Originally posted by: -Saheba-
halala nikaah is that after getting divorced..the girl has to marry another man and the very next day the second husband has to give her talaaq three times in a row and divorce her. Then she can go back and marry her first husband.
And this Haram in Islam!! 1stly marrying someone with the intention to divorce him the next day is Haram, and divorcing your wife by saying Talaq 3 times consecutively at the same time is also Haram!
However, If the 1st husband divorces the wife (3 times) she needs to marry someone else with a pure intention, consummate the marriage, and if for some reason the marriage breaks, the wife can re-marry her first husband. This is so she can realize if she really wants to re-marry her first husband. When a Nikkah is done Allah instills love in the hearts of both husband and wife, and it is very much possible that the 2nd husband treats her better than a princess...So, that is the whole concept...A concept of realization!!
Allah hates it when a husband divorces a wife without any reason, the angels in heaven cry when a divorce happens...the only acceptable reason is adultery in Islam, the rest of the reasons are materialistic usually, and Allah knows best. Usually if a person divorces the wife in anger, Allah gives him 2 chances to rectify his mistake, and take back his wife...But the Devil Shaitaan (one of his attribute is arrogance) makes the man arrogant, and the man forsakes his chances given as mercy to man by Allah, again and again. And, thus the man has to suffer the consequences of His actions; to living a life where he has to watch his wife marry someone else! Also, who can guarantee that This man will not become arrogant again, become weak in front of his Mother/Family again, and mistreat the wife...Divorce and Marriage has become a joke in today's society.
the best advice by prophet Muhammad SAWW is to stay quite when you are angry. If your are standing and angry, sit down. If you are sitting down and angry, lay down. If you are laying down and angry, take a shower. Just don't speak!
Coz, most of the time a person does not even remember what he has said in anger; and, sometimes the person would say stuff they don't even mean to say. But the damage is done, the trauma the other person goes through while hearing you can never be rectified!!
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