In Dev's Defense
I know many of you are wondering why Dev is clueless about Jug Head's antics and are frustrated with Dev's personality. Some even consider it absurd that Dev is unaware of the happenings in his home.
I am one of those who finds Dev's personality completely in sync with the plot. So. I decided to write this post in his defense.
I think the answer lies in Jug head's personality. Jug Head is a self-absorbed parent, in other words he is a destructive (or pathological) narcissist. He (is/has):
self-focused and self-absorbed
constantly seeking attention and admiration
indifferent or unresponsive to the needs of others (including his children and wife)
gives orders and expects immediate obedience
exhibits entitlement attitude
arrogant and contemptuous of others
exhibits two faces - one for public and one for home
In fact, Jug Head is so self-absorbed that he sees his sons as vehicles for wealth and power. He is not interested in their welfare and never allowed them to express their needs including that of a happy marital life. He uses them as objects of barter for dowry and status (self-serving purposes).
Jug Head has been using his children for self-serving purposes and putting them down (when they do not serve his purposes) ever since they were young.
How did the boys cope? It was not easy - every one outside of the family were of the impression that Jug Head is a wonderful person while the boys had to bear the brunt of his deceit, put-downs, disinterest, and tantrums. To get Jug Head's approval Ayyo joined Jug Head in his deceitful plots and turned himself into a bully and thug - whereas Dev chose to suffer in silence and internalized his hurt by tuning out his father's behavior. Jug Head ignored Dev who in turn kept a low profile by staying away from home (and his father) as far as possible. He chose to distance himself from the happenings and drama in his house. And so, Jug Head could successfully hide the confidence trick that he pulled on the Rais.
Dev idolizes Ayyo for his ability to please his dad (Jug Head) - for in comparison he is not good enough. Dev does not know how to lie, bully and beat up people at the slightest provocation.
Somewhere deep down Dev knows that his father is mean, phony, self-absorbed, dishonest, immature, manipulative ... .. but since his childhood he has been forced to constantly keep his dad appeased. This need to be conforming and acting in ways to please his dad has become his personality. It is dysfunctional - but then he is the child of a destructive narcissist - what do you expect?
Unfortunately Santoshi Devi too displays the same traits as Jug Head though not to the same extreme.
P.S. I may add, I find Abhishek's rendition of Dev superb and I hope you do too after reading my post.
Edited by anonee - 9 years ago
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