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At that time, rising above it was impossible: it was a patriarchal society, and the only role of women was to get married and give birth: if they couldn't, they were considered a burden on their family, and if they just left and went out on their own, they were 'fair game'. Hence the obsession in those times w/ marriage. If Amba wasn't gonna marry, what else was she gonna do? It's not like she could have been a Rani Durgavati, or a guru in an ashram, or anything like it.Amba could have risen above it had there been a second chance - had she been capable of finding a man willing to marry her (like Krishna w/ Narakasura's 16,100 concubines): she'd have forgotten Shalva, forgiven Bheeshma and happily married him. But that was not an option - having been abducted once by Krishna, her status at the time was like that of a woman who's either already consummated or given birth. So the one acceptable thing in society that she could do was shut off for her forever. Her sisters took the easy option - just marry the loser king, and became widowed after 7 years w/o sons, and had to undergo niyoga births. I'd say Amba was the one better off, but that's not the way society was.Or else, had society been such that women who did not marry weren't considered losers or burdens, Amba would probably have done fine - she certainly had grit & determination. It's also tragic that she couldn't marry - either as Shalva's or Bheeshma's wife, she'd probably have had powerful sons who would have held their own against all odds. Sorta like the Pandavas.
It was a patriarchal society. If it weren't, none of it would have happened. There must have been another way to find her dignity again, even if it meant that she had to go in the woods and meditate or something. I'm not saying it were easy. It really was considered a career in itself, life's goal or something to marry and give birth to princes who'd become big shot kings. 😳 I only believe that one still always has a choice. Her sisters chose to be Vichitravirya's wives. There wasn't any dignity in it. She chose to die of the injustice of it all and get her revenge in another life. It's just what she chose. She could have chose different is what I am saying. She didn't, so, I dun see how I can win this argument, though. 😆
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