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Hey i no dis is extrememlyyyyyyyyyyy long but please do take ur tym 2 read it...cus i js came across it n it realy touched me (if dat makes sense 😆) ...n i cud relate 2 certain tings sed...soo plzzz do read :)
Hijaab is not a piece of cloth on your head. It's a way of Life.
Just because some of the sisters have their head covered, they think that the requirement of Hijaab is fulfilled. They don't realize that wearing a Hijaab requires much more than
just covering your head.
Actually, if you think about it, Hijaab is the way you talk…..the way you walk….the
very way you carry yourself. In fact, Hijaab is an attitude in itself. Its a whole way of life.
Allaah says:
"And say to the believing women to lower their gazes, and to guard their private parts,
and not to display their beauty (zeenah) except what is apparent of it, and to extend
their headcoverings (khimars) to cover their bosoms (jaybs), and not to display their
beauty except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons,
or their husband's sons, or their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or
their womenfolk, or what their right hands rule (slaves), or the followers from the men
who do not feel sexual desire, or the small children to whom the nakedness of women is
not apparent, and not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make known what they
hide of their adornments. And turn in repentance to Allah together, O you believers, in
order that you are successful." (Surat-un-Nur: 31).
Here are some of the more common issues in light of this verse about the Hijaab.
Well, my head is covered. What more do you want?
If you look carefully at the ayah, it clearly states that the head covers (khumur) should
be drawn over the neck slits (juyoob). Khumur is the plural of the Arabic word "khimar"
which means a headcover. Juyoob is the plural of the Arabic word "jaiyb", which refers
to the neck slit (of the dress).
Yet, some sisters just cover their head with something, and think they are fulfilling the
rights of Hijaab, although part of their hair or body is showing, or their whole neck and
chest area are exposed. Actually, that was the way of the women of Jahilliyah.
Al-Qurtubi said: "Women in those days used to cover their heads with the khimar,
throwing its ends upon their backs. This left the neck and the upper part of the chest
bare, along with the ears. Then Allah commanded them to cover those parts with the
khimar."
So secure the scarf well around your face, covering your neck/chest area, and keep those
half sleeves and capri pants for your Mahrams
Sorry.…tight jeans and short shirt just don't cut it
You can't wear tight jeans and a short shirt with a piece of cloth on your head and think
this is Hijaab. Nor can you wear anything else that is tight, describing the shape of the
body in any way, even if it is long. The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said:
"In later (generations) of my ummah there will be women who will be dressed but
naked. On top of their heads (what looks) like camel humps. They will not enter into
paradise or (even) get a smell of it." (Muslim)
If it is see-through, its NOT Hijaab
You CANNOT use chiffon or other see through material to cover your hair and body.
Everything should be covered and the color of the skin underneath should not be
visible.
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) once received a thick garment as a gift. He
gave it to Osamah b. Zayd, who in turn gave it to his wife. When asked by the Prophet
why he did not wear it, Osamah indicated that he gave it to his wife. The Prophet then
said to Osamah "ask her to use a "gholalah" under it (the garment) for I fear that it (the
garment) may describe the size of her bones." (Ahmad, Abi-Dawood)
(The word gholalah in Arabic means a thick fabric worn under the dress to prevent it
from describing the shape of the body).
The Hijaab shouldn't attract attention
The dress should not be such that it attracts men's attention to the woman's beauty.
Allaah clearly states "not to display their beauty (zeenah)." Yet, Subhaan Allaah, some
Hijaabi sisters are dressed in such a way that they attract more attention to themselves
than they would if they didn't wear Hijaab!! How could such zeenah be concealed if the
dress is designed in a way that it attracts men's eyes to the woman? It beats the purpose
of Hijaab.
Allaah tells us: "And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the
times of ignorance…" [al-Ahzaab:32]
What about make-up and perfume???
Wearing make up is also part of the zeenah that Allaah orders us NOT to display. So if
your head and body are appropriately covered yet you are wearing bright red lipstick or
dark eyeliner such that people confuse between you and a raccoon….uh sorry, that's not
Hijaab. And keep those nice fragrances for the home, between you and your husband.
That's part of Hijaab too, even if you are going to the Masjid. The Prophet (Sal Allaahu
Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: "Any woman who puts on perfume and passes by people so
that they can smell her fragrance, is an adulteress." (al-Nasaa'i, Tirmidhi: hasan by
Albaani)
Tinkling Jewelry and Jingling bracelets
'Loud' and tinkling anything, be it jewelry, bracelets, clip-clopping shoes, little bells on
clothes, you name it, if it jingles or makes noise, it is against the principles of Hijaab,
because it attracts attention to the one wearing it. That is what is meant when Allaah
orders us in the above verse…"not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make
known what they hide of their adornments."
No laughing, joking, or hanging out with non-Mahrams
Some sisters assume that since they are properly covered, its okay for them to sit around
and talk, laugh, joke, etc. with the men, but that's not right, even if he is 'the Shaikh'.
Allaah says:". . . then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease should be
moved with desire, but speak in an honorable manner." [al-Ahzaab:32]
So talk to them when there is a specific need, and in a manner that is not necessarily
rude, yet it is polite but firm.
Staring at the brothers or 'checking them out' is NOT Hijaab
Allaah orders us to "lower your gaze" in the above verse. Why? Because a single 'look'
can say more than a thousand words. So, even if you are properly covered, keep those
eyes down, conduct yourself with 'Hayaa', and avoid 'fitnah'.
'Chatting' on the internet/phone is not part of Hijaab, either
There is no such thing as "we're just friends". Talking to non-Mahrams is wrong even if
it is through the internet or telephone. There are too many stories of illegal relationships,
fornications, broken homes, extra-marital affairs and runaway brides to even mention.
That is why in Islam anything that leads to haraam is also haraam. Allaah says:
"Do not (even) come close to fornication, for it is an indecency, and its way is evil."
(Surah Israa:32)
Be careful, even in the way you walk
Remember, you are not a runway model displaying the latest fashion. Walk with
modesty and hayaa and you will be respected. The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa
Sallam) said:
"There are two types of the people of Hell that I have not seen yet….women who are
clothed yet naked, walking with an enticing gait….." (Muslim).
Don't shake hands with non-Mahrams. Its part of Hijaab
It is not permissible to shake hands with a non-Mahram, because the Prophet (Sal
Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: "For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron
needle is better for him than to touch a woman who is not permissible for him." (at-
Tabaraani saheeh by al-Albaani).
And no, it is not rude to refuse to shake hands with non-Muslims. Simply politely
explain that its part of your religion and they are very understanding.
Stay away from the men's areas
I see many sisters entering the Masjid from the men's entrance, or standing idle in the
hallways or where there is a chance of unnecessary mixing with the brothers. What for?
Don't we have a separate entrance for ourselves? Why do you think Allaah ordained the
Hijaab in the first place? To avoid fitnah, by reducing temptation and separating the
genders.
"The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said to the women on his way out of the
mosque when he saw men and women mixing together on their way home: 'Give way
(i.e., walk to the sides) as it is not appropriate for you to walk in the middle the road.'
Thereafter, women would walk so close to the wall that their dresses would get caught
on it." (Abu Dawood)
Hijaab is also to conceal your sister
Although some sisters wear the Hijaab themselves, they forget that they cannot talk
about another sister and her beauty in front of their own husbands, brothers, etc.
Remember, part of your Hijaab is to cover your sisters 'awrah' as well.
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: "No woman should mix with a
woman and describe her to her husband so that it is as if he can see her." (Muslim)
May Allah guide us and bless us with the TRUE understanding of His Deen. Ameen.
Hijaab is not a piece of cloth on your head. It's a way of Life.
Just because some of the sisters have their head covered, they think that the requirement of Hijaab is fulfilled. They don't realize that wearing a Hijaab requires much more than
just covering your head.
Actually, if you think about it, Hijaab is the way you talk…..the way you walk….the
very way you carry yourself. In fact, Hijaab is an attitude in itself. Its a whole way of life.
Allaah says:
"And say to the believing women to lower their gazes, and to guard their private parts,
and not to display their beauty (zeenah) except what is apparent of it, and to extend
their headcoverings (khimars) to cover their bosoms (jaybs), and not to display their
beauty except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons,
or their husband's sons, or their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or
their womenfolk, or what their right hands rule (slaves), or the followers from the men
who do not feel sexual desire, or the small children to whom the nakedness of women is
not apparent, and not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make known what they
hide of their adornments. And turn in repentance to Allah together, O you believers, in
order that you are successful." (Surat-un-Nur: 31).
Here are some of the more common issues in light of this verse about the Hijaab.
Well, my head is covered. What more do you want?
If you look carefully at the ayah, it clearly states that the head covers (khumur) should
be drawn over the neck slits (juyoob). Khumur is the plural of the Arabic word "khimar"
which means a headcover. Juyoob is the plural of the Arabic word "jaiyb", which refers
to the neck slit (of the dress).
Yet, some sisters just cover their head with something, and think they are fulfilling the
rights of Hijaab, although part of their hair or body is showing, or their whole neck and
chest area are exposed. Actually, that was the way of the women of Jahilliyah.
Al-Qurtubi said: "Women in those days used to cover their heads with the khimar,
throwing its ends upon their backs. This left the neck and the upper part of the chest
bare, along with the ears. Then Allah commanded them to cover those parts with the
khimar."
So secure the scarf well around your face, covering your neck/chest area, and keep those
half sleeves and capri pants for your Mahrams
Sorry.…tight jeans and short shirt just don't cut it
You can't wear tight jeans and a short shirt with a piece of cloth on your head and think
this is Hijaab. Nor can you wear anything else that is tight, describing the shape of the
body in any way, even if it is long. The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said:
"In later (generations) of my ummah there will be women who will be dressed but
naked. On top of their heads (what looks) like camel humps. They will not enter into
paradise or (even) get a smell of it." (Muslim)
If it is see-through, its NOT Hijaab
You CANNOT use chiffon or other see through material to cover your hair and body.
Everything should be covered and the color of the skin underneath should not be
visible.
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) once received a thick garment as a gift. He
gave it to Osamah b. Zayd, who in turn gave it to his wife. When asked by the Prophet
why he did not wear it, Osamah indicated that he gave it to his wife. The Prophet then
said to Osamah "ask her to use a "gholalah" under it (the garment) for I fear that it (the
garment) may describe the size of her bones." (Ahmad, Abi-Dawood)
(The word gholalah in Arabic means a thick fabric worn under the dress to prevent it
from describing the shape of the body).
The Hijaab shouldn't attract attention
The dress should not be such that it attracts men's attention to the woman's beauty.
Allaah clearly states "not to display their beauty (zeenah)." Yet, Subhaan Allaah, some
Hijaabi sisters are dressed in such a way that they attract more attention to themselves
than they would if they didn't wear Hijaab!! How could such zeenah be concealed if the
dress is designed in a way that it attracts men's eyes to the woman? It beats the purpose
of Hijaab.
Allaah tells us: "And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the
times of ignorance…" [al-Ahzaab:32]
What about make-up and perfume???
Wearing make up is also part of the zeenah that Allaah orders us NOT to display. So if
your head and body are appropriately covered yet you are wearing bright red lipstick or
dark eyeliner such that people confuse between you and a raccoon….uh sorry, that's not
Hijaab. And keep those nice fragrances for the home, between you and your husband.
That's part of Hijaab too, even if you are going to the Masjid. The Prophet (Sal Allaahu
Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: "Any woman who puts on perfume and passes by people so
that they can smell her fragrance, is an adulteress." (al-Nasaa'i, Tirmidhi: hasan by
Albaani)
Tinkling Jewelry and Jingling bracelets
'Loud' and tinkling anything, be it jewelry, bracelets, clip-clopping shoes, little bells on
clothes, you name it, if it jingles or makes noise, it is against the principles of Hijaab,
because it attracts attention to the one wearing it. That is what is meant when Allaah
orders us in the above verse…"not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make
known what they hide of their adornments."
No laughing, joking, or hanging out with non-Mahrams
Some sisters assume that since they are properly covered, its okay for them to sit around
and talk, laugh, joke, etc. with the men, but that's not right, even if he is 'the Shaikh'.
Allaah says:". . . then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease should be
moved with desire, but speak in an honorable manner." [al-Ahzaab:32]
So talk to them when there is a specific need, and in a manner that is not necessarily
rude, yet it is polite but firm.
Staring at the brothers or 'checking them out' is NOT Hijaab
Allaah orders us to "lower your gaze" in the above verse. Why? Because a single 'look'
can say more than a thousand words. So, even if you are properly covered, keep those
eyes down, conduct yourself with 'Hayaa', and avoid 'fitnah'.
'Chatting' on the internet/phone is not part of Hijaab, either
There is no such thing as "we're just friends". Talking to non-Mahrams is wrong even if
it is through the internet or telephone. There are too many stories of illegal relationships,
fornications, broken homes, extra-marital affairs and runaway brides to even mention.
That is why in Islam anything that leads to haraam is also haraam. Allaah says:
"Do not (even) come close to fornication, for it is an indecency, and its way is evil."
(Surah Israa:32)
Be careful, even in the way you walk
Remember, you are not a runway model displaying the latest fashion. Walk with
modesty and hayaa and you will be respected. The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa
Sallam) said:
"There are two types of the people of Hell that I have not seen yet….women who are
clothed yet naked, walking with an enticing gait….." (Muslim).
Don't shake hands with non-Mahrams. Its part of Hijaab
It is not permissible to shake hands with a non-Mahram, because the Prophet (Sal
Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: "For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron
needle is better for him than to touch a woman who is not permissible for him." (at-
Tabaraani saheeh by al-Albaani).
And no, it is not rude to refuse to shake hands with non-Muslims. Simply politely
explain that its part of your religion and they are very understanding.
Stay away from the men's areas
I see many sisters entering the Masjid from the men's entrance, or standing idle in the
hallways or where there is a chance of unnecessary mixing with the brothers. What for?
Don't we have a separate entrance for ourselves? Why do you think Allaah ordained the
Hijaab in the first place? To avoid fitnah, by reducing temptation and separating the
genders.
"The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said to the women on his way out of the
mosque when he saw men and women mixing together on their way home: 'Give way
(i.e., walk to the sides) as it is not appropriate for you to walk in the middle the road.'
Thereafter, women would walk so close to the wall that their dresses would get caught
on it." (Abu Dawood)
Hijaab is also to conceal your sister
Although some sisters wear the Hijaab themselves, they forget that they cannot talk
about another sister and her beauty in front of their own husbands, brothers, etc.
Remember, part of your Hijaab is to cover your sisters 'awrah' as well.
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: "No woman should mix with a
woman and describe her to her husband so that it is as if he can see her." (Muslim)
May Allah guide us and bless us with the TRUE understanding of His Deen. Ameen.
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