Originally posted by: mango.falooda
it would have been boring if maina was one note but we are seeing a complex picture. sometimes ITV has this habit of doing black and white but in real life, people are a mix -- we both have good and bad traits. we can feel sad and frustrated that we are not accepted. we are not jumping to be mahaan and overlook insults. but at the same time, we can be accommodating and try to get on even if we are frustrated. so I am glad to see the writing that maina is human. she has every right to feel bad. so it will be interesting to see where this goes.
Since Maina is already feeling slighted about not getting any power in the house because of Koyal, I wonder how she's going to feel once Titli arrives. My assumption is that with her arrival, there will eventually be a shift in power from the MIL (Koyal) to the new generation (DIL - Titli). Then, once she conceives it will pass onto her children. In all of this, where does that leave Maina? When is it her time to enjoy the comforts and power of being at the top of the Mehta house?
what I find interesting in this drama is this mention of how the previous generation really thinks the elders did a number on them. badi maa insisted in another episode that elders know what they are doing and manikant bitterly said that his life was screwed. then daadu said koyal was good for the family -- but then the implication is, "so what if she is not good for you?". that felt really sad to me.
a marriage isn't about who is good for the family. first and foremost, it should be who is good for the individual because ultimately, it is the two people who are going to live their lives. then you can think about who is good for the family as well as the next layer.
Yup! I think this may play a factor in why Manikant eventually gives in to Garv. He may not be happy about Titli because she's from a lower financial class, but he also may not want Garv to end up bitter and miserable like him. Hence, why he concedes to the marriage.
now daadu because of his alzheimers looks all sweet but what was he like earlier? did he just ignore his sons wishes and dominated them to do as he wanted regardless of how they felt? thats what it sounds like as even the uncle is now saying he loved someone else and has regrets.
Great question! Unfortunately, it's hard to say as whenever the actor playing Daadu comes up on screen, he always looks clueless. 😆 Maybe they'll show some flashbacks to help clear that up.
so while titli is going to be battle a legacy of broken relationships and hidden abuse, garv it looks like has been handed a legacy of feeling helpless and bitter because of decisions that elders took in the house. given garv's extreme idolization of badi maa, he is in danger of repeating those same cycles as his father and uncle. give in to the family pressure and then regret for years later. will he change the pattern? or will he unconsciously become his father and uncle?
Hmm, now that you mention it, there is another parallel between TiRv. From his childhood till now, Garv has witnessed and is fully cognizant of the abuse between his parents. Titli on the other hand is ignorant (and has largely suppressed) the abuse that happened between her parents. Through these characters we are getting to see the different ways abuse impacts an individual's mind from the nascent to formative to adult years, as well as what the correct ways to cope with said abuse should be.
I want garv to realize this pattern and also find ways to get close to the men in his house. this is one family that shows why you can't have split parenting where the child is only close to one parent. if you want a healthy individual, you also need a healthy relationship with your father -- they are not there just to finance.
I think Garv breaking the cycle that his father and uncle were trapped in won't be enough. As opposed to the women, I feel it is the bonds between the men that have led to most of the pain and tears in the Mehta household. The shackles of patriarchy if you will, they need to break if anyone in that house, man or woman, is to live a peaceful and happy life.
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