Mishti's real home

once again, I'm just copy pasting my post from the AT: 

This one is focused on Mishti and her looong struggle with herself and her emotions from her childhood which still exist now

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A very meaningful picture parallel

https://twitter.com/jeelezaraa/status/1222392124345208832

To all of us wondering what the significance of the shower scene was...here is a small answer 

This clearly shows Mishti's childhood wounds are no where near to being healed. She is STILL feeling obliged to care and obey for Mah family, as a return of favour for adopting her.

These two quotes from Abir sum up perfectly Mishti now:

“iss ladki ke zakhm itni jaldi nahi bharenge”

"Usko pyar aur ehsaan ke farak samaj nahi aayi hai"

- Abir's pyar and presence is the only healing treatment for Mishti and her deep deep childhood wounds. Like Mishti has repeatedly said, Abir with his pyar, has taught her regain faith and trust in pyar and helped Mishti love herself and find her own strength to fight for her right.

-Even when mishbir we're together, we saw Mishti's insecurity and childhood wounds still surface during Baba track (she was scared Abir would leave her when he would find out she lied and Baba's truth). Despite Abir's constant repetition on how much he trusts her, Mishti still had that inner fear - which shows how deep those past wounds are “iss ladki ke zakhm itni jaldi nahi bharenge”

-I'm kinda glad the writers haven't neglected this issue. That Mishti is still trying to learn the difference between pyar and ehsaan. Although she does truly care and love the mah family...when it comes to crisis situations and any stressful family dynamics, she automatically feels she doesn't have the right to upset BM and BP, she loses her fierce bold angry chorni voice because she believes she still feels inferior in the family. The strong voice and limited confidence she had pre-leap was motivated by Abir, through courtship and their love story - was all stolen and lost as soon as Abir broke the rishta off. Mishti suddenly lost all her faith, confidence and trust in herself. Which is why when Abir finally revealed the reason of break up recently, Mishti's first reaction was "main sahi thi." That doubt, fear and lack of confidence she had in herself was brought back as soon as she realised she had been right all this time - Abir still loves her. The inner teenage young mishti, needed that assurance that she had finally found the right person to trust and love unconditionally.

-Even if BP always supported and defended mishti (pre-leap), there was always constant voices (jas, kuhu) in the house that always reminded Mish of her 'place' - as an outsider, paraayi etc This is exactly why she constantly feels the need to apologise, and proof herself to members of mah family that she is worth keeping. She still has the fear they will disown her.

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As @Cool pointed out earlier .... given all the things above, Mishti has to be extremely courageous to run away from the shaadi, it takes immense strength and faith in Abir's love, to turn away from her only family bonds...and obey her own mantra "Family se bada love" Hats off Mishtu

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Such a beautiful post you've portrayed mishti's emotions both preand post leap 👏

Originally posted by: yrhpk_aus

once again, I'm just copy pasting my post from the AT: 

This one is focused on Mishti and her looong struggle with herself and her emotions from her childhood which still exist now

-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

A very meaningful picture parallel

https://twitter.com/jeelezaraa/status/1222392124345208832

To all of us wondering what the significance of the shower scene was...here is a small answer 

This clearly shows Mishti's childhood wounds are no where near to being healed. She is STILL feeling obliged to care and obey for Mah family, as a return of favour for adopting her.

These two quotes from Abir sum up perfectly Mishti now:

“iss ladki ke zakhm itni jaldi nahi bharenge”

"Usko pyar aur ehsaan ke farak samaj nahi aayi hai"

- Abir's pyar and presence is the only healing treatment for Mishti and her deep deep childhood wounds. Like Mishti has repeatedly said, Abir with his pyar, has taught her regain faith and trust in pyar and helped Mishti love herself and find her own strength to fight for her right.

-Even when mishbir we're together, we saw Mishti's insecurity and childhood wounds still surface during Baba track (she was scared Abir would leave her when he would find out she lied and Baba's truth). Despite Abir's constant repetition on how much he trusts her, Mishti still had that inner fear - which shows how deep those past wounds are “iss ladki ke zakhm itni jaldi nahi bharenge”

-I'm kinda glad the writers haven't neglected this issue. That Mishti is still trying to learn the difference between pyar and ehsaan. Although she does truly care and love the mah family...when it comes to crisis situations and any stressful family dynamics, she automatically feels she doesn't have the right to upset BM and BP, she loses her fierce bold angry chorni voice because she believes she still feels inferior in the family. The strong voice and limited confidence she had pre-leap was motivated by Abir, through courtship and their love story - was all stolen and lost as soon as Abir broke the rishta off. Mishti suddenly lost all her faith, confidence and trust in herself. Which is why when Abir finally revealed the reason of break up recently, Mishti's first reaction was "main sahi thi." That doubt, fear and lack of confidence she had in herself was brought back as soon as she realised she had been right all this time - Abir still loves her. The inner teenage young mishti, needed that assurance that she had finally found the right person to trust and love unconditionally.

-Even if BP always supported and defended mishti (pre-leap), there was always constant voices (jas, kuhu) in the house that always reminded Mish of her 'place' - as an outsider, paraayi etc This is exactly why she constantly feels the need to apologise, and proof herself to members of mah family that she is worth keeping. She still has the fear they will disown her.

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As @Cool pointed out earlier .... given all the things above, Mishti has to be extremely courageous to run away from the shaadi, it takes immense strength and faith in Abir's love, to turn away from her only family bonds...and obey her own mantra "Family se bada love" Hats off Mishtu

xx

Awesome, Nandu!!!🤗👏👏👏

So true nandu 👏

Makers really did good job with whole Ehsaan aur pyaar mein fark thing. 

The insecurity the fear she still has in mind, and it resurfaces everytime when critical family situation comes up 

She still buried her insecurities when the truth of her  relationship with abir came out in front of mahs family. After Varsha jas said to her that she had to break up with abir and the fear that bp and bm could ask her to leave abir, she still stoop up with abir, deciding that she'll not leave him, come what may, if bp bm don't agree she'll convince them. In short abir's love made her ziddi. 

This time too mishti ran from her shaadi, on the bus top she said to abir that let's get married we'll convince family afterwards, that clearly means abir's love give her the assurance that her family loves her and not doing any Ehsaan on her