This PH needs reality check ?

i could not stop myself about commenting about Sarita being weak . I know we all have our own perspective . i write what i see all around , till now have not shown Sarita,s background , her family . If she is from rich family, does not mean they are progressive . Still there are many families which has this mindset that after marriage your in laws house is your house , and sometimes its prestige issue also . Girls sometimes do not tell their parents themselves not to worry their parents . Sarita is quite strong who is facing this crap family such a long time and Raj is her husband who married her willingly. If blames lies its the Raj . Why girls are blamed for their situations . Where was his this protective nature when a girl is daily abused and treated like a maid in his own house whom he has married and discarded like a garbage same night . So this PH is not bringing the story with logic , not feeling the gaps . Reason for low TRP , as people have stopped watching , as i have not seen the previous show , but people says that was real good with out any trash dialogues . Why she should not have insecurities loosing her husband , she is there for long 10 years .

If my personal opinion i would have liked her to move out of that house the next day . Raj does not deserve neither Sarita nor Divya . All going ga ga over Divya because she is celebrity and for parents , is loaded . Do you think Divya was accepted in this mad house if she was not loaded and how Raj would have protected her when he himself succumbed to pressure a girl against his will . As for Raj ,s reaction , he knows Divya came to meet him earlier , then her breaking the marriage at the last moment , then when he saves her from the goons and she hugs him. At last coming to his house like a bride . All the four actors are very good , its Only PH , which has to cover the gaps , and just tone down that mad house If really wants viewers .

Well I agree that PH is not able to handle the situation quite well. They are creating a mess with all 4 characters.
But I think they have shown enough of Sarita for now. Yeah we have to know about her family too.
But if you compare Sarita with other characters like Raj and Div then I think it is a well described character.
We don't know anything about Raj and Divya. PH isn't taking care of these 2 characters' development.
Viewers have many questions. Like
1. Why did Divya leave Raj before 10 years? Only for siblings? Was it enough reason? Couldn't she find any other way to raise them staying in Bhopal?
2. Why din't Raj try to find her in past 10 years? It wasn't tough to find out her as she is TV's popular face. He loved her soo much but why didn't he go to Mumbai then?
3. Couldn't Divya continue the relation with Raj while working in media? Or Raj didn't want her to work there? I dnt think so because Raj himself was a creative person. And loved Divy like crazy.
4. Why did Raj return to Mandap that day to marry Sarita?
5. What makes Sarita think that Raj will love her someday when in past 10 years he never touched her even. And why is she so obsessed with Raj?
6. If Sarita's family is more powerful and richer than Raj then why din't they take their daughter away from that crazy sasural and passive husband? Or why didn't Sarita herself leave this place where she gets nothing but humiliation?
7. Why didn't Raj ask Divya the reason of her leaving? He knew that she has returned in Bhopal but why didn't he meet her? Even when Divya was there why didn't he ask her any question rather than approaching for a direct love making?
And the list of questions goes on...
With so many loop holes in the story the show is loosing its interest.
It is going to 1 month but we didn't get much about Raj and Divya's past and the exact reason of their separation.

And if Divya was married to Raj instead of Sarita then there was possibility of both negative and positive behaviour from Raj's family. I think Kamla can't tolerate Sarita because she couldn't give her pota in long 10 years and Kamla has to listen stuffs from Sohanlal for this. So she rags Sarita. And Kamla herself is tolerating that sundari so she also has a fair reason to be rude. If Div was married to Raj and could produce pota then scenerio could be diffrent.
PH really needs a reallity check. But now with the end of TRP system I think the story won't improve that much as there won't be any competition...

Comunication is key to every problem. These people dont comunicate with eachother, Raj is locked up,. he isnt speaking his will or thoughts to anyone, or in past didnt contact divya to know abt her for 10 years, Sarita doesnt say raj doesnt touch her to the family when they acuse her of not having kids..
Yeah maybe all have a past and a reason for behaving this way but so far wasnt shown..maybe they will in the future, hopefully, so the story can have logic.

Originally posted by: SushantFan_Afss

Well I agree that PH is not able to handle the situation quite well. They are creating a mess with all 4 characters.
But I think they have shown enough of Sarita for now. Yeah we have to know about her family too.
But if you compare Sarita with other characters like Raj and Div then I think it is a well described character.
We don't know anything about Raj and Divya. PH isn't taking care of these 2 characters' development.
Viewers have many questions. Like
1. Why did Divya leave Raj before 10 years? Only for siblings? Was it enough reason? Couldn't she find any other way to raise them staying in Bhopal?

She must be having reasons as were already told , yes it was enough reasons if you are sensitive enough and from a caring family , you can not leave your siblings to defend themselves . She was doing theater in College so knew about acting stuff . Why people run to Mumbai ? She may have got some job there as was shown in the starting , not had opportunity in Bhopal .Here again PH needs to show the past , should not leave to the viewers to guess . they are story teller . its their job. viewers are not sitting for exams to find the answers
2. Why din't Raj try to find her in past 10 years? It wasn't tough to find out her as she is TV's popular face. He loved her soo much but why didn't he go to Mumbai then?

I am asking the same , why did not he go to Mumbai ,if he was so crazily in love with her . He is a man , he could have .
3. Couldn't Divya continue the relation with Raj while working in media? Or Raj didn't want her to work there? I dnt think so because Raj himself was a creative person. And loved Divy like crazy.
First he is human , even creative person can be obsessive as its quite clear from his behavior, marry a girl and then discards her like rag same night .
4. Why did Raj return to Mandap that day to marry Sarita?
Should PH be giving the answer . Personally i do not have any respect for this kind of guy . In Indian society , its always the girls who are blamed . If he was so passionately in love with Divya should have left the house or told his parents . If this guy succumb to pressure , could he has helped Divya if he had married her in this greedy family Again Its PH job

5. What makes Sarita think that Raj will love her someday when in past 10 years he never touched her even. And why is she so obsessed with Raj?
Its not her obsession, Raj has married her , he is her husband where every Hindi show goes on harping about the seven Vows which binds you for life time .Why not show some progressive thoughts in these situations? Asking the Ex-girlfriend to bring happiness in your life . I will never wish any girl to suffer that kind of life she is getting, will like to go away . but real life is not so easy . Why even belonging to influential family , girls keep silent , do not tell their parents , ? sometimes its the prestige issue and sometimes not to worry their parents , specially in small cities where every one knows everyone .

6. If Sarita's family is more powerful and richer than Raj then why din't they take their daughter away from that crazy sasural and passive husband? Or why didn't Sarita herself leave this place where she gets nothing but humiliation?

Just heard the last dialogues of that father and mother about throwing the sarita out of house , perhaps PH itself does not remember what was told earlier about Sarita,s family .If her parents are so powerful ,will they take this easily . Here Sarita,s background has to be shown , her reasons to admit to marry and then happily waiting for her husband after marriage

7. Why didn't Raj ask Divya the reason of her leaving? He knew that she has returned in Bhopal but why didn't he meet her? Even when Divya was there why didn't he ask her any question rather than approaching for a direct love making?
Agree with you . here caricatured Raj
And the list of questions goes on...
With so many loop holes in the story the show is loosing its interest.
It is going to 1 month but we didn't get much about Raj and Divya's past and the exact reason of their separation.
If he was understanding person , would have understood her reasons for her leaving . Its PH job

And if Divya was married to Raj instead of Sarita then there was possibility of both negative and positive behavior from Raj's family. I think Kamla can't tolerate Sarita because she couldn't give her pota in long 10 years and Kamla has to listen stuffs from Sohanlal for this. So she rags Sarita. And Kamla herself is tolerating that sundari so she also has a fair reason to be rude. If Div was married to Raj and could produce pota then scenario could be different.
PH really needs a reality check. But now with the end of TRP system I think the story won't improve that much as there won't be any competition...

Not to offend anyone , i started this show just because of Rubina as i have not seen any other actor,s show . As for this PH , have seen few glimpses where DIL are mute and tested at every step . Love flies out of the window when harsh realities of life faces you . Raj is not a strong character , if would have never let Sarita gone through all these humiliations , would have taken the responsibilities of his actions . Problem is people think that if child will come then things will be ok . Even then why so many girls are left with a child to fend themselves and guy can happily marry again . This family mindset is sick , still people want Divya to be in this house , married to Raj . What did Raj do when his father was flaunting his mistress before all his grown up kids . Does he not know whats happening in his house ?Artistic people are more sensitive .
Has this Boss TRP is really done with ?

Originally posted by: Myra.nelly

Communication is key to every problem. These people don't communicate with eachother, Raj is locked up,. he isn't speaking his will or thoughts to anyone, or in past didn't contact divya to know abt her for 10 years, Sarita doesn't say raj doesn't touch her to the family when they accuse her of not having kids..
Yeah maybe all have a past and a reason for behaving this way but so far wasn't shown..maybe they will in the future, hopefully, so the story can have logic.

People already are loosing interest in this drama , what this PH is waiting for ? You are right Myra , communication is the key , when you married that girl , you could have confided with her . Have told her about your reasons and all . Why after marriage , why not before marriage ? why to ruin a girl,s life when it was not her fault ? PH can come out with progressive thoughts about these kind of situations . To ask for the ex-girlfriend to save her marriage and let the fall in love with you , utter crap . Why any girl should go through this humiliation to ask for help . Really love Sarita to leave this mad house . He was such a gallant person who came to rescue the damsel in distress by saying , marry her again . Same happened with CB , may be, may be ..Why not tell their story logically ?

Hey Neerjaa,

@Neerjaa
not quotting as it is becoming large.
Yeah many things we have to guess but it is not our work. I heard that this PH is famous for their unique way of story telling. But in this show I can't find it true.
Yeah it is my question also why Raj is indifferent to his dad's re marriage? But here again come the lack of past description.
We really don't know what happened in those 10 years. May be Raj stood against his dad but we dnt know. And I think that incident also responsible for his presen rock state. One thing to note we saw that Raj didn't behave well with his dad and his 2nd wife Sundari. Have u noticed his dialogue when Sohanlal gave watch as a gift on behalf of sundari? That means he never accepted his dad's pv while Bubbly and Munni were indifferent to it. Shila and Raj's behaviour towards her was similar.
I really hope they show Sohan's remarriage fb and actions of Raj.
Till they show it we can guess that he stood against his dad for that pv but his dad never listened to him or other. He remarried. And it added enough reason to Raj's character to be a silent and rough & tough person who doesn't care for anybody now. By the way I think Sohanlal remarried after Raj Sarita wedding right?
And yeah TRP system finally ended. It will make serials long lasting even with an idiotic storyline. Any PH can continue their show for 3/4 years easily as channels can't pressure them due to low TRP anymore.
Sigh ...

Originally posted by: ruchisahay

Hey Neerjaa,

Love your post!! I too think similarly and am finding Raj very offensive to my taste. I seriously doubt any kind of back story will justify him to me now.

I don't blame Sarita at all - though wish she wasn't so passive about her own life just going with the flow for 10 long years. Wish that she would acknowledge that Raj is the culprit who has wronged her, not Divya and make a move (out of Raj's house and life).

Totally agree with you , thats the reason i liked your thoughts . Agree its fiction but there should be some lines to take responsibility what you are showing . I was not writing ,thinking may get offended , but there is limit . When i advise the people to take nonsense to one limit , then if it crosses the limit , either stand up for your rights or move out . once you take nonsense , other person think its the done thing . Sarita became harsh or screaming fisher wife , to survive in this house . Just are gaps in the story and this all is effecting the show

Originally posted by: SushantFan_Afss

@Neerjaa
not quotting as it is becoming large.
Yeah many things we have to guess but it is not our work. I heard that this PH is famous for their unique way of story telling. But in this show I can't find it true.
Yeah it is my question also why Raj is indifferent to his dad's re marriage? But here again come the lack of past description.
We really don't know what happened in those 10 years. May be Raj stood against his dad but we dnt know. And I think that incident also responsible for his presen rock state. One thing to note we saw that Raj didn't behave well with his dad and his 2nd wife Sundari. Have u noticed his dialogue when Sohanlal gave watch as a gift on behalf of sundari? That means he never accepted his dad's pv while Bubbly and Munni were indifferent to it. Shila and Raj's behaviour towards her was similar.
I really hope they show Sohan's remarriage fb and actions of Raj.
Till they show it we can guess that he stood against his dad for that pv but his dad never listened to him or other. He remarried. And it added enough reason to Raj's character to be a silent and rough & tough person who doesn't care for anybody now. By the way I think Sohanlal remarried after Raj Sarita wedding right?
And yeah TRP system finally ended. It will make serials long lasting even with an idiotic storyline. Any PH can continue their show for 3/4 years easily as channels can't pressure them due to low TRP anymore.
Sigh ...

i have seen many cases in Aggarwal business community where guys do not have any say in the marriage matters ,This house is from the same community i find it very funny in these cases , you can handle the business , decide anything , but when comes to marriage , its parents who take decision . If you love some one , then have to leave the girl in lurch as parents even go to extent of blackmailing , if you do not go along with them . Agree Raj was forced , do not find anything unusual , but you should be sensitive to the girl also , why let her suffer and humiliated daily . I am not bringing Divya here , she is sensitive person . Sarita may be the same kind when she was married but the harsh truth changed her life . This TRP ending can both ways , it used to be channels, advertisers who were after the PH to give results , so there were illogical turns and twists . Before this TRP there used to be content based shows which disappeared after this TRP race .

Neerja, these are valid questions. But even Sarita's passive behavior is not making sense to me. I have known few girls from extremely conservative families who have got divorced after few years of marriage for whatever reasons. In some cases, families were rich and supported them. In some cases, it was not so and yet they did it. Now most of are happily remarried. So India has changed despite the stigma still attached to a divorced girl.