did constant rejection make gandhari a weak woman

to day when i saw the seen between dhrit and gandhari .. this thought came to my mind ..

Gandhari may have suffered from extreme repression under the oppressive power of husband and son combined, in the way that her love for them would subdue her unexpressed reproaches to their cunning and crafty plottings, Perhaps she felt weary n helpless as she was attached to her relations, whilst aware of righteousness and ultimate duty but succumbed to her duty as wife and mother to support them even though she knew that they made bad choices. She was trapped, but she did love them regardless, ultimately she chose the path of darkness, she sensed it coming for her maybe even as she tied the bandage over her eyes, she was surrendering not only to her husband in that moment but to every choice he would make thereafter, her struggle became akin to all the others who had to fight for Hastinapur whilst their heart was with Dharma but on a different level, she was obliged to serving her ignorant husband, desirous of his happiness but mindful of her own fatality in the middle of darkness. this duality of being torn in two is the root cause of so many of these characters sufferings where good and bad don't exist separately. I don't think she was weak per se, if you consider her values, she was unlike her brother, son and husband, virtuous, principled, knowledged, but if you consider the choices she made based on her attachment as wife and mother then she was weak for them. In general her case was hopeless, she wouldn't have been able to influence her highly irritable, angry and ignorant son onto the right path, nor her self-delusional husband who had his own agenda of what constitutes duty.

Gandhari, though very strong and perfectly fair seems to have had very less influence on her husband as well as her son.. In contrast, we have Pandu who listened to Kunthi and there are many times when Kunthi has advised and was also completely obeyed by the Pandavas.

Most probably, it was the case of Shakuni's growing influence on Dhridhrashtra and Duryodhan.. Gandhari could never be close to her husband or her sons. She does advice Dhridhrashtra when things went over the head, like during the vasthraharan etc., but her influence was not substantial enough to stop Dhridhrashtra or Kauravas from plotting..

While it seems apparent that Kunthi, due to many reasons had to be the person who took the decisions in her children's life, Gandhari sadly did not have the entire right. Dhridhrasthra and with his blessings Shakuni took over the care of her children, leaving her to worry and rue the fate of her near and dear ones..

Still she was there with Dhridhrashtra as he learnt the death of every one of his sons during the Kurushetra war.. She never left his side during his times of distress..

hello guys...frankly speaking in mahabharatha everyone has got their own meaningful rights...

basically gandhari is not a weak women and also diru is not male dominant character...he has his own sorrows and wounds and that too they are deep and so it takes time to heal...that is dhiru is reacting so far and as per my knowledge...both diru and duro listened to gandharis words...and duro is not a devil like person...if saguni is playing games in hastinapur then what krishna also did is the similar act ...but he took pandavas side as his sister is married to arjun...

i didnt mean weak as in a doormat .. but being so virtuous and understanding lady she couldnt influence or stand against shakuni , her husband or son ...