Originally posted by: Peonies
Great points!! I love your analysis.👍🏼
So Imilie's background must mean that she is seeking that one thing her mother was denied: marriage, a husband, and all that ensures. So while rejecting the whole idea of marriage as a teenager, she is subconsciously craving for that very same thing! Brilliant!! . And she had it, fleetingly, only to lose it again. Now that her marital status is in limbo, it must make her very confused, not knowing how to move forward! And she is only 18.
She is at a crossroads; double-down on her patni dharam and continue as a secret wife, or venture out. Go to school, meet other people, learn about the world. The real Imlie must not be bound by tradition. I don't want her to seek only normal safe things; I want to see Imlie break the mould!
Are you listening CVs?😊
And by her village experience she's not wrong either, if we see in that perspective.
When the villagers saw her with Aditya as his wife , standing by her husband, accepted and acknowledged, during their recent Pagdandiya trip and Aditya doing all the rituals and even in other activities that he needed not necessarily, like participating in the kite flying competition or visiting Imlie's school on her teacher's request , all these definitely increased her social standing in the eyes of the villagers and gained their respect and regard. Let's not forget the villagers still think that they did sleep together on that stormy night ,at least most of them does. But since they're married and together now, they're brushing out all aside and what was then treated as a shame is now being treated with utmost reverence and almost worshipping , many times the villagers literally called Aditya as Devta treating him like God for giving Imlie the respect her mother was denied .
We can tell about right wrong progressive regressive all day. But this is how it is in many places of Rural India and yes India is 70 % rural area still. India is not confined to it's megacities, cities and towns and suburbs, it actually starts beyond them . And the matter of the fact is , in those places a married woman has far more regard in the eyes of the society than an unmarried one , after a certain age especially.
This is why she's so hung up on Sindur mangalsutra and this unacknowledged marriage. It's not like she's lost all her self respect. In fact just the opposite. Inside her mind she associates the marriage and her married status with some thing that she yearns for more than anything and never got - respect in the eyes of the society. She did consider throwing away all signs of marriage but she's psychologically programmed to not being able to let go.
It's easy for us, sitting in our comfort of home life , where we've social respect and position as well as name of our fathers, simple things that we don't even think of consciously since we're having them from birth to judge a girl who never had any of these and never had any chance to have a life either where these things won't matter to her anymore.
In the city also she gets asked by every one who is her father and she's no answer ,must be acutely humiliating.
Edited by MusicMuse - 3 years ago
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