Exactly my point.....this is a world where acceptance is taken for granted, love is taken for granted. But the fact is that what Abir did for her should have been what she should have expected from anyone in her life. But she didn't expect anything from anyone nor did she demand anything from the relationships in her life. So,when some one treated her as a person who is worth something, she went the extra mile for him. What other people took for granted is something she treasured.
But then I believe that a person's first priority should always be themselves. Somehow, all her bonds are unhealthy because she dosn't know how to maintain healthy boundaries with people in her life. Even her bond with Abir is unhealthy and potentially harmful to herself, because she made it as such, not because Abir is the bad guy. The way a person forms attachments or relationships depends mainly on their childhood. Her way of forming a relationship is basically a form of give and take. Like if someone does something for her she doesn't merely accept it, instead she lies in wait for an opportunity to repay them. She wants to prove she is worthy of the love she is receiving.
But now there are subtle changes in her bond with Abir after marriage. She is more accepting of his love and considers it as her right. Maybe she is on the path of realisation that she should be treated like a person who deserves respect and love. She should realise that Abir is not doing her a favour instead she deserves all his love and respect.
That's a brilliant analysis to mishti's character , I think you decoded most of it
Bold 1 and 2 - don't you feel these two statements are contradictory? I don't agree with the first statement, on the contrary I feel she expects a lot from people around , a constant validation that they won't leave her , that they will accept her the way she is , that's why sometimes she goes out of the way because she wants people to stay back , she has lived that life for some years where she was all lonely, technically no but emotionally yes , so dosent wish to go in those dark years again neither she wants people around her to go there ans spend a lonely life , the helping is her way of giving an assurance to others that don't be afraid , I won't let you suffer alone , I'm there with you....
I know a lot of the extreme reactions she assumes herself on her own like BP getting an heart attack if he gets to know about am rishta, abir getting totally mad at her spying on baba, but she is not wrong is assuming them, if you see from her side, people just left her one by one without giving her proper closures , the ones who adopted her never really tried to explain the big picture even when she became an adult, plus the constant taunts that she comes from a broken family, she doesn't deserve to stay here , she is responsible for 1000% of the miseries , all this leads a low self esteem and confidence beyond a point and that leads to a point where you seek out for the constant assurance and validation and that you deserve to be loved , you deserve to be respected and you deserve to be at this place ....her constant struggle to get a validation becomes a reason for her unhealthiness in relationships , plus mishti is generally a person who has a helping nature she tries to cross oceans for those who have shown no signs of crossing puddles for her , but what she fails to understand is that not all who ask for help are actually seeking out for her help , some are just manipulating her to create a blunder , meenu tops the list 😆 and some just wish to solve the matters in their own way like kuhu.
She feels so secured with abir , the main reason is her relationship with abir is something she formed out of her own will , she own desire to spend a life with him, to love him beyond infinity , all the other relationships were circumstantial for her , those relationships were formed because some people decided to leave her and that's why some accepted her ...she sees it that way , that's why the constant repayment of ehsaan goes there but with abir , he didnt adopt her , he didn't accept her because someone left her, he loved her because he accepted the kind of girl she is , just the way she is , and he acknowledged that aspects of her personality that somewhere she deeply loved about herself 😳 and now she is sure he won't leave her, so in truest form vo zidd karna seekh gayi hai 😃
Bold and italics - and this brilliant part just sums my post ❤️ - she is on the path of a beautiful realisation now, it's her path to be free from all the burden that she was unnecessarily carring on herself for all the years 😳 and I am so happy and proud of mishti , that this time, meenu constantly asked her to find about the coffee kaand person and inform her first but this time she broke the chain and decided to inform abir first and did that too 😎
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