Originally posted by: ruchisahay
Agreed. I am actually having trouble watching the serial due to Raj's dad. I am still watching it as that's my bonding time with my MIL who's visiting us - after my kid sleeps. Yesterday, I was getting up frequently to 'get water', 'check the locks' etc. as I found him very repulsive. Especially his comments on his son's bedroom life- come on who speaks like that to his son and DIL. Wow, if that's the effect PH wanted then they have succeeded.
This PH does have loud characters and too much unnecessary melodrama. But I think it does generate TRPs in the areas used for TRP measures. Last year, I tried to watch couple of their shows in the middle somewhere because the promos suggested some sort of progressive story. But top side characters and some lead characters just turned me off because the story turned out to be quite different than I had expected. Here too I liked the initial concept of people stuck in time and then learning to move on with the help of a person. But like you, I could barely yesterday's show and had to fast forward a lot of it. The father's over the top (OTT) crudeness is repelling me and less said about his second wife, the better. Then they turned Sarita and Divya into caricatures yesterday. Raj of course has never been explained. He is not an unkind person, but his contradictions are not making sense to me unless they logically explain his transformation to such a character. Probably, PH is trying to appeal to a certain section of population that likes such a melodrama and provides them ratings.
Are you pursuing studies after marriage? I work in applied research - and am amused and irritated by the type of stereotyping they do in soaps and movies for academically inclined people. Large glasses, socially awkward, lacking confidence and geeky mannerisms 😊. And being a working Mom, I absolutely hate it that personal fulfillment and ambition are never the goals of heroine - all good Moms are stay at home, all business tycoons are impressed with chirpy women (with a large heart and IQ of 5 year old kid) who can cook and sweep well.
I sometime wonder how all this affects impressionable, young girls - all these extra long eye-locks giving a very unreal picture of romance, glorifying sacrifice instead of trying to find logical solution to problem, selling empty-headedness and too loud as lovable. When I was studying in college (7 years back), in my batch there were 9 girls and 250 guys and as far as I know, the ratio is more or less the same even now.
Ruchi, I agree 100% with all the stereotyping you mentioned above. I had couple of professors in University who were really brilliant mathematicians. They wouldn't even fit any stereotype as they were so artistic too. One of them used to play Sitar regularly and other one was passionate about Guitar. Actually, a lot of girls had crush on the first teacher who was also very good looking. So you can imagine that none of us ever skipped even a single class of his. Some would even go to his office frequently to ask him questions even though they knew the answers.
As far as I am concerned, I am done with studies even though I do like to take a course here and there just to keep my mind sharp. I am actually a Mathematician & a Statistician from an educational background viewpoint. I work in research in Finance area, but couple of years ago, I changed jobs. I now work indirec ly in applied research in the sense that I no longer build econometric models, but validate other people's models and simulations. But I did finish a part of my studies after getting married. I was working full time at that time and also finishing higher level degrees and juggling everything with marriage. I love working and get a lot of personal satisfaction on doing it. So I too dislike how they show anybody pursuing ambition as a selfish person. Yesterday, the dialogues between Divya and Sarita were so regressive and I am not even starting on the father whose scenes I ended up fast forwarding.
What about you? What is your field and what kind of work you do? Are you in Engineering or in Sciences?
What about you? Is your field Engineering or sciences because of the ratios you have mentioned. What kind of work you do.
Agree with your take. The environment in which the Kamla's kids grew up did not teach them to value or respect women in general. But still there's a little nature along with nurture that defined a person. How come all 4 of her kids lack the basic moral fiber to stand up for their Mom. In my hometown, there was this couple (married for over 20 years), where the woman filed a police complaint against her husband for physical violence - it was a mini scandal there. From what I heard, she suffered the same all her married life but got courage only when her son took a stand against his father.
I agree that it is highly unrealistic to show that not even one kid has empathy for Kamla. I would have thought Shiela would be sympathetic to Kamla because she is shown to feel empathy for Sarita. She even takes a stand against Sarita. But she too was shown to hit her mother at her lowest point (very bad behavior in my opinion). How can a girl who can feel sympathy for her bhabi cannot have that for her mother. I can accept the behavior of two younger daughters who seem to take after the father. But Raj and Shiela are not believable in the sense that none of them stands up for Kamla ever.
I have also heard of few kids like that who have supported their mother against the father. In fact, there was a news on CNN just few days ago how this guy from UP, India who worked for years to bail her out as she is in a jail for a crime. She was never tried for the crime but couldn't get out of the jail because she did not have few thousand rupees for the bail. Her whole family - husband and relatives abandoned her. Her son who was born in jail was also taken from her after few years. Yet he worked extra hours to raise money ( I believe he is only 19 or 20). People were so moved by his dedication for his mother that they were offering assistance to him.
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