therapy is out of question too. What i can do is help him manage his current situation and symptoms.
My Cousin’s wife and i suspect my cousin is on the spectrum too but since he refuses to get tested and it won’t really do anything for him even if he does - we just read up on how to deal with people on the spectrum and what we can do to help.
I recommend following tips on how to deal with people who are on the spectrum while trying to use techniques for depression. It might not make a huge difference depending on his age but it may improve his quality of life. Paitently and repeatedly explaining your point until it sinks in might help.
Also keep in mind that the older you are, the mow difficult it becomes to diagnose. I’m struggling to get diagnosed because it’s really difficult in my age to separate symptoms of adhd from symptoms of depression. My behaviour is a result of alot of things including my environment.
That being said doctors are usually shifty and you generally need to want to be there and willing for therapy or diagnostic tests to work.
Nowdays, mental illnesses is a lot common than we think. Some years ago I had listened to a BBC programme where the doctor told that, nowdays, people are experiencing depression at a very young age.It is because of our social lives with social sites and television.
About my personal experience, my mother suffered form schizophrenia. Its a mental disorder where you see hallucinations. It was about 10 years ago. She started imaginig that someone is mixing something in our water tank, which is slowly killing us. It was so weird for us as she is very kind and loving and doesn't think ill of any people. We were so dombfounded that she can think of something like that. Then, she started imagining someone had set up CCTV camera in our house and looking at us. She also imagined our relatives making plans to kill her. Initially we thought that she watches too many serials. Hence, these kinds of thoughts are comming. But later when the symptoms worsen, i told her to check the doctor. She didint take my suggestion seriously as she felt what she was seeing is real. Only when someone outside of my house told about someone having same problem she agreed to go to the doctor.
My mother is so afraid of telling other about it because she thinks that our marriage won't happen if someone finds about it . One of my very close friend is also suffering from similar type of mental disease. Nowdays when I talk to it to others I am surprised that many are suffering. It is better that people take these symptoms seriously. The early it is identified, the easier it is to treat.
comment:
p_commentcount