Yeh Rishta Kya Kehlata Hai 02nd Sep 2024 Written Update and EDT - Page 12

Originally posted by: Mehersudha

my mother in law immediately after my shadi asked me to resign in 2 days. I was not working in a shop to close and come I was in govt service. I was shocked listening to that 2 day deal. I didn't answer her but I did what I wanted next. I took leaves in between and worked till my kids came.Madhav is good orelse fil will try to stamp more in the name of bahu se beti tag. It's personal wish to work and balance everything or prioritize only few things in life as we can't hold everything. Abhira saw how regressive dadi is. Her career is needed first to clear the loan not for herself first. Akshara started career slowly only when needed. She didn't run as lawyer throwing kid aside nor families. She was shown balancing till end. Daily mahabharat in that house to meet the expectations. Choosing armaan is fine but how long he supports her in that family against that daily ruckus. Today he is calm as he doesn't want to talk much tomorrow he may start shouting too. How long she complaints on his own family . Does he have any option to shout on her family like before seasons. So everything poddars have to set for her and bend for her all time. She herself told ek side mein manmania doosri side dragon sa. How long she says dragon sa. Won't he get anger on it. Still he is good accepting that name calling which I haven't seen in previous seasons. No fl has passed information of what she is told or taunted in personal. Till last akshu said maa to her mil never raised a word also. Same for naira how much she took wrath from gvs.

Our story is similar. I was quite young when I got married. I was in IT and I had informed my in laws that I will work post marriage. It was arrange set up . My mother in law asked me to leave my job after around 3 weeks of my marriage. I didn’t allow my husband to speak in between and I told her firmly that I will not leave my career. I did engineering with tons of hard work and it was my dream to work in the company,

She was not at all supportive but I didn’t care about her. I used to wake up at around 5:00 am to make breakfast/lunch for everyone before going to office. After a year, I had hired cook to help me but her nonsense was always there in background.

Mere husband bhi kitne din mere liye bolte and nuclear hone se Maine he mana kiya tha because muje kahi na kahi confidence tha ki I will handle his mother and his grandmother both Bahot patience ki zarurat padti hai

By god grace, we got opportunity in different country and we moved out of that house. I think now she misses me a lot I can see she has changed a lot with a time in years And after living with my devrani, she values me lot more, I can feel her care for me and I can see unko apni orthodox soch ke liye pachtava hai.

Abhira jaise name calling karti hai, rudely response karti hai apni dadi saas ko waise toh pata nahi kain dandana kar taddi se baat karta hoga!

But this demands patience which abhira doesn’t have at all.

Originally posted by: Mehersudha

yesterday seeing her burnt face then only I understood she will do more. It's a mere concern care for the bride shown by family ladies. I was very less weight during shadi time so 2 months my food was to raise weight only. I always had chakkars due to work and shadi stress. My father always after me to take rest oelse dark circles under eyes. It's always chandan pack daily night till shadi. Yesterday listening to vidyas words I got my shadi time ka memories. If Abhi raat has family they take care of everything and if that mayke wale tell these will she feels bad. Her mom was kept as princess before shadi by that family always taking care of her and running after her for everything.Mothers should share these incidents to kids as a memory that's what carried forward. What ak told is eat, study become lawyer. That's where abhira is hanging

Abhira has problem with simple uptan. What has Ak taught her. Vidhya asked her to apply uptan means she genuinely accept her and trying to cover the absence of Ak, even though it is not completely possible. Why create negative thoughts regarding someone's good intentions. Even boys take care of their food and will have skin routine during their wedding nowadays. Where is this feminism, color discrimination came from.

Edited out gen#3 discussion

Originally posted by: Phir_Mohabbat

do you actually want to watch office office on yrkkh or its just to hold Rajan accountable 😂

In west we have shows like suits and all which is based on office but interpersonal relationships are focused more. In Turkish shows like sencai capimi we have office as a base for romance. Heck even sony ka so called lawyer show raisingha whatever Jenny wala was shown more about romance than lawyergiri. I doubt any industry is making these kinda show and audience are watching just for that. Waise bhi rishta audience don't care about career and all. Bas dialogue de diya woke wale to attract urban masses. Why will Rajan change it now and he will butcher lawyer profession further.

I am a consumer of Suits..and if DKP can serve even 1/10th of what they did in terms of cases, I’d be happy to eat my hat ..my simple point is don’t use the career argument purely for Saas-Bahu drama ..if you have the guts to talk of career, have the guts to show it the way it should be shown as well !

THIS IS A "MEMBERS ONLY" POST
The Author of this post have chosen to restrict the content of this Post to members only.

Originally posted by: Krinya

💯 it's fact..for a career oriented women , the family / in laws need to be very supportive so if career is a priority , just look for ppl who would support you..but in abhiras case , she wants to fool herself by thinking she's getting a family , while it's nothing but a cage..Arman and poddars have always been a red flag...

Bahu Olympics 🤣

U know where it all started ? When Arman said let's go get married in a temple , leave this house and abhira dreamt of ghoomar with poddars instead 🤣ab karo ghoomar saari zindagi

@bold Abhira is busy thinking about the vows she has made to Vidya ..no time to think of the vows of marriage that she needs to uphold..where was the need to think ::she should have taken his hand and walked .:just faltu drama that’s not even quality

Originally posted by: shalu1786

Abhira has problem with simple uptan. Her mother made choas to get attention of the family before her Tilak, every show her nakhare for the color of lipstick. What has Ak taught her. Vidhya asked her to apply uptan means she genuinely accept her and trying to cover the absence of Ak, even though it is not completely possible. Why create negative thoughts regarding someone's good intentions. Even boys take care of their food and will have skin routine during their wedding nowadays. Where is this feminism, color discrimination came from.

When Kaveri approached Armaan for applying uptaan he was also busy with some work. She understood that her pota is busy.So she just placed that uptaan on table and left. And in the next scene we saw Vidya approaching Abhira for the same. Even Ab was also busy in her work but Vidya applied it on her immediately. So scenario ek hain. But expectations alag hain. And Kaveri straightaway said Ab's uptaan should contain something more to make it extra effective. Why??? Bride needs to look extra beautiful and fairer when compared to her groom.. By showing all this ye log gender discrimination hi dikha raha haina?? And Ar also went to court in khadi dhoop. Vidya had no objections but when Ab did the same she had. Sunlight man and woman dono ko equally affect karte haina?

https://x.com/adhachaand/status/1830431142316474723?t=WgbKzV4IGx97HbYky8he1g&s=19

I love this scene jiski jalni hain jale jisko jo lagta hain lage yeh mumas boy banega and all that

Abhi to woh abhira ka pankha hain Jan woh banega tab ka tab dekhenge abhi enjoy this

Originally posted by: sharadrocks

I dare you to make this show about Abhira’s career, DKP…double dare …you have no concept of women’s empowerment nor are you interested ..you just want to appear woke by making your FLs mouth these lines about being independent and self-reliant once in a while ..and then they start participating in Bahu-Olympics …or they destroy their own lives and that of those around them like DKP’s own TRP Queen …millions of women in this country juggle careers and families successfully ..it is a matter of time management and fixing priorities smartly …you want to make your FL a victim all the time ..but the fact is she has not understood the ramifications of a grand wedding, particularly where she has no family to back her …she has to shoulder the responsibility that her family would have if they’d been around ..or else put your foot down and say my way or the highway ..you don’t need to marry a man and his family and become a martyr..you still have the freedom to walk out particularly when it is becoming obvious how tough the going is going to get ..the writing sucks and sucks so bad that I am surprised there is O2 left in Rishtaworld for the characters to breathe …

What I got was Abhira is very poor in time management.. she has time to romance Armaan .. she can very well utilise the time to select maang tika , jewellery she was a wedding planner for some time

in the off court time she can go for lehanga fittings along with vidya . The court closes around 5 max .. she can take a auto back home and take vidya with her to the shops in the evening

she can also put the ubtan and everything in the night .. scrub it all over her body .. wait for 30 minutes .. finish her written work for the next day and take a bath and go to sleep

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Our story is similar. I was quite young when I got married. I was in IT and I had informed my in laws that I will work post marriage. It was arrange set up . My mother in law asked me to leave my job after around 3 weeks of my marriage. I didn’t allow my husband to speak in between and I told her firmly that I will not leave my career. I did engineering with tons of hard work and it was my dream to work in the company,

She was not at all supportive but I didn’t care about her. I used to wake up at around 5:00 am to make breakfast/lunch for everyone before going to office. After a year, I had hired cook to help me but her nonsense was always there in background.

Mere husband bhi kitne din mere liye bolte and nuclear hone se Maine he mana kiya tha because muje kahi na kahi confidence tha ki I will handle his mother and his grandmother both Bahot patience ki zarurat padti hai

By god grace, we got opportunity in different country and we moved out of that house. I think now she misses me a lot I can see she has changed a lot with a time in years And after living with my devrani, she values me lot more, I can feel her care for me and I can see unko apni orthodox soch ke liye pachtava hai.

Abhira jaise name calling karti hai, rudely response karti hai apni dadi saas ko waise toh pata nahi kain dandana kar taddi se baat karta hoga!

But this demands patience which abhira doesn’t have at all.

mine is nuclear family from start. My hubby in software night shifts after 10 days of shadi amd and i was in morning shift. For us control is more every day on phone instructions we have to be robots even in nuclear. When the call comes and instructions come I never knew. On top of it we were in centre capital city so many relatives used to flock. From that fold it took time to come out until my son as toddler pulled out . Imagine I was independent by 19 and managing everything and my family is full of freedom types. Cook should not be kept kids not at day care, elders are busy in their life as parents were working so no much scope for me Or help due to night or odd shifts of hubby. I stayed on child leave maximum and in end they didn't sanction me so I had to leave. My fathers dream was we should be in gazetted posts so if I went for an exam cleared it I could have done it. But kids balancing family was priority .My first 8 yrs of life was on that whole dramas and issues and max my hubby doesn't know too I didn't utter. On top of it I should not go to my mayka nor they should come. They are educated but regressive double facade outside one image inside another. I left nonsense and prioritised what I wanted and ignorance is bliss. My hubby is the most kicked son out of others as he takes his decisions even they control. Now he is the best son as he takes care of them monthly once he goes stays with them for half month aa My fil is sick.They changed their words after my beti is born. We changed the city so we got our freshness back with new start . That thin line is there but acceptance is done both sides. It takes lot of time in real life and everything wont go on single hand. Everyone should give in that relationship with patience and understanding not hurting each other. Even if elders say something we should ignore unless it's till neck level. Every day fighting and taunting will not get blessings. Telling in words that they are like our parents is way different from actions. If we understand them like their kids not inlaws and vice versa equation will be set slowly.

Mods... Personal discussion going on with the bits related in episode for shadi career and adjustment.

Originally posted by: shalu1786

Abhira has problem with simple uptan. Her mother made choas to get attention of the family before her Tilak, even show nakhare for the color of lipstick. What has Ak taught her. Vidhya asked her to apply uptan means she genuinely accept her and trying to cover the absence of Ak, even though it is not completely possible. Why create negative thoughts regarding someone's good intentions. Even boys take care of their food and will have skin routine during their wedding nowadays. Where is this feminism, color discrimination came from.

what I feel the miss is akshara never shared past life. If she told story from her birth till whatever happened abhira could have known all this common incidents.This is what a family builds any day the memories.My nani shared her life , struggles how in that period she handled her biggg family.Same my father or mother shared us their stories.This is the basics told to connect to situations and act smartly. Goenkas always referred naira the birth mother reference. Same happened with naira too. She has seen how her mother made that place in singhanias. Separations happened that's a different issue but that also were addressed in kv time how they got separated or due to extreme conditions in akshu time addressed their love and bond against separations. This is purely another series where they don't want to give anything except humiliation. What's wrong in saying the past life to kids why won't they accept the mother easily. So father and mother are made villains hiding the truths of past.

Edited out gen#3 discussion