Hey,I respect ur views maybe different places people follow different rules.
but one thing I know is we all follow whats in the Quran.
now about 1st 2nd and 3rd Talakh...thats where the confusion lies.
Now it is stated that after 1st 2nd talakh the man and women can remarry and even after 3rd talakh end of iddah period they can reconcile but after that they cannot get back to each other.The women has to then get married to someone else and If for some reason 2nd husband gives her talakh or he dies she can remarry her 1st husband.
The question is what u understood by this...in my opinion for u this states a man says the 1st talakh then next month says talakh 2nd time and then last month of Iddah he says the 3rd talakh.then thats it the women has to marry someone else.
What im saying is a man gives talakh then waits 3 months(iddah period) unless he takes back talakh in that time in front of 2 witness's they are divorce.Then if they want to marry again they can and again divorce same process and after that they want to marry again they can but if they divorce 3rd time then after the iddah period of this 3rd talakh they cant go back to each other.
Im stating what Dr Zakir Naik has explained in detail and he has given this info quoting from Quran.
Now unless someone can give me a solid reason to believe ur theory I will trust someone who knows Quran by heart and has most knowledge about Islam.
Sori im not arguing just putting forward what I feel.
but everys entitled to their opinion so ur free to believe what u want to.
If even this last measure proves to be ineffective, and there appears to be no sign of reconciliation, then the husband can use his right of giving divorce; and it is definitely better to free the wife from the bonds of nikah than keeping her suspended indefinitely. Islam has kept the avenue of divorce open for man in order that man may lead a righteous life and there should be no difficulty for him to keep within the limits of morality. Similarly Islam has given the right of Khula' to woman and also to approach a court of law for dissolving her nikah in order that she may also be able to keep within the religious and moral bounds.
In the case of deciding to give divorce, a husband should take care to adopt the Shariah method, and it is better if he reduces this decision to writing. The correct procedure of pronouncing divorce is as under:
According to the Qur'an and Sunnah this is the correct and better procedure of giving divorce. In this procedure man gets full opportunity to think and to weigh the pros and cons of his steps, and there remains little or no chance for him to regret. The jurists have termed such a divorce that has been given once and in the sate of cleanliness and without an intercourse after the last menstrual period, and no second and third divorce having been given during the period of waiting"but the period of iddat was allowed to pass after one divorce"as the divorce according to Sun na h'.
In the Mughni' it is stated: "Divorce according to Sunnah is that the woman is divorced in a state of cleanliness (Tohr) without an intercourse, the husband gives one divorces and leaves her as such till the iddat is over." (Mugni-ibneQuddamah Vol 7P. 98)
And in the Hidayah it is stated: "The best procedure for divorce is that the husband should give one divorce to his wife, and that too when she is in a state of cleanliness and he had not had an intercourse with her. Then he should lea ye her in the same state till the term of iddat is over. This procedure is better, because the Companions of the Prophet (R) desired that more than one divorce should not be given till the period of iddat is over." (Hidayah- Vol. 1 Page 179)
The second divorce is to be given on some other occasion, that is if the husband had taken back the wife after giving one divorce, but in spite of efforts smooth relations did not prevail, then he can give the second divorce in the manner described~ in the above lines, after which the woman will have again to spend her period of waiting (iddat). During this period of waiting, the husband can, if he wishes, return to his wife, i.e. take her back as wife. And if the period of iddat is over, then he can re-marry her with her willingness.
The divorce in which the husband has the right to return to his wife or take her back as wife or to revoke his divorces are the first and second divorces, that is the divorces given on two occasions. In the holy Qur'an it is ordained:
"Divorce is to be given two times, and t/7en (a woman) must be retained in good manner or re/eased grace fully." (Surah Baqarah-229)
If after giving the second divorce, the husband has revoked his decision and taken her back, but in spite of efforts smooth relations did not prevail, and the husband wants to divorce her, then this time he should arrive at a decision with more careful consideration, because this is the divorce of the third occasion, in which the husband has neither the right of revocation, nor can he re-marry after the passing of the period of waiting unless the woman has re-married and has been divorced by the second husband.
The holy Qur'an directs: "So if a husband divorces his wife (after two times) he cannot after that remarry her until after she has married another husband (and he has divorced her)." (Surah Baqarah-230)
The commands concerning this third divorce are very Strict, and it is called Talaq-i-mughallazah Bainah'. The third divorce is not only baain' (separator) (irrevocable) but is so absolute that the man and the woman cannot remarry even with mutual agreement unless the woman is married to another man and this other man divorces her by his own free will, and not in accordance with a pre-planned understanding, or unless he dies. If this second husband divorces the woman perchance orhe dies, and the woman wants to go back to her former husband, then she can remarry him.
Source: http://islamawareness.net/Talaq/talaq_book.html
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