This PH needs reality check ? - Page 2

Originally posted by: Angie12

Neerja, these are valid questions. But even Sarita's passive behavior is not making sense to me. I have known few girls from extremely conservative families who have got divorced after few years of marriage for whatever reasons. In some cases, families were rich and supported them. In some cases, it was not so and yet they did it. Now most of are happily remarried. So India has changed despite the stigma still attached to a divorced girl.

Here Sarita is shown to be from a rich family. She did walk out on Raj after 10 years, but why did she not do it earlier. She blames Divya (totally wrong) and Raj's family (rightly so), yet does not blame Raj at all. Why is that? How did she fall for Raj (even as a husband) after this kind of behavior? Even in last episode, they were showing that she was angry at comparison with Divya. But in her flashbacks, she did not remember Kamla's taunts, but Raj going towards Divya. She saw Raj stopping Divya by force, yet had no words for him. After he left, she blasted Divya who seems to be an easy target. They have shown her from the beginning a strong personality who knows how to fight for her rights. Yet why is she so silent in front of Raj where she is not taking him to task at all?

So Sarita's love for Raj seems as destructive to me as Raj's love for Divya is. At this point, I do not find much difference in their definition of love. So unless they explain this part of Sarita, her character is not connecting to me either.

I would love it if they show Divya leaving Bhopal not only because she had to take care of her siblings, but also because she had ambition too. But they won't show that as the lead has to be sacrificing where she does not do anything for herself. But then leaving Bhopal needs to be explained.

Originally posted by: shana0127

omg story is so complicated

i just dropped in to find about the show of rubina as i liked her in choti bahu

but here it seems again she has come in a complicated show lol

Originally posted by: Angie12

Neerja, these are valid questions. But even Sarita's passive behavior is not making sense to me. I have known few girls from extremely conservative families who have got divorced after few years of marriage for whatever reasons. In some cases, families were rich and supported them. In some cases, it was not so and yet they did it. Now most of are happily remarried. So India has changed despite the stigma still attached to a divorced girl.

Here Sarita is shown to be from a rich family. She did walk out on Raj after 10 years, but why did she not do it earlier. She blames Divya (totally wrong) and Raj's family (rightly so), yet does not blame Raj at all. Why is that?
Angie , may be she is from the background , where pati is parmeshwar . agree what she was waiting for , where there was no communication . Its not black and white picture as you mentioned in your post Meena Kumari , where you endlessly wait for your husband to return . I think it was the last straw when she came to know that it was Divya , .When you are desperate and sometimes your patience ends then you are not thinking straight . You are right it should have been Raj she should have taken to . Divya was not there when he married her .

How did she fall for Raj (even as a husband) after this kind of behavior?
Angie its arrange marriage where just getting engage girls starts weaving their dreams . She was shocked when she heard the truth , but what happened in between that she was waiting for him happily . Was it Raj ,s father who convinced her it was nothing .if she is from powerful family then why she is treated shabbily , nothing match here .

Even in last episode, they were showing that she was angry at comparison with Divya. But in her flashbacks, she did not remember Kamla's taunts, but Raj going towards Divya. She saw Raj stopping Divya by force, yet had no words for him. After he left, she blasted Divya who seems to be an easy target. They have shown her from the beginning a strong personality who knows how to fight for her rights. Yet why is she so silent in front of Raj where she is not taking him to task at all?
So Sarita's love for Raj seems as destructive to me as Raj's love for Divya is. At this point, I do not find much difference in their definition of love. So unless they explain this part of Sarita, her character is not connecting to me either.
I am not connected with any character except Gaurav , who i find is mature , understanding and is good friend to Divya . How can Divya make a person fall for his wife when she is before him . All the time woman shown ,clutching their mangalsutra , as is its some weapon . Divya is soft target for her as divya gave her seven vows .

I would love it if they show Divya leaving Bhopal not only because she had to take care of her siblings, but also because she had ambition too. But they won't show that as the lead has to be sacrificing where she does not do anything for herself. But then leaving Bhopal needs to be explained.
All this reminded me of Movie Avishkar with Sharmila Tagore and Rajesh Khanna..Its about love marriage . Before marriage both meet for sometime and you just know the best about each other , but after marriage when you are together then the real self comes and the harsh realities of life , love flies out of the window . Raj and Divya must be in teens .

Originally posted by: Angie12

Neerja, my problem with the show is that I am forced to make assumptions about all three characters to understand their behavior. Divya's character is the one that is more clear cut even though there are blanks regarding her too. Sarita's character and her desperation are understandable as anybody would be bitter and desperate after wasting 10 years of their golden period. But why did she do that is not given to us unless we make assumptions. But those assumptions that she comes from a conservative family etc. are contradicted by many things.
But many times i have seen girls ,themselves are responsible for their situation . Thats why baffled about Sarita , why she is taking all this for such a long time when even you are non existent to your husband , for what , why to waste your life ? its dead relationship and why further humiliate yourself asking ex girlfriend to mend your marriage when its not there . Sometimes girls take nonsense of the parents when they have support of husband , but that is not even there
..Why to blame the other girl when she was there in the picture for last ten years . Perhaps PH is bringing innovative idea for girls who are in this situation , should go to Ex and save your seven Vows . Only if she comes from powerful family . if so then why Mr Sohan lal is not scared of throwing her out of the house ?

I no longer want to make assumptions and I don't want to do justification of characters. Unless they show back stories of these characters especially that of Sarita and Raj, I can not connect to their characters at all. All I like about Sarita so far is her answering back to Kamla and daughters or withdrawing her help when they abuse her. Thinking of Raj as "Parmeshwar" does not get any points from me unless they justify that behavior.
Its PH ,s job to tell the story , giving reasons behind characters, action. Till now Raj,s character is hazy , is side lined ,

Also, I have seen examples of arranged marriages where girls have behaved differently. Lets not compare any TV show especially of this PH with reality because DILs of such shows do not match any reality.

As far as Meena Kumari examples are concerned, the era represented by her movies was a different time period. Sahib, biwi and gulam was set in either late 19th century or early 20th century. Her biwi was a very strong character who fought for her rights till the end until she self destructed. That complex character can never be compared with any character of any serial. Case in example is Saraswati Chandra that is based on a famous Gujarati novel and look how that character is shown in a TV serial.