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Baba Aiso Varr Dhoondo - 23rd March Promo

So Bharti will meet Murli @ the basti holi celebrations? (Interesting how holi on TV is a week behind the actual celebrations) But I'm not getting it - from last night's episode, it looked like Bharti will only observe Holi after Prakash has been exposed. And how on earth do she and Amit end up in that place, where Murli & Sudha are by invitation?

Guess Sudha will need to have separate sessions w/ Murli & Bharti to find out what happened. But Sudha, listen to both sides.

Originally posted by: _Vrish_

So Bharti will meet Murli @ the basti holi celebrations? (Interesting how holi on TV is a week behind the actual celebrations) But I'm not getting it - from last night's episode, it looked like Bharti will only observe Holi after Prakash has been exposed. And how on earth do she and Amit end up in that place, where Murli & Sudha are by invitation?

Guess Sudha will need to have separate sessions w/ Murli & Bharti to find out what happened. But Sudha, listen to both sides.

Ok, I get it, Sudha invited Bharti & Amit there to join her for the Holi celebrations.

Somehow, didn't like how Sudha was initially aloof and not playing Holi w/ any of the women. Also, Veena could have initially played w/ her. Anyway, glad that she too got into the celebrations.

Gau is a real pain - separating a beautiful jodi like Jhumroo 😡 I want those 2 to elope 😈

thanks for sharing the video.. in the todays episode which way they show the murli and sudha playing holi its shameful..in real life nothing can happen like this married woman (sudha) played with other married man(murli) and admire him means love him..shameful....

Uh, Sudha was never actually married, just sold to RA, and she's ended that relationship, that didn't exist even on paper. And Murli is going thru a divorce. So nothing 'shameful' in either of them celebrating w/ each other.

Sudha was married to Ram Avatar. Whether she was married of for money (sold) or for lachaari - fact is, she was MARRIED!

Similarly, Murli was married to Bharti. They can come up with 5 million excuses as to why they (sudha and murli) don't believe in their marriage, fact of the matter is, based on their religious rites, they were and are still married!

Haven't you heard of people separating and getting back together again? It happens in India too you know. And when people get back together, they are not asked to REmarry - they just continue from where they left off.

So yah - to say Sudha (a very married woman today) running around with a very married Murli is shameful in their tradition - especially their family/upbringing because it is they who believe in this "shaadi shuda aurat behaviour should be XYZ".

In a western society it would not be a faux pas that it is in the small town, chotte laug society.

SHAME ON YOU SUDHA AND MURLI! I hope Sudha gets stabbed by Ram Avatar at the Holi and dies. Kissa khatam!

Have you heard of DIVORCE? It means the marriage is OVER!!! Yeah, religious rites do turn on a marriage, but a DIVORCE negates it, and this is what Murli & Bharti are going thru. And these days, a marriage does need to be registered to be legal - this is not the age where the 7 pheras seal it for life regardless of witnesses or anybody else. And it is needed to prevent frauds in marriages. Similarly, divorces are needed to end bad marriages.

Just b'cos some judge tells them to wait 6 months b4 it becomes official doesn't mean that either Murli or Bharti is bound to each other.

Yeah, I'd have prefered Sudha to DIVORCE that thug of a hubby she has!! But under your brilliant idea, once someone marries, one is condemned to that for life, no matter how ugly the behavior of the spouse is. But people who divorce and then get back together are the real frauds, for whom marriage is meaningless enough that they can enter & exit it whenever they like.

Oh, and once one is divorced, it means one is single, and at liberty to be back on the dating circuit. Even though this is not what Surli were doing.

@ _Vrish_ You are not forgetting that they are NOT yet divorced. But applying for Divorce is one thing. The judge refused to sign the petition and told them to go back and work it out giving them 6 months to reconsider. So yes, Murli and Bharti are still very much married.

It is true that in Murli's mind, they ARE divorced, but unless those divorce papers are signed neither of them are free to remarry.

And in one of my posts, I did say, that in a Western society, a married woman roaming around with a married guy is not a big deal. If they are separated then they are both free agents. However, this is not the case in most families in India and it is certainly not the case with Sudha who had the sense to ask Amit to drop her off so she is not seen with a 'paraya mard' but is stupid enough to roam around and even leave the hospital with another paraya mard, whom she had know for one 1 day (if you count the hours, then less than 24 hours really!).

All this emotional tugs is exhausting. I am not saying that Murli and Bharti can't get divorced. Of course they can. It is everyone's prerogative to choose how to live their lives and with whom. All I am saying is that we all know the show is about Bharti more than it is about Murli. So unless Vikrant is being written off the script, Murli and Bharti will re-unit. Otherwise, it makes more sense for the track to change to Bharti's new varr - be it Amit or someone new.

It's not like Murli is trying to marry Sudha b4 his divorce is finalized. Yeah, the judge stalled them for 6 months, but that doesn't mean that until then, he has to pretend that Bharti is his wife and can't see other women. Same w/ Bharti for other men. Okay, they can't marry until that divorce is finalized, but aside from that, they're free to see other women/men w/ whom to move on. It's not like Murli still has to be loyal to Bharti or vice versa: after all, they divorced for a reason.

Don't take this personally, but your comments on Sudha leaving the hospital w/ a 'paraya mard' are downright appalling. Here she is, living w/ spousal abuse, and too afraid to take legal remedies, since her 'husband' (it's still unclear whether she married him or was just sold to him) has bribed the police in the past. If she simply runs away on her own, she's bound to get captured by RA & his employee thugs. Under these circumstances, what's she to do - commit suicide? She tried that as well in the past, but it didn't work. What's she supposed to do - go back to her 'husband'? This is the problem a lot of battered women face - despite serious abuse, they refuse to leave their husbands or rat on them, making their ugly situations even uglier. Berating her for turning to Murli for help just b'cos you fantasize about Murli & Bharti re-uniting is a really perverted extent to which one romanticizes about a jodi. It has nothing to do w/ Western vs Indian women, but everything to do w/ whether a woman in a dire situation should be able to approach a helpful stranger for support - even if it is another married man - w/o being looked at as a s**t by some really uptight samaj. It was what Murli had in mind when he advised his parents not to consider the narrow views of 'society' while determining whether or not to help Sudha.

Yeah, one could argue that she should have approached Neelam or Bharti for help, but here, either the CVs overlooked that, or possibly, it can be argued that when a person is desperate, they're not thinking straight, and so, it may not have occurred to Sudha to call Bharti or Neelam (although now, while she is w/ Murli, she should be able to grab that opportunity) Or yet, she may have determined that since both Neelam & Bharti are married, she'd be a burden on their hubbies if she stayed w/ either of them (not knowing Bharti's status). Now, that would be a valid basis on which to criticize Sudha. But to criticize her for escaping w/ Murli is essentially saying that under the pretext of honor, she should go back to her hubby & die, rather than take help from a stranger just b'cos you don't like the way that particular stranger has been behaving w/ his own wife.