Originally posted by: soapbubble
I think you're being very unfair. maybe you have a point and we should wait a few more episodes to declare judgment but watching the same kind of repetitive tear works and scenes is a bit frustrating for me as a viewer. It feels like studying. lol.
Silence isn't always weakness - and you have to appreciate the point at which we are catching up with Mariam's story. Her beloved husband has been two years dead - she is still raw with grief but life has other possibilities as well.
"Love struck teenager!" What a put-down for someone who's lost their bearings in life. I can only echo Salman Baig here - only someone who has lost a loved one can understand how much it can throw you off course.
Please lets not get personal with presumptions of who has and has not lost someone in life. I don't think we know each other well enough to simply make such a judgement call. Everyone deals with their losses differently I understand but in my opinion, 2 years is a significant amount of time and instead of constantly thinking about her loss, the focus should be on recovery, not from her grief (that never goes away), but rather recovering the practical aspects that have been lost...like financial security for her daughter and respect for herself.
Her dignity is threatened by subtle humiliation meted out by Younis and his wife - which is best saved by keeping rather quiet whenever possible. See, heres where our POVs differ. I don't think of the humiliation mariam and especially najma face to be very subtle at all! younis point blank said that they are a burden who have no idea how hard he works to earn money and has to bare their responsibility when he should've been saving for his daughter saba's wedding (when najma asked her dadu for RP60).
Yes, she has skills but there are constraints as well - she has to tread carefully. That is precisely what makes a soap interesting - the soft-footed negotiations of life. Frankly rampaging firebrands would bore me within a fortnight.
Agreed and acknowledged! But they are literally humiliating her and her young child everyday! Im not at all asking for rampaging firebrands giving long bhashaans on how terrible everyone is to her. taking a stance through actions is a lot more powerful than her bickering with them everyday! she seems good at handwork that can be done from home. she could help her BIL make embroidery samples that seem to be so expensive, or even do something of her own from home. her FIL is supportive and Im sure he'd not object to that. and if he supports her then Younis wouldn't be able to really object. and even if he did, if she silently stuck to her work, that'd be a lot more admirable in my opinion. you don't need to be a harpy to take a stance. But then again we don't know everything thats happened over the last two years yet!
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