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Posted: 14 years ago
#41

Originally posted by: monaha262

I agree with you but if women slap a guy with words like pihu did than there is no other option remain. There is one saying that if you want people respect you than you should respect others. I think if pihu respect rudar point of view than he never slap her. That's only my pov if I hurt you I am sorry.

Actually, the only one you hurt is yourself for holding to the view that it is OK to slap people who disrespect you and that one who is slapped for *disrespecting* someone deserves it.
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Posted: 14 years ago
#42

Originally posted by: pretuna

I don't think it is a big deal because there is a reason behind why he slapped her. Her words hurt more than that slap.I wouldn't necessarily even call it abuse to those who are implying that.

You have a lot to learn. Slapping a woman is abusive - there is NO reason to justify it in a relationship.
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Posted: 14 years ago
#43

Originally posted by: JayaV

Gud to see u in this forum Laila. n i agree with u , be it any one husband, brother father anyone a man who slaps a women r idiots , yet i wont deny that pihu provoked him to do it , i dont think rudra would ever hurt pihu like she was doing to him , so the only way left to him was slapping her , which i didnot like even though i am not found of pihus role i agree with u ,

Jaya, When you slap someone, you're attempting to humilate and degrade them. Rudra's ego was hurt and instead of telling her to go get married to the guy and walk off, he slapped her. A stronger man does not get provoked by these things. He makes fun of the girl and walks off. That gives him the upper hand.
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Posted: 14 years ago
#44

Originally posted by: sv06

I'm so glad you brought this up Laila. I was appauled to see some posts justifying the slap !! It's utterly disgusting to show domestic violence, physical abuse that too on prime time TV and glorifying such acts. And as we know these shows are watched by young viewers/teens/preteens also who idolise their favorite hero !

What Pihu did was right or wrong, noone deserves to be physically abused for whatever reason. Hitting is big no no. There were millions of ways Rudra could've dealt with the situation. But no, the creatives made him resort to slapping on a woman, just to create some drama.

A confident man is not provoked to slap a woman when she makes such a comment. He is able to give it right back to her with words and the ability to tell her to go do what she wants, he'll manage without her. What a better way to have the upperhand! It is for admireable in a male. The slap renders the lead man as pathetic loser.
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Posted: 14 years ago
#45

Originally posted by: 49erFan

OK here is a guy slapping a gal so we have this topic, how about when the leading actress goes on a slapping spree and slaps the actor, is that any different????

Depends on who has the upper hand in the relationship. Typically men have the upper hand and are often larger in size. However, slapping itself is a sign of someone who seriously low self-esteem and does not have the abilty to manage how to express themselves. IF you are endorsing such a behavior, you might want to look at yourself and others who do engage in such behaviors and help them (or yourself) on working on themselves and how better to communicate/express themselves.
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Posted: 14 years ago
#46

Originally posted by: apux

I have to agree. I seriously don't like this slapping business. Whatever Pihu did, she didn't physically hurt Rudra. Violence is wrong, coming from either sides. People need to learn to use their words no matter how angry they are. There is no justification. He has no excuse to raise his hands.

A-freaking-men.
To be honest, I understand why TPTB would show a slapping scene to characterize him. What I don't understand is why people try to justify it. Moreover, what exactly was Pihu expected to do once he apologized for slapping her? Jump into his arms so they could go gallivanting off into the yellow sunflower fields? Seriously, drooling over his looks aside -- How many girls here would marry a guy who slapped them because they said something he didn't like? I know I wouldn't. (Though, in all fairness, I don't support her decision to marry Abhay, either). Dealing with Rudra's teenager-esque jealous ways would get old very quickly.
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Posted: 14 years ago
#47
I don't personally think it's such a black and white issue as in he slapped her, so end of story....now we should all hate him.

I'm not justifying the slap....it was obviously wrong of him to do so but it was a situation that was building up with Pihu's incessant provoking....the things she was saying weren't right either....twisted "sense of humor" that she has so he ultimately retaliated...he did try words before it all led to the slap.

Everyone can have their own opinions but I honestly don't subscribe to the view that showing a person slapping someone once starts being equated to "extreme violence" or "domestic violence" etc. There is a difference b/w the way Rudra slapped her and typical "violence"....I can easily see the situation reversing and Pihu slapping him for saying something she didn't like either....they are both flawed characters.

And btw ppl are human, not everyone can have the perfect reaction to being provoked....one slap is not equal to a woman being beaten black and blue or punched in the face by abusive husbands. By that logic, many of us must have been slapped by our parents atleast once while growing up.....does that mean that they are equally "violent"??
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Posted: 14 years ago
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]I don't personally think it's such a black and white issue as in he slapped her, so end of story....now we should all hate him.

I'm not justifying the slap....it was obviously wrong of him to do so but it was a situation that was building up with Pihu's incessant provoking....the things she was saying weren't right either....twisted "sense of humor" that she has so he ultimately retaliated...he did try words before it all led to the slap.
We all know why he slapped her; he is man with low self worth and a big ego who could not handle is girlfriend saying things about him. Instead of using words he had to show his brutishness and slap her. The writers minimized the slap with her saying the slap did not hurt as much as something else he did. The point is the slap was wrong and it does not give us a good image of him as a leading man. It's nothing admirable.

Everyone can have their own opinions but I honestly don't subscribe to the view that showing a person slapping someone once starts being equated to "extreme violence" or "domestic violence" etc. There is a difference b/w the way Rudra slapped her and typical "violence"....I can easily see the situation reversing and Pihu slapping him for saying something she didn't like either....they are both flawed characters.
Actually, it is and that's the case in all books on domestic abuse. It might not be "violent" in that we don't sese blood or bruises on her face, but it is abuse and falls under the term "violence" and is not acceptable. You can have a flawed character but is the only one the writers could come up with? Poor creativity.

And btw ppl are human, not everyone can have the perfect reaction to being provoked....one slap is not equal to a woman being beaten black and blue or punched in the face by abusive husbands. By that logic, many of us must have been slapped by our parents atleast once while growing up.....does that mean that they are equally "violent"??
Have you ever seen the Ashwariya Rai film "PROVOKED" ???? When men abuse women they use the SAME excuse - she said something that made me do it. Abuse does not have to consist of "beating a woman black and blue." Have you heard of emotional and verbal abuse? Pihu was not abusing her husband, she was acting as a spoilt brat and she was mean, but THAT did not give Rudra the right to slap her. A guy who has SELF-WORTH and CONFIDENCE and does not believen in raising his hand at a woman, does not slap her.
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Posted: 14 years ago
#49

Originally posted by: Laila2009

We all know why he slapped her; he is man with low self worth and a big ego who could not handle is girlfriend saying things about him. Instead of using words he had to show his brutishness and slap her.



Alright....if you say so, then obviously we all "know" it....Rudra is a brute, a psycho, a sadist and he deserves to be thrown in jail for slapping Pihu once. Even better, he should straightaway be given the death penalty....he has no right to live after slapping Pihu.
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Posted: 14 years ago
#50

Originally posted by: Laila2009

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And btw ppl are human, not everyone can have the perfect reaction to being provoked....one slap is not equal to a woman being beaten black and blue or punched in the face by abusive husbands. By that logic, many of us must have been slapped by our parents atleast once while growing up.....does that mean that they are equally "violent"??
Have you ever seen the Ashwariya Rai film "PROVOKED" ???? When men abuse women they use the SAME excuse - she said something that made me do it. Abuse does not have to consist of "beating a woman black and blue." Have you heard of emotional and verbal abuse? Pihu was not abusing her husband, she was acting as a spoilt brat and she was mean, but THAT did not give Rudra the right to slap her. A guy who has SELF-WORTH and CONFIDENCE and does not believen in raising his hand at a woman, does not slap her.

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Yes I have seen the movie Provoked and if you think that Rudra slapping Pihu in this case is equivalent to what was shown of Aishwarya's husband beating her up in the movie, then I don't think there is much point to me saying anything more in this discussion. You clearly have not understood my point....if you want to continue to make this out to be some case of "extreme domestic violence", then by all means carry on. I have nothing more to say.
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