Hi,
First of all Thanks for understanding my dumbfoundedness in understanding Naina' s current state of amnesia.
But then this post is to understand Sameer's sudden transformation from a grounded, well mannered lover boy to a class-conscious snob.
Well while going through the pages of this forum I did find Sameer the most interesting character-layered ,complex, mysterious yet probably the most simple to solve .I found him in an eternal search for something which is the very essence of existence of almost everyone here Care, Concern and Acceptance.
My understanding of this character also stems from my chance encounter with a 9 year old boy who had been abandoned at a tender age of 3 by his biological mother at an orphanage, which I used to frequent in my leisure time during weekends, so as to pursue a second marriage. An absolute loner without any traits of childish behaviour,when I did manage to get him talking to me,the first thing he told me "Kitna Ashubh hoon na main(He had been named Shubh by Angel Aunty, the caretaker).His empty eyes devoid of any emotion told me just one thing.How much we take our parents' love for granted. Shubh probably would never know the meaning of the word family or mother.He may never have what is the very locus of our existence.Yet probably in his heart of hearts he would always yearn for that one thing-ACCEPTANCE, BELONGINGNESS ...
There is no dearth of Sameers in our society.The future of the child from the first marriage after the second marriage of a lady normally depends on the whims and fancies of the new set of in-laws.And I am sure there is no scarcity of the now-infamous Somani Daadi.
Coming back to Sameer,his statement "yeh ghar mera auur Naina ka hai was a pointer to his yearning and longing for a HOME.
How would he have spent his nights at the hostel during his childhood? We all are aware of the senior bullies who leave no stone unturned to rip apart our life or our belief in ourselves. Having a mother,yet not having a lap to restore his trust in his ownself, no one to guide him through the vagaries of life,no one to help him distinguish between right and wrong, good or bad...
Loneliness gives rise to loss of feeling of acceptance and belongingness and the solitude of the dark nights might have crumpled every ounch of self-belief he might have had. Some like Shubh bottle it up and others like Sameer(true to his name) try to give it back to the bullies in the same coin. The forced separation from the only person he could call his own -his mother,gave birth to a untamed anger,untamed cause there was no one to keep it in check.
Darkness can only be killed by Light,only Positive can erode Negative and only Love and Care can tame Anger. Sameer, in a bid to fight over his need for Concern and Care,tried every stunt which probably gave him a high that he was above all hurt, though deep down,all he had was pain.
This poor boy had to go through two rustications cause of the truthfulness of a Monitor which was unfathomable for him cause he had learnt to lie to save both his own skin and his friends who were the only semblance of family he had.Finally when he was ruthlessly striped of the brook of love from his mother and his Nanu was humiliated,his anger peaked and the boy ended up with a bet.A bet ,which was boon according to me cause it gave him Naina,the Concern and Care he had been yearning for since childhood.(Agreed the bet was wrong from Naina's POV cause no lady deserves to be treated as bet)
On realisation of his mistake,he immediately tries to rectify and redeem himself.A boy who had several servants at his each beck and call,almost gets enslaved.Several spankings from Safari Suit and harsh words from Naina later,he finally gets what he had been CRAVING since he got his senses-ACCEPTANCE
That moment onwards she became the CENTER of his Universe.
Untimely death of Nanu robbed him of the only person who had believed him and loved him,shook the very foundation of his existence and he was again a loner with no one to guide him properly.The care and concern showered by Naina though cemented his belief in the relationship(cause he had long lost his belief in himself being deserving of Love),yet Naina being the same age had different ways to guide him,in comparison to Nanu who told him straight whether he was right or wrong.
All alone in a so-called home and the constant mental torture by Somani Daadi made Anger raise its head again and in a bid to fight his lack of any company he got into bad friends.Though on realisation of his mistake,he yet again regained himself back from the bad habits,but still his teen mind could not see through the wickedness of Daadi.The dark clouds shrouded him again,only to be blown away by a determined Naina.
Time and again he forced her to jump out of her limits with a movie and birthday date.When he held her hand at the police station it was as if he was promising her that HE would be the One to walk her out of any darkness into sunshine.He was ready to accompany her to her home that night,but respected her refusal.On being handed out a single-sided judgement to breakup,the Anger which had been curbed by Acceptance rose its head again,this time first making him befriend Sunaina,though on realisation of his mistake ,he had tried to redeem himself.When the feeling of losing that SOLE Acceptance took over,he got into Sanyaas mode,but one look at her sealed his determination to hold onto any semblance of the Acceptance that he had got from her,to the extent of being friend-zoned.
After Chachaji and Munna's approvals,he was delighted of getting back that Acceptance from her and did all in his power to cement it so that he never has to lose it again-be it the college elections,getting Kumar Sanu as Chief Guest,taking up the entire blame on him and having to forego an entire year,tolerating her insensitivity at his sacrifice of a year and Thappad,letting go of his only remnant family-his mother,enduring her suffocating abhorrence of any form of intimacy,fighting the whole gamut of villains TT,MM ,SS,Somani even Mother nature to get married,buying a Taj Mahal for his lady love and even giving up every right of contact with his mother.
Yet he suddenly finds the ACCPETANCE gone!!!Naina seems to be a absolutely different person who does not want to Accept him as he is and rather eyes him as full of only flaws.To top it her total reluctance to take their relationship to the next level has left him frustrated.At a juncture where he feels he is failing on all fronts,he wants and wishes for just one thing - Acceptance in the only family that he has now i.e His Naina.His heart needs only one ASSURANCE - that HE DESERVES LOVE...he deserves being trusted and he deserves to be Accepted as he is.
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