I'd just like to preface this by saying that despite all the doom and gloom, there are certain reasons that keep pulling me back to this show.....humanity in all it's flaws is a hard thing to navigate....especially those aspects that hurt us, make us uncomfortable, are hard to reconcile with what we consider "right" or "normal".....but somewhere that makes these characters all the more real.....and I suppose that's what I've become so attached to.....even if I get put off by some of the things they say and do, the distances creeping into loving relationships, I still feel this pull to these characters.
Today's episode had many good scenes.....I liked it more than yesterday's episode.
First up was Mini's diary scene....I loved the stream of consciousness aspect to it.....this felt like a familiar Mini....a child's innocent heart pouring out all her emotions....above all I liked that she atleast acknowledged the confusions and conflicting emotions inside her....the inability to pinpoint what feels so off.....her thinking back to the many mixed things she's heard from Babita....sometimes blame, other times complete love......her referencing the Amrit Manthan and worrying about the impact of the poison emanating from Babita on the people around her......then determinedly trying to overcome it all and trying to think positively. It's obvious though that she is in depression.....she's reached the point of suicidal thoughts, wondering why she was born, which felt very sad to see.....so she's definitely going to need serious help soon.
Mini may be feeling some level of emptiness over her mother's life evolving beyond her but it's definitely not debilitating her....she did go off to sleep.
Babita on the other hand, is a totally different story.....if Mini was able to pour out both her hopes and fears into that diary, Babita is ALL FEAR right now......and what do we do when we are filled with fear? We get defensive....we hide behind smokescreens, we lash out....we do everything we can to hide our fears and insecurities. And that is Babita in a nutshell right now. This woman is terrified of actually starting a married life....she is not ready for it all. Wedding and all tak toh theek tha....but that was a party and party's over now.....reality came calling and Babita wasn't ready for it.....she isn't ready to actually face HS as a husband....it was PAINFULLY obvious that she HID behind the label of a mother to escape having to be a wife.....she used Mini as the easiest crutch she could find to escape that room and get away from HS....which is why she laid out conditions....made excuses for why she agreed to the marriage....if she only wanted to marry him for Mini, why was she expecting haq etc. from him before they managed to get around to the proposal? It's convenient amnesia cuz it serves her purpose.
All her life Babita has been a single mother more or less....Mini is the only relationship where she has felt implicitly needed.....it's the only relationship she has ever been comfortable in....in a sense, it was an easy relationship....she didn't have to go seeking it.....it was a blood bond....her own flesh and blood....naturally gifted to her, bound to her for life.....her only "successful" relationship in a sense.....so easy to retreat to.....at the first sign of trouble in her marriage with HS, she took off all the trappings of shaadi.....jewellery, lehenga....lol I was amused that the lehenga she so obsessed over suddenly meant nothing and had to be removed asap so that she could get into mother mode clothes again.....lol
And then there's HS....for some amazing reason, actually HOPEFUL about this marriage as he entered the room😆.....and herein lies the disconnect....after all he's seen of Babita, after the way the rituals actually happened, for some reason he thought Babita would be all chill when he entered the room? LOL sometimes I think HS has such a bhola mann....I do think somewhere he too wove his own little fantasy just like Mini did....so many times he's described Imarti's shringaar down to the minutest of details...the choodi, payal, maang teeka....he dwells on these things, they charm him....that was the fairy tale of shaadi to him in a sense as well....and for whatever he probably expected atleast some of that with Babita too.....only to get a rude awakening seeing the super complex woman he's actually dealing with.
Mini remembered his lines about Babita's Amrit Manthan more than he did.....he was thrown off balance the moment he entered the room....but he's such a sweetheart, he was still trying to play along....still tried to make conversation....it was sad that all the importance of that room got swept away in Babita's issues right then.....he tried to talk about his mom but it seemed to trigger something in Babita and she went the other direction in trying to fight for her identity as a mom....an identity that was hardly under threat, except in her own head.....lol
The morning finally arrived and shed further light on where things stand....one of my fav. moments was HS and Mini looking at each other silently in the morning.....ah man, I live for this dynamic....so much communicated in silence only. That is ofcourse the biggest elephant in the room, in the story right now.....the CD incident is being considered supposedly "resolved" based on how Mini said it was an MU and convinced them both to get married....but it didn't really get resolved....infact, it has left an impact on all three of them in different ways.....they are just covering it up with either smokescreens or avoidance.
That avoidance also comes from fear.....they are all scared now.....yeh rishta HAQ paane ke liye joda tha....ek dusre pe HAQ....but ironically, ab teeno darr rahe hain apne haq ko OWN karne se....Babita is scared to actually take on the haq of a wife.....HS is scared to actually take on the haq of a father, and is now wary of even getting the haq of a husband....Mini is scared of exerting her regular level of haq on her Hanuman Uncle too.....aur is sab mein the situation keeps devolving.
The morning convo b/w HS and Babita was again so revealing.....he actually tried to ask her about Mini....he's worried in his own way but scared to approach Mini....however when it turned out that Babita just used Mini as an excuse, he also started to see the truth of Babita avoiding him....and it cut deep.
Babita is the most terrified of the three right now, while trying to bury herself in the kitchen or hiding behind mommy mode.....I can only shake my head and pity her.....especially over the irony that her daughter is ready to try to move on but Babita is unintentionally dragging everyone down with her thanks to her own fears.....it's becoming a domino effect.
HS is still trying to make conversation, so that's a plus.....but someone will have to find a way to cut through Babita's smokescreens and confront the core issues within.....address her true fears.
As for the last Mini-Laale scene.....it was a setup to add to Mini's depression....again, I see this all emanating from Babita's actions only....more presumptions are being made thanks to that fallout and lack of communication b/w HB.
All in all, a food for thought epi.....I liked it.
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