Originally posted by: Indulekha00
When you talk about drinking in general, I am someone who has had the chance to meet every kind that you have mentioned in your analysis... Had an uncle who passed due to his over fondness for drinking, the one whom I know ruined his life due to this habit of his... Yet a charmer whom you couldn't even dislike, for whose life I had diligently prayed. Then there is my Pa who drinks only with a select few, whose alcohol tolerance level is very low and you could make out he was drunk from the way he keeps smiling for no good reason. There are the ones for whom drinks are just a prop to have long discussions.. Some who slip into addiction after a few Friday office parties with high profile clients.
Oh yeah then there the fact that different kinds of liquor brings the kick in at different amount of intake.. I have heard that Whiskey takes time to get one inebriated.
yea that was my point -- in some families, they use the drinker tag to dismiss someone. in my own relatives, have seen that attitude very often and it is really ironic because many of them also drink. so it is totally a case of pot calling the kettle black. 🤦 am aware of the effects on family members as well as the kind of complicated dynamics that play out. so my read on chirag and kalindi was based on that. hence my post. :)
Coming to Chirag, we have never seen him in a state where he is not aware of what is happening around him... So I don't like the tag of drunkard that the family has put on him. I think it might be the accident that put that tag on him but he himself said that he was in his complete sense and the cause of the accident was more due to the other driver than him.
my feel is that chirag probably always had a drink or two for quite a while but the family objected to that kind of lifestyle. hence, he was labeled a drunkard causing the accident even when he didn't have a drink.
I kind of get the feel that the accident was just a reason for Madhu to turn her possessive mode over Arjun to the high. Wasn't there a mention of Arjun saving Chirag with donating one of his kidneys? Also in one of her taunts Madhu mentions Chirag ruining his life despite the sacrifice Arj did for him. If so both of them have only one kidney and yet she is more concerned about Arjun's health.
We don't know how it was before, but may be she didn't realize how much she missed her younger son until he was away in US and the accident and his medical situation now gave her the perfect reason to hold him back.
my feel is that she was probably always biased. in real life, the people who have complained of favouritism have always said that it was like that right from the start / from childhood. maybe she had a difficult pregnancy or arjun just looks more like her or who knows what. but I think chirag was always sidelined and he had accepted that.
About Chirag-Kalindi relationship, I get the feel that Kalindi is not as much invested in it as Chirag. Actually I was surprised when he mentioned they were in a relationship since they were teenagers. Such a long relationship brings with it an understanding of your partner and I think Chirag is right in his *shikayat* that he expected her to know him better. She could be right in her excuse that she was a new bahu and didn't know the way to be the bridge between her husband and her sasural. Yet going by the way she is portrayed now, I think she wouldn't have tried much too. Kalindi is presented more as a person who likes good things to happen for her without putting effort. Not really a mean one but a lazy one. Also not all women are cut out to be wives and mothers. I felt that Kalindi belongs to this category who likes being admired and adored without wanting responsibilities.
that is an interesting take but we will have to see how it plays out. my feel is that both are in the marriage but kind of not in it. so chirag has zero expectations from kalindi and neither does she. so they seem sad that they are where they are but it is not like either want to or putting in the effort to make any changes
In my opinion Kalindi's status or hierarchy as the bahu is not really based on her being the wife of the * irresponsible drunkard* son but coz of the lack of wealth and status of her mom's family. It feels more like Madhu was forced to accept Kalindi coz of family pressure as she was the niece of Chilmil and they couldn't make an enemy of Pushkar who had a high position in society. But yes Chirag mishap did give a chance cover up the real reason for her dislike of Kalindi. Have you noticed that we never got a scene of affection between Madhu and Sia, despite she being the only grandchild in the family.
yes it is weird that sia is hardly there but given how madhu is, am also wondering if that attitude is because sia is a girl child? if it was a boy, would she act differently?
This might also be the reason why she is so possessive( controlling is you ask me) of Arjun.. He is her only chance to get the bahu of her choice!
It was really shocking and sad that so many years passed since the accident and none of the family members especially Arjun intervened on behalf of Chirag and made the situation right. It feels sad yo see that Chirag has resigned himself to being the unloved, neglected and most taunted person in the family.
But yes he is intelligent, observant and most efficient member of the family who knows how to diffuse volatile situations.
what stands out to me is that he keeps his dignity despite it all. he is not bitter or angry or frustrated about it. somehow that makes it even more sadder in some ways -- a quietness to it all..
Though Kalindi might have her own reasons for a fling, I am totally against finding the candidate for the fling within the family. But who knows, she might be using Rocky to shock Chirag into reacting (though it does not seem to be so from her prayer yesterday) like a possessive husband, forcing him to take back the reigns of their relationship.
yea she could have found someone else a little less scandalous. they haven't shown us how the affair started right? did rocky hit on her and did she succomb because she was lonely?
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