Originally posted by: Palak2812
Btw one thing I am not liking is the way Ashwin is with Deepti. I feel he takes her for granted. Yes that news headlines looked wrong but he had 0 trusts that Deepti will do that? & he was yelling at her in public. A big no. Yahi se toxic relationship start hota hain. Deepti is an absloute sweetheart, who understands everything but his behaviour with her puts me off. I know itna kuch hua nahi hain but this has happened earlier too and I wanted to share my views.
Originally posted by: DelusionsOfNeha
I felt the same too. Even earlier, Deepti has been very sweet and kind. Ashwin has had his shares of difficulties growing up and not believing someone may have to do with his childhood trauma but I never understand in ITV trusting your partner is not a thing. One of them will be like ye isi ne kiya hoga 
Here's my view, and please feel free to disagree on this. Ashwin is NOT ready for a relationship like marriage, even if Deepti is. I said this earlier too, but I guess on Twitter, that he and the other two siblings have not had their father with them growing up, and a mother who had to multitask as a result of that, so they have somewhat learned to only completely rely on and trust those who have been with them in that journey (as in Pushpa, Ashwin, Chirag and Rashi). Ashwin has had to become a step-in father along with a brother to Chirag and Rashi, so he gets even more protective about them, and has been the one who has seen his mother suffer the most, so he idolises her for it.
There have been several instances, some of which that come to mind immediately that I'll just lay down:
(i) In the beginning when he went to talk to Deepti's parents about the relationship and he was clear he wont live away from his mother or siblings at all, even if he moves to a bigger apartment, because they are a part of his identity. It is a noble thought to have, but we never know whether it is something that might suit Deepti, knowing her background. There was no inclusion of how he will ensure that Deepti also finds a space in their house as an equal member, where she might possibly want to make some changes later, he only said that he will hope Deepti is safe and secure too, but her parents were impressed with his sanskaar and that's that.
(ii) He left his own engagement for Chirag and did not get back to Deepti about Chirag's status on his own, it was Pushpa who informed her and her fam. Ideally, we do remember to call and inform our close ones. I rationalised maybe he intended to tell her in office the next day.
(iii) He was called to Deepti's party for the promotion, he failed to turn up and remember to give a reasoning. When Chirag reminded him and he called up too, he had this anticipation she is supposed to understand without giving her a chance to do so. Deepti did get it even if she was upset at him, and even came to offer her own money to Pushpa for Chirag, which means she also trusted Chirag.
(iv) The part where he took on the onus of delivering the project and then Pushpa accidentally deleted it. He went over to Deepti's and they fixed it, but honestly that should have been a moment where Deepti does hold Pushpa accountable atleast immediately, and she did not, she chose to understand, let it go, and they ended up thankfully completing it on time.
(v) This part where they were both working hard for their project, but risked their jobs and livelihoods when it threatened Pushpa and the residents. Why would Deepti think only about herself in such a scenario when she considers his family also as her own?
I am sincerely hoping that maybe Deepti's parents will advice her to take a step back from Ashwin and the whole mess either because of his behaviour or because they do not want to be any party to Pushpa and her children being homeless. And when he is forced to deal with it on his own, he will come to realise how he has been fairly concerned more about being a good son and brother, but has failed this relationship, when he finds out she was innocent. Then they need to have a fresh start taking into consideration what Deepti might want or need as his significant other too.
I'm hoping to write in some of this as feedback, and I am somewhat hoping they do consider it 😊
Edited by nautankitadka - 2 years ago
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