Originally posted by: Khayali_pulao
I am sorry but I have to disagree with you… but as I said I am not telling Abhira to let her be treated like a door mat no…. But can we for a min think he also has her only and where will he show his emotions??? He shouldn’t have called her selfish but that’s purely out of angry (honestly, I have called my own husband at times selfish in a fight but that doesn’t mean that I mean those words for him. I do feel sorry later and apologise and he doesn’t turn away for me as he understands the love and respect I have for him)… but he felt sorry about it as well.. he is not an abuser, this was a fight out of misunderstanding and the gap they had…
I agree not every fight can’t be made up with physical intimacy but that’s a case where the other person is being completely abused and the intimacy is only used for one’s own needs??? Here Armaan felt bad for taking her for granted… he did apologise for that and he has been making up for it as well
Agreed. but the sequence of events is not that this is some random one-off fight like every couple has squabbles and arguments.
he has been taking her for granted for a long time. 3+ months. and more than sex we needed an emotional conversation.
Sex bhi chahiye (lol)- 100%.
they changed the narrative abruptly. till recently it was made apparent they were NOT intimate post shaadi. not even the hugs, kisses were happening for several weeks until Abhira breakdown and Armaan realization. today they are suddenly trying to pass off this argument as something minor , said in heat of moment and made Armaan suggest they have been "close" after marriage also. But everything they gave us doesnt point to that at all. they explicitly gave us scenes of them in bed facing away, Abhira talking to a sleeping Armaan saying come back to me, Armaan not even having a meal with her, etc.
And the argument today could have been written in a 100 different ways which was not the way they gave it if they really wanted to show this as "minor" squabble. The words he said were grossly unfair and out of proportion reaction to what happened which clearly wasnt in Abhiras hands.
Sure, he sincerely apologized for it but the issues havent gone away. sex is one way to bridge the gap but this is not gonna go well if they avoid the actual emotional convo altogether.
And what I didnt appreciate is Abhira actually mentioning "counseling" for couples to then have Armaan almost shut the idea up with kisses and sex. I know that wasnt the actual intent. but thats how it came across from sequence of events standpoint. At the very least they should have shown him agree that they could "try" couples counseling and then have sex. these tiny things matter a lot. We know they wont actually go for counseling because new kaands will happen. but atleast him saying yes, its a good idea is MUCH better than no acknowledgement. from writing standpoint, they either shouldnt bring such lines and if they do, then they should show it acknowledged by the partner. If they really went for counseling also one of the things the therapist may have suggested is being intimate physically as a way to better connect emotionally too. so the sex isnt the problem, its the way things were shown overall. if they follow up sex with actual honest emotionally Abhimaan conversations in upcoming - it'll still be good. but will they give us that?
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