I hope Nilima stays in coma! - Page 2

Originally posted by: ramas

This is the real world of older bahus in Indian joint family. especially when older son has tottake care of all younger siblings like a father.

have been in nil's place and have my heart broken million times as much that despite marryiing 5-7 years before all of my huby's siblings. My son is youngest. reason my huby wanted all his bro,sisters married and have family before us. me and my son still come last as when it comes to his family. My mother suffered the same and then my turn came. Luckily I don't have any daughters As my huby thought and treated his 4 sisters like bhairaja treated nandini.

wish my SIL's were like nandini though.

And I am not alone in in this postion. I have seen many of my frieinds same way.

Nil will wake up and will be happy. I am gald one good thing came out of this. Mukti's truth.

see I hear this a lot that older bahus have to suffer and sacrifice, but i cant understand when thing go beyond stupidity. I am an older bahu living in a joint family. Yes my husband likes to take care of his sisters and brother but one thing that has been clear since we got married is that I love my in laws so much but I wont give up my rights to make their life easier or sacrifice myself beyond limits. Me and my husband do everything for the family (my in laws actully do LOVE me soooo much) but then we are also a couple and live our life too.

There is a very fine line between relationships and if everyone respects that and not cross limits everyone can be happy man I have been doing it. just need to keep balance in life which none of the soaps have.