Death is inevitable. A reality. Media, people on Twitter, in general...there's lot of drama and commentary about funerals these days. It's a private matter. How people grieve is up to them. Wearing dark glasses, dressing well, smiling...none of it tells you how much the person is affected. An outsider will never know.
In olden times (all over the world), crying even at funerals was a taboo among the royals. So there were a group of people (in India they were called rudaalis-lower caste) who used to beat chest, wear black and cry loudly at every funerals. That was their job. They were paid for it. Even now you see calm and composure at royal funerals. People think those who cry loudly and beat chests are the only ones who feel the pain. That's one way of grieving. Regaling, talking about happy incidents is another way of grieving. Anupam Kher had a party after his dad's death. Shilpa Shetty was criticized for posting a smiling photo at her dad' asthi visarjan.
My Dad passed away in 2014. I was smiling, greeting and thanking guests, making conversation. Some men in the family expected me to sit in a room and cry because that's what women do. I don't cry in front of people. It's been two years and the pain is unbearable. Time doesn't heal the pain of losing your dear ones. A part of me died too and I'm a changed person.
Edited by .Iconoclast. - 7 years ago
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