I feel bad for Anuj

It is pretty cruel writing.

Anuj and Anupama adopt Choti together. They try to love her as much as a parent can love a child, one more than another.

Anupama leaves them for whatever reason, but it is not out of pleasure. In her absence, Anuj tries to fulfill all responsibilities, takes Shruti's help and gives stability and love to Aadhya. Aadhya has moved on but Anuj is stuck.

He still loves Aadhya's mother Anupama. But Aadhya hates her guts. It is rare for a father to be so torn and distraught between the love of his life and his child.

Aadhya's insistence on keeping Anupama away from Anuj's life demands urgent mental health assistance. Even if she is doing it out of a sense of duty to protect her father from Anupama, a child shouldn't have to live with this burden. Adopted or not, a child is a child. She has all the right to stay mad at her mother for leaving her, but she can't and shouldn't dictate her father's relationship with her mother. She is troubled and needs help.

Anuj and Anupama should continue to work it out with Adhya with the help of a qualified doctor. Anupama has to undo the damage of all those years. Instead of another storyline where she leaves them all over again, she should put in the work with her daughter.

But I feel so bad for Anuj who has to choose between the two most important people in his life.

I do not feel any remorse for anuj hes a very bad human and needs his karma

Hes destroyed many lives for his obsession anupama

He married malvika to a brute human and did not bother to take care of her for 10 ywears when she was depressed selling in parks why? Because he was busy saying anupama anupama

He again left Mlavika alone and ran off behind anupama when vanraj was clearly trying to abuse her take advantage of her not for love but her money

GK kaka - no idea where at 80 the poor man is on teerth yatra for last 8 years who took care of anuj 45 years as a nanny and taught him business

his adopted father he betrayed by selling off kapadiya empire and property why for anupama gain bec she left him

ankuash bhaiya, sara, adhik all he betaryed for anupama sake never took care of family who helped him when alone

shruti he used 5 years and threw her like toilet paper for anupama

adhya he has threatened abused done all sort of eshaan ginvana for that adopted kid allowd her abuse by shahs etc

more worst should happen to this man as per karma

this is too less what shall happen

He should rot in mental asylum like salman khan character tere naam movie all life - hes destroyed many ppl for his love of anupam afrom age of 18 years

you cannot destroy your full family life for your love sake 55 years and live happily with your lover - moral of story

you are forgetting so many pl whose life was destroyed by anuj for anupama sake and you are showing sympathy

this is like saying poor murderer why hes suffering in jail - all humans have sob story than even rowdys etc

anuj should have thanked God he was a orphan would have stdied 10th and been a taxi driver or waiter in hotel or doing menial job. His adopted parents and family gave him wealth education status how he repayed them? by destroying their daughter malvika, by abondoning his sister and allowing his daughter abuse by shahs etc all for anupama sake. Instead of tahnking God for giving him such good parents and opportunity anuj decided to misuse opportunity and resources to spy on anupama 26 years than on shahs for rest life instead of taking care of adopted kapadiya family. Shame on such a man

Instaed of anuj another orphan child whose capable and not mad after a woman could have got opportunity to be adopted by kapadiyas. Than everyone life would be saved and happy from anujs madness.

I think kapadiyas did mistake adopting anuj as their child. Anyone whose planning adoption should never watch anuj kapadiya or they may stop adoption decision looking at what anuj did to all kapadiyas and empire etc

But if you see Anuj n Anupama never talked about pre leap issues.All issues are unsolved even now.Their is no realisation on what’s gone wrong.

They both are pushing the blame of their felled marriage on Adhya’s shoulders without realising their own shortcomings.

If Adhya was not in picture then what would be happening in Maan marriage. Anupama would be forever serving shahs n anuj would be doing only compromising.

Best course of action would be now for story is that Anuj got in some accident and either die or in coma so that by default Aadhya’s responsibility n custody fells on Anupama. That way they can mend relationship between them with serious efforts from Anupama’s side n Adhya realising that Anupama always loved her.

Originally posted by: Snowdrrop

But if you see Anuj n Anupama never talked about pre leap issues.All issues are unsolved even now.Their is no realisation on what’s gone wrong.

They both are pushing the blame of their felled marriage on Adhya’s shoulders without realising their own shortcomings.

If Adhya was not in picture then what would be happening in Maan marriage. Anupama would be forever serving shahs n anuj would be doing only compromising.

Best course of action would be now for story is that Anuj got in some accident and either die or in coma so that by default Aadhya’s responsibility n custody fells on Anupama. That way they can mend relationship between them with serious efforts from Anupama’s side n Adhya realising that Anupama always loved her.

Its not only about adhya

anuj never realized hes destroyed kapadiyas his family for anupama and shah sake

also anuj anupama never acknowledged they had ema fooling gaslighting shruti and adhya so far

till they do not accept truth how healing happen if they put all their fault blame on others heads like shruti, mavika, adhya etc

Originally posted by: Anu121790

It is pretty cruel writing.

Anuj and Anupama adopt Choti together. They try to love her as much as a parent can love a child, one more than another.

Anupama leaves them for whatever reason, but it is not out of pleasure. In her absence, Anuj tries to fulfill all responsibilities, takes Shruti's help and gives stability and love to Aadhya. Aadhya has moved on but Anuj is stuck.

He still loves Aadhya's mother Anupama. But Aadhya hates her guts. It is rare for a father to be so torn and distraught between the love of his life and his child.

Aadhya's insistence on keeping Anupama away from Anuj's life demands urgent mental health assistance. Even if she is doing it out of a sense of duty to protect her father from Anupama, a child shouldn't have to live with this burden. Adopted or not, a child is a child. She has all the right to stay mad at her mother for leaving her, but she can't and shouldn't dictate her father's relationship with her mother. She is troubled and needs help.

Anuj and Anupama should continue to work it out with Adhya with the help of a qualified doctor. Anupama has to undo the damage of all those years. Instead of another storyline where she leaves them all over again, she should put in the work with her daughter.

But I feel so bad for Anuj who has to choose between the two most important people in his life.

I dont. He has always chosen Shahs over his own family. He abandoned his sister. He let his family be insulted multiple times by Anupama, including his own mother. He had no issues that his wife spent more time with her ex in laws than her current in laws.

But finally, the worst he did was betray his own daughter. He chose a selfish woman who had abandoned him and his child over his own daughter who has trauma and PTSD because of the woman.

He deserves everything coming his way.

I feel it's Anuj who needs therapy. He is not so majboor as he behaves.if an educated, multi billionaire, influential person cannot take action as and when required, what will happen to ordinary people.

He did not do anything for his sister, asked mukku to hire vanraj once again even after knowing his intention.

He is always found at the doorstep of shahs, parroting baa baa, same people who never left a chance to insult Gk kaka.

After Anuj bhaiya' therapy, both Anuj and anupama needs counselling for resolving their issues. Aaj ye Ghar chor ke Jaa Raha hai, 4 bahar ke log aate hai sunane ke liye, 2 thappad maarte hai..2 din baad anu di chali jaati hai phemily photo phaad kar kabadiya jee ke haath mei thama kar.

Instead of thinking future of his daughter, her well- being, insecurities, he thinks about his own romance every time.

First of all , these people need therapy, counselling..

Last but not least, couldn't he hire a good nanny for his daughter when she was just 6 yr old? Raaste mei padi mili thee Shruti aadhya ko jo woh ghar utha kar le aayi thee apni marji se..

Only solution is to forger the past and gave chance to mend the Relationship Jo ho Gaya usko badla nahi jaa sakta

Though anuj blame anupama and get angry at anupama for silly reason but nothing can be changed so forget the past

Jisko jitna sunana tha suna Liya ab present mein kya kiya jaaye yeh sochna

There was serial where a wife ex boyfriend use to threaten mother that he will show video to ur husband ( her second husband)how she instigate brother in law of her first marriage and lead him to suicide that mother was scare and left home leaving her adopt son 1 month old in paalne in home with out telling anyone not even his husband know that wife has left house

Then after 20 year leap mother Real .daughter who was lost ( that daughter was adopt by mother best friend ahd his husband

And mother ahd his father who adopt son was actually son of mother best friend so both best friend unknowingly adopt each other child

Son was kidnap by mother Nani and she told er sin to throw awy sin and replace son with still born baby

So mother real daughter who was 19 going to to marry 0 year old man because due to this mother s daughter in law can become mother in law of mother best friend and gave right of wife to best friend of her mother because her mother best friend s real mother in law is not letting her daughter law in house

So in order to give right she is going to marry 60 year old man

So when real mother come to know her real daughter going to marry 60 year old her mother sit as Dulhan in place of daughter amd save her daughter getting spoil

Mother did many mistakes like she try to kill best friends through her ex boyfriend .get married to best friend fiance by fraud thst is under ghunhghat

Fake pregnancy clamimg that her child father is best friend s husband

But after 20 year she save her daughter life as well as best friends life and every body praise her forget her all past mistakes

Earlier i too used to feel bad for him but now all i feel after watching him and his anu is cringe cringe and only cringe

Now why would any person have sympathy for someone who is willingly choosing to stay with a toxic woman like Anupamaa who left him & his daughter over an argument putting his daughter's & his own well being,self respect and sanity on stake?How is he any better than Anupamaa who choose Shahs over everyone good who care about her & he chooses Anupamaa over Shruti & AD who are good ppl who care for him

I remember In Kuch Rang pyar ke, there was a scene where Sonakshi explains to her daughter that she would not stop her from having relation with her father but asks her not to compel her and her father to be together. Of course, it's a different thing that they had to come together later, but Anuj has not even tried to sit down with his daughter and explain to her why he and Shruti cannot get married or did not ever assure her that he would respect Adhya's decision if she considers Shruti as her mother and may not want to reconcile with Anupamaa or even tell her that he is still not over Anupamaa and it's difficult for him to see some other person as a partner in her place. Even if I keep aside his unbelievable reasons to stick to Anupamaa while she does not even want his presence, even then he owes an explanation to Adhya. It's sheer cowardice to propose to Shruti and then not live up to the promise because he is too scared to even once talk and put his views in front of Adhya. At least take Adhya into confidence. Women may be transient in his life, but a mother is not transient. As much as Adhya cannot dictate who should be Anuj's partner even if the partner may have a direct impact on her life, Anuj also cannot dictate who would take the place of a mother figure in Adhya's life based on the availability of women in his life. Neither he did do what he had in his heart by having a proper discussion with his daughter nor he did what his daughter wanted nor he did do what he himself promised. What does one say about such a person