Originally posted by: *Woh Ajnabee*
I don't think that the purpose of the show is to prove or debate who has made more mistakes over the other. Instead, the point of the show, I think, is to show how a lack of communication leads to a both a husband and a wife committing similar mistakes and destroying their marriage despite the love that both of them have for each other at a deeper level.
While its obvious that Moiz is wrong to go after Aneela like that and to play with both Aneel and Aisha's emotions, what Aisha did was also just as wrong. Two wrongs don't make a right and, therefore, her actions do not stand justified at all! If she really was fed up of the life that Moiz has left for her back home, she should have asked him to divorce her without the acknowledgment and intention of Jawad or any other man in her life after Moiz. Aisha sees that Jawad is interested in her and a life with someone who will be around her and care for her and Noor appeals to her, and that is the only time she thinks of divorcing Moiz. Aisha makes sure that Jawad is her safety net and then she moves on to divorce Moiz - to me that is where the fine line lies between her being a wife fed up of the life that her husband has left for her and being a wife who cheats on her husband (or even has the intention of cheating).
While I am hooked onto this show and wait for Fridays to come around, I think the show tries way too hard to recreate MZZB, but it fails miserably. Its a good show on its own, but I do feel they need to stop trying to give it the same feel and they should definitely pick up the pace! Anyone know how many more episodes left?
But one thing that I do appreciate about this particular show over Umera Ahmed's other shows is the fact that a woman is not presented as the perfectly moralistic, sacrificial lamb as she is shown in shows like MZZB, Doraha, etc. In this show, the protagonist is flawed, she has made mistakes, and she is suffering because of those mistakes. I don't know how much more of the plot there is left and whether there are still any secrets waiting to be revealed, but I enjoy that this show does not blame men for suppressing women and still realizes that women are also flawed and they are also capable of making mistakes.
The true highlight of the show lies in that scene when Moiz finally returns to Pakistan and confronts Aisha about the allegations that have been placed on her. In that one scene in their room when they finally meet after five years, Moiz still has so much faith in Aisha. If in that scene, Aisha had lied to him and said that all those allegations placed on her were false, I think Moiz would have listened to her, and he would have believed her. Instead, she tells him that she doesn't love him anymore and that she loves Jawad! In that scene, there is a moment when he grabs her and tries to shake some sense into her - he wants to hear that she doesn't really mean it, he wants to hurt her, but all in that one second he realizes that he cannot force her to love him and he lets her go. I think that scene is so powerful, and I think most of the credit for that scene goes to Faisal Qureshi. The actress that plays Aisha falls short for me in her performance, once again. Sometimes, I think she's so expressionless!
I point this scene out to prove my point that they both have made their set of mistakes, they both want things to go back the way they were, but at the same time, both of them realize that too much has happened between them for things to ever return to normal.
Agreed 100% with every thing u said..
@bold...This is what I also have been saying all along, in my earlier posts in this thread...I mean I agree tht Moiz was totally wrong but it doesnt give Ayesha the right to cheat on him also... She would have been justified in asking for a divorce on her own....but not after she sees an opportunity in Jawad.... She should have askd for a divorce, the day she became sure abt Moiz and Anila....she should have asked for a divorrce right away tht since he is cheating on me, i cant live with him, go back to her parent's house, ask for a divorce and then after divorce, she could find any x, y, z person for herself.....but instead she thought of a divorce only after Jawad propsed her and she sees an opportunity.....this is cheating, which is totally wrong and unacceptable....as u said tht theres a thin line b/w cheating and a wife who is fed up.....
And the fact tht Jwad backed out...this is also very realistic...and also, this is a lesson and warning for all those girls who might have thought of any such thing in real life in such situation, in frustration......Ab Ayesha na idhar ki rahi, na udhar ki......Us en shuru mein Jawad ki support par apna ghar khud hi barbaad kar liya.....and then even Jawad backed out....and the fact tht Jawad backed out, made Ayesha realise her mistake...and this is the reason, she doesnt protest, in present ...and she thinks she deserves such treatment.... Jaisay woh kehti hai....ke main tu apni ghaltion ka kaffaara ada karrahi houn..and she told her saas ke baat maafi ki nahi hai...main ne unka aitebaar tora hai............She thinks ke us ne Jawad ki baaton mein aa kar apna ghar barbaad kar diya.......Jaisay jawad pehle usay kehta hai ke buray kirdaar ki aurat se koi shadi nahi karta aur main tum se shadi karna chahta houn.....aur uski nand bhi kehti hai ke tum kisi ka ghar nahi basaa sako gi......... Now she thinks ke she was proved as a woman who was not morally strong.....and now she doesnt protest..............
As far as Jawad is concerned....waqai Ayesha se uski shadi bhtt mushkil thee...Ayesha was his best friend's wife...tu obv uski mother kabhi raazi na hoti........aur koi mard itna strong nahi hota ke apni family ko chor deta..... Jawad didnt mean bad...he really wanted to marry her...but he ended up making her life miserable....though his intentions were not such.......And this is sooo realistic....Aur jo kehtay hain na ke na mehram mard aur aurta akele houn tu teesra shaitan hota hai.... ..this is ssooo right.......If we look deeply, tu is drama mein yeh lesson bhi hai...... Ayesha's husband was not there......and she used to go everywhere with Jawad.....har mushkil mein Jawad kaam aaraha hai.....tu ahista ahista Jawad ke zehen mein aisay khyalat aanay lagey ke he enjoys spending time with Ayesha....and it happened gradually......Isi liye humarey religion mein kaha gaya hai ke na mehram mardon se distance rakho....warna phir bhtt problems hoti hain.... Yehi wajah bani Ayesha aur Jawad ke relation ki....cos even Moiz was not there... Ayesha used to share everything with Moiz earlier and then she shared everything with Jawad...and this applies for Moiz too..... when was alone...he needed someone, so he started spending time with Anila which was totally wrong too.....
Good thing abt this drama is tht everyone is shown as normal humans...neither of them is saint or devil... None of them was basically a bad person...but ended up making major mistakes in life.......everyone was equally at fault here....And as u said tht the purpose of this serial is to show tht how distance or lack of communication can create problems in life...This drama is such a big lesson , for everyone who might have thought of doing similar things in life......in frustration.... I think every girl , especially should learn lesson from Ayesha's mistaks and never even dream or think of taking such a step in their life......yes, girls can ask for a divorce from their husbands in such situations, but not after seeing another opportunity in the form of another man, and tht too, while u r married.....after divorce, u can always find x, y, z person........Ayesha's mistake was not asking divorce from Moiz..... But asking divorce form him only after Jawad propsed her...and the fact tht she had an affair with Jawad, while she was married to Moiz........ Larkian ek dafa badnaam hojayein tu phir bhtt bara issue banta hai.....Ab sirf Ayesha hi nahi, uski beti ke liye bhi ayesha ki wajah se probs huein... Jo sab noor ko kehtay hain ke jaisi maa ne harkat ki....tu uski beti kesi hogi? this is realistic.... Kehtay hain ke beti ki shadi karni ho tu maa ko dekho...aur agar Khudanakhwasta maa ki koi aisi harkat ho tu beti par kia asar parey ga...ayesha ne us waqt jazbaat mein aa kar apni beti ka bhi nahi socha......ke uske aisay kisi step ka baad mein uski beti ki life par kia asar parey ga?
Edited by farahs_6 - 13 years ago
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