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Monica

@moniluvskinshuk

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Posted: 9 years ago

Today also Our Abhi acted as Problem Solver 😆 . As soon as Rukmani puts her conditionof not allowing Ria to carry on with her medical job , He comes up with his idea of Opening clinic in house . He surely wants everyone to be happy & So even after this idea he immediately sees and understands that Ria is not too happy with that .

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kmfan_2

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Posted: 9 years ago

While I agree with you that he tried to keep all happy, his solution may not work out well...that's what I think...

Ria needs to be away from home to concentrate on her work and deliver effectively in her profession.

Also I think he should have consulted her before proposing it...as she had no choice but to nod as all other's family members agreed and applauded him for the idea...

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Monica

@moniluvskinshuk

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: kmfan_2
While I agree with you that he tried to keep all happy, his solution may not work out well...that's what I think...
Ria needs to be away from home to concentrate on her work and deliver effectively in her profession.

Also I think he should have consulted her before proposing it...as she had no choice but to nod as all other's family members agreed and applauded him for the idea...

I know Di . Actually he is the Man who lives in Present . He always tries to face present Problems and solving it with finding some middle solution . Today also he did the same . I think something will happen coz of which Rukmani will agree .

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pyaaribehna

@pyaaribehna

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Posted: 9 years ago

best would be for Ria and Abhi to leave the house of his parents.

Because someone like Ria would never be happy in a house where Rukmini lives.

I don't understand what Rukku baby's problem is not letting bahus work. not letting them go "out of the house" to work.

In all this Abhi telling that Ria should "open" a clinic from home without consulting Ria speaks volumes for his way of thinking.

Ria likes to go to hospital because the cases one sees there are such that one learns more.

Clinic at home is confining oneself to limited atmosphere with no scope of improving further.

What is the use of Ria marrying Abhi when Ria is so much education oriented and career oriented?

She would have been better off marrying the groom her mom and bua found for her.

What point is there in Ria marrying Abhi and getting into this kind of household where women like Rukmini live says "rang me rang mila kar" etc. ?

Is their family the center of the world or what? thousands of people live in this world

Abhi disappointed me.

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kmfan_2

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Posted: 9 years ago

^^^^

Agree...while being in love is important for marriage there has to be a common understanding on individual dreams too...

Abhi should have told his folks about his professional girl friend before marriage... But then its over. Yesterday he should have spoken to Ria before giving a suggestion to manage the situation.

The one point I love in Ria and her parents is that there is no issue that they can't express freely and Ria's parents knew all about everything between RiYu including the lies, but Abhi could not do the same.

At least now he should have been stronger in supporting her as she really helped the family in a big way. This was the best time for him to stick to his word and leave the house if Ria could not work at the hospital. He should have objected to the condition of his mom...as she always has one.

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pyaaribehna

@pyaaribehna

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: kmfan_2
^^^^
Agree...while being in love is important for marriage there has to be a common understanding on individual dreams too...

Abhi should have told his folks about his professional girl friend before marriage... But then its over. Yesterday he should have spoken to Ria before giving a suggestion to manage the situation.

The one point I love in Ria and her parents is that there is no issue that they can't express freely and Ria's parents knew all about everything between RiYu including the lies, but Abhi could not do the same.

At least now he should have been stronger in supporting her as she really helped the family in a big way. This was the best time for him to stick to his word and leave the house if Ria could not work at the hospital. He should have objected to the condition of his mom...as she always has one.

Don't know why they insist on joint families in these serials. That too with Chacha chachi ki family and their bahus as well.

I am not so much against joint family system but if one has to live in a joint family they should understand the likes and dislikes of all the persons including the bahus.

If every person's wishes are given importance then there will not be any cause for complaint.

Otherwise live as nuclear families. If Rukmini does not like Ria to work then Ria and Abhi should have gotten out.

Don't confuse this with maa ke liye pyaar. If one loves his mom would they do injustice to their wives? What is the meaning of pyaar if Abhi does not understand or take care of his wife's needs and wants?

It is not like Ria gets more experience in a hospital. It is like Ria now likes to work in a hospital for her own reasons which may include getting more experience. Whatever it is her wishes should be taken care of.

Why should Abhi "love" Ria and then make her do all kinds of compromises like in dress/career / behaviour everything which is not at all fair to the woman who married him?

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pyaaribehna

@pyaaribehna

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Posted: 9 years ago

Abhi should have come clean about Ria and her career her parents everything before his marriage.

Should not have tried to "arrange" the marriage and cause Rukmini's wrath.

Whatever Rukmini may say Abhai should have told her the truth bluntly . He did not ask her once before falling in love with Ria and taking matters further.

And Rukmini in what age does she live arranging her son's marriage with some girl of her choice without asking him once what he thinks?

I don't think it happens anywhere in India nowadays. Not in educated families. They make the guy see the girl before marriage is going to be fixed. Ask his opinion about the girl and then fix the marriage. And they ask the girl as well of course.

Here Rukmini fixed the marriage of Abhi with some girl and then asks him to meet the girl in the temple.

Isa hota hai kya? I do not know.

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kmfan_2

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Posted: 9 years ago

^^^^^

Nahi hota...not to my knowledge ...😃

And I have always lived in a nuclear family so all the more I don't know if all they show in serials in joint family set ups happens or no..😊

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Monica

@moniluvskinshuk

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Posted: 9 years ago

Nice Discussions Guyz . Yes I agree that Abhi should have told clearly to his mother yesterday that Ria will go to Hospital . Would not say that He should have left the home as Itna aasaan nahi hota uss ghar ko chodna jisme aapne apna pura bachpan guzaara hai and especially where U got love and care from ur family . So I would say that He just should have left the decision on Rukmani what she decides whether to accept his decision or not . He should have given her little time to think And After that If she should have agreed to it then it's well & good . And if not then he could have left the home with Ria .

On Other Side I also think that May be Abhi will speak to Rukmani . Yes he gave the idea about the clinic , But he also understood that Ria is not happy . Ria ko kehne ki zaroorat bhi nahi padi . So I am sure he will be the one who will speak to Rukmani and will convince her to allow Ria to go to Hospital . We might get some convo between them regarding this as we just saw half side of it yest . Lets wait & See .

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pyaaribehna

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Originally posted by: moniluvskinshuk
Nice Discussions Guyz . Yes I agree that Abhi should have told clearly to his mother yesterday that Ria will go to Hospital . Would not say that He should have left the home as Itna aasaan nahi hota uss ghar ko chodna jisme aapne apna pura bachpan guzaara hai and especially where U got love and care from ur family . So I would say that He just should have left the decision on Rukmani what she decides whether to accept his decision or not . He should have given her little time to think And After that If she should have agreed to it then it's well & good . And if not then he could have left the home with Ria .

On Other Side I also think that May be Abhi will speak to Rukmani . Yes he gave the idea about the clinic , But he also understood that Ria is not happy . Ria ko kehne ki zaroorat bhi nahi padi . So I am sure he will be the one who will speak to Rukmani and will convince her to allow Ria to go to Hospital . We might get some convo between them regarding this as we just saw half side of it yest . Lets wait & See .

itna asaan nahi hota ? fleaving your parents home? really? Then why did jatin bhaiyya get kicked out? by his own mom? after all what does the lady rukmini hope to achieve? by being the way she is?

And the women who come into their house leave their parents their childhoold memories etc and come to live with their in laws. When women do such sacrifices why cannot their likes preferences be given little bit importance?

Even interacting with their husbands is frowned upon. Being confident educated able to be in charge of the situation is not "allowed" in the house? so much so even doctors are not allowed to work?

All the time they talk about men and their childhood and mother's love etc. The women? do they get any "love" at all? what love is there when one has to sacrifice their likes and preferences and be confined inside the home made to "cook" all the time and "evaluated" by unfair human beings like Rukmini ? What does any DIL get in return for being in their house? Women are being trampled upon in the society does not mean it is right or justified.

Love is limited to only the men of the house or what?

I tell you a lady like Rukmini is so opinionated so egotistic that all her children should move out or get kicked out and she should live her life alone.

Because whatever so called principles she has are wrong and unjust. for someone who never considers her DILs as 'beings" she deserves a lesson in life. Hope she gets it.

Edited by pyaaribehna - 9 years ago

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