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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: UDEY

Well at this rate, men upholding such regressive views should be obliterated from d face of this earth ...

But jokes apart, u should stop associating with such "friends"(?) asap...
They r not good for your psychological as well as physical health ...

i never knew dey thought dis way abt women... i am so disturbed after dis incident... i can never b frnds wid dem any more
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Posted: 11 years ago
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i dnt understand hw cn any women provoke a man to rape her?
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: angelic567

this topic is nt related to d show... still i felt like sharing... today i had a group chat wid my frnds... it was abt discussion abt boys n girls... i was shocked at wat the boys said... they were repeatedly saying dat Ok, being a guy who was born and brought up in town of india currently living in US working as psychologist in prison will try to give my most honest answers, after that like it or hate it !!
1. men r stonger dan women physically yes men are strong than women, emotionally/practically, women are way way more stronger !!
2. women r equally at fault for rape because they dress provocatively not surprised hearing this, few years ago NYC police commissioner commented on eve teasing that gals should not wear too short clothes, many women also believe this so no matter how ridiculous this matter is, ppl do believe it 👎🏼
3. girls should not go out at night... it invites trouble forget girls, even boys shouldn't be going out late at night as it invites trouble. but unfortunately girls have much more to lose. my parents never allowed and till this date where i'm adult still ma questions me going out late at night, and hey she's roght in doing so
4. women should knw cooking and other household chores... its mandatory i don't know abt mandatory but it's beneficial if you know
5. after marriage even working should do d house jobs because they are supposed to well everyone is supposed to, just coz you work doesn't mean household chores will be done on their own, unless you can afford to get domestic help
6. there is no need for men to do house jobs because they are nt supposed to aila 😲 yeh kabse, guess all men in our family are stupid including myself to do household chores and even know how to cook few things 😆
7. women should always cover their body well not just women, i think men too need to cover thier body in public all the time, now to what extent ppl do is their choice 😛
8. even salwar kameez is nt worn properly... dats y women r inviting trouble you can take any clothes and not wear them properly which would invite trouble 😆 but on serious note un funfortunately society does believe it 🤔
9. women should nt b feminist.. else der husband may slap them i don't even know what feminist truly means, have yet to understand properly so no comment but slap them, well i think many ppl should be smacked back of their head, men & women 😛
10. women should listen to their husbands sure nothing wrong in that, but it goes both ways. Proper communication is important key so go ahead listen to ur spouse hubby or wifey

i was so disturbed by this discussion... these guys r very much educated... i tried hard to make them understand d importance of equality... bt dey wer nt able to understand... i am frm a city in kerala... i thought dat people here r much modern ... bt after this i am nt able to think rationally... healthy discussions r welcome.


I am giving this answer taking reality into account. If I am to say society one day will reach a point where there will be purity in ppl's eyes so regardless of what one has wore they respect the individual, i am delusional !! Forget abt rape, we all judge or make some form of notion based on how ppl dress. As far as rape goes it is true regardless of what one wears rape happen. But we can deny as much as we want but ppl do believe short clothes lead to this thing. Now 2 matter are here, one is fighting this nonsense idea so ppl come to senses and reform the MEN. But that is going to be long hard process. In the mean time also need to take steps to protect ur self. If taking few steps do that then take steps. call me old school but if that protects women of my household will do that !! Also there needs to be harsh punishment for crimes against women !!

I am not at all surprised listening to these views. I don't have many friends as I don't agree to these ideas so am ousted. Forget them, i am even not allowed to go to many relatives house as i object the way they talk to their wives, often get into fights with my cousins so I'm banned 😆

What is rather sad is women too believe these idea. Take a look at shows, how many female leads are shown with self-respect? Ppl will say it's for love, and i question what good is such love that doesn't have self respect? 😕 those shows get damn good trps !! Not just tv, i see that in my job, so many women come to guys in prison, like thy couldn't find anyone outside 😕

Oh well, discussion can go on forever, what's solution, that's work in process !!
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Posted: 11 years ago
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@ jay even manhandling is romantic in our shows
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Y do u have such friends? Make some new friends who will think like u. I am suure there r plenty of these kind f people in this world like not just from ur region.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: angelic567

@ jay even manhandling is romantic in our shows


Yes I have seen that and just don't get how is that romantic 😕 I ahve asked friends who watch those shows and saw i just don't understand but it's romantic
but then reason they show it is ppl watch and like it 😲 so stop watching such shows !! I just had that argument with bro-sil when i said one very famous comedian keep insulting women and crosses line. well they thought nothing is wrong as only for comedy 😕
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: jay_bpm



Yes I have seen that and just don't get how is that romantic😕I ahve asked friends who watch those shows and saw i just don't understand but it's romantic
but then reason they show it is ppl watch and like it😲so stop watching such shows !! I just had that argument with bro-sil when i said one very famous comedian keep insulting women and crosses line. well they thought nothing is wrong as only for comedy😕


You are talking abt manhandling? Sometimes even rape is romanticised...oh and it's a apparently ok to forgive your husband who might have physically tortured you as far as he becomes a good person in future because apparently one should not get divorced at all cost
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: mnr123

Y do u have such friends? Make some new friends who will think like u. I am suure there r plenty of these kind f people in this world like not just from ur region.

i didnt knew abt their views before... dis was d 1st time such a serious discussion happened... bt dis discussion made me realize their true nature.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: Oishi_sonu


You are talking abt manhandling? Sometimes even rape is romanticised...oh and it's a apparently ok to forgive your husband who might have physically tortured you as far as he becomes a good person in future because apparently one should not get divorced at all cost

a serial in colors showed such a thing... where the girl forgives d husband who tried to kill her... even they got married again n then all coochy coo romance... so disgusting
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: angelic567

this topic is nt related to d show... still i felt like sharing... today i had a group chat wid my frnds... it was abt discussion abt boys n girls... i was shocked at wat the boys said... they were repeatedly saying dat
1. men r stonger dan women

2. women r equally at fault for rape because they dress provocatively
3. girls should not go out at night... it invites trouble
4. women should knw cooking and other household chores... its mandatory
5. after marriage even working should do d house jobs because they are supposed to
6. there is no need for men to do house jobs because they are nt supposed to
7. women should always cover their body
8. even salwar kameez is nt worn properly... dats y women r inviting trouble
9. women should nt b feminist.. else der husband may slap them
10. women should listen to their husbands

i was so disturbed by this discussion... these guys r very much educated... i tried hard to make them understand d importance of equality... bt dey wer nt able to understand... i am frm a city in kerala... i thought dat people here r much modern ... bt after this i am nt able to think rationally... healthy discussions r welcome.


its not their fault its the upbringing which gave them such stupid values about woman...only one i can say they dont have any respect for woman not even their mothers and sister so they have those view so better just leave them...

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